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The biggest regret in the relationship is that the person who loves you is by your side, but you don't know, and you can't regret it until he leaves.
There is a very famous line in "Journey to the West" directed by Xingye: There was once a sincere love in front of me, I did not cherish it, and I regretted it when I lost it, and the most painful thing in the world was this. If God could give me another chance, I would say to the girl, I love you. If I were to add a deadline to these three words, I would like to say ten thousand years!
This line is quoted by many people who have missed true love, and is used to express regret for losing true love. But love is often so absurd, when that person is around you, you can't feel it, when he is leaving, you know how much you love him, but it is too late.
The movie "Gone with the Wind" tells such a story, the heroine loves a person who does not love her at all, and marries someone she does not love, for the man who loves her, but does not cherish it well, obviously has each other, but personally kills each other's feelings, until the end of regret.
This is a sad story, it is inevitable that people hate the heroine, but this is also the growth trajectory of many women, when they are young and ignorant, they mistakenly fall in love with people they should not love, until they miss the people who love themselves, and only then do they understand what they love in their hearts.
But people often grow up in this way, and only after experiencing it will they know who is true love.
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Scarlett came from a rich family, her father was a farmer, the family owned a land that symbolized wealth, she grew up with no worries, she was pampered and raised, so she grew into a very arrogant, very squeamish princess character.
Because she is very beautiful, she is deeply favored by men, and many men revolve around her, hoping to marry her, and these people are all brothers who are in line with her.
Among those who surrounded her, she loved none of them, but only Ashley, the son of another manor owner, but the man she loved did not love her, but chose the gentle and kind Melanie, and intended to marry her.
Scarlett heard that her sweetheart was going to get married, unwilling to accept this fact, and planned to snatch Ashley over, but the love between them was stronger than gold, and she could not break them up, so she was angry and agreed to the marriage proposal of Melanie's brother Charles.
She married Charles not because she loved him, and she didn't even know much about the man, but simply because he proposed to her when she was sad, and she promised to do it with a gambling element, thinking that it would make Ashley change her mind.
But not long after the marriage, Scarlett became a widow, because Charles died on the battlefield, she became a widow, and at the same time she had no news of Ashley's love, and she had always been determined that Ashley did not love Melanie, he loved her.
She wanted Ashley to change her mind again and again, but not once, but she was still unwilling to give up Ashley.
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In fact, she loves Ashley so deeply, in fact, it is not really love, but an obsession, an obsession with what she can't get, just like a child, for what she wants but can't get, she will feel scratched.
She wanted Ashley to be her husband so much that she didn't care that he had ever been married to Melanie, and as long as he was willing to divorce Melanie, she would follow him and fly away.
She is so willful, wayward, she can not take care of anything else, only thinking about Ashley, people are like this, the more people can not get, the more they feel that the other party is very good.
Later, in order to save her manor, she married a person she did not love, and all she loved was the other party's money, because if she married him, she could pay taxes with him for three hundred dollars, so that she could keep her home.
After getting married, everything was as she wished, not only to keep the manor, but also to start a timber business, making more and more money, and it was in this situation that she still had unrealistic illusions about Ashley, hoping that the other party would be with her.
Her obsession with Ashley is too deep, so deep that she can't see the other party clearly, obviously the other party does not love her at all, and also feels that the other party is duplicitous and deceiving her.
Later, her husband died again, and at this time, Brad, who had always loved her, came to propose to her, and she agreed without much hesitation, because he had money, and he could live a better life with him, and she also had something to rely on.
But this time she got married, like the previous two times, not because of love, but because of ulterior motives, the first time for gambling, the second and third times for money, for a better life.
Such a marriage purpose doomed her and Brad's tragedy.
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Scarlett doesn't love Brad, but Brad loves her.
From the first time they met, Brad confessed to her and vowed to get her heart, of course, at that time Brad did this, not because of love, he saw her for the first time, how can he talk about love or not love.
He knew that Scarlett was very popular with young talents, and his pursuit of Scarlett was only because he wanted to win from it, that is, the common desire of men to win or lose.
Brad's pursuit of her is not like the men who circle around her all day, but appears from time to time, helping her when she needs it, and slowly entering her heart.
Scarlett is very young, she can't see the feelings clearly, and she thinks that Ashley also loves her, so she doesn't look up to Brad. She was as arrogant and rude as ever to Brad, but the more she did so, the more Brad liked her.
Later, Brad was really in love with her, so on the day of her husband's death, he proposed to her, and he was once an unmarried, in order to get Scarlett, he did not hesitate to break his own principles and marry her, because at this time he was already in love with her, he was worried that he would not marry her, and she would find someone to marry.
It's just a pity that Scarlett doesn't understand this, and even if she marries Brad, she still has Ashley in her heart and still wants to elope with Ashley.
Barred was really good to her, everything she wanted, he would satisfy her, spoil her as a little princess, if not really love, how could he do this to her?
She continued to hurt Brad until later, when their daughter died and Melanie left, Brad felt that Scarlett had finally been able to be with Ashley, and their marriage finally came to an end, and Brad left with the suitcase in his hands.
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Scarlett was really too good, and if she hadn't done it, she would have been happy with Brad.
Her biggest mistake was to keep expecting Ashley so much that she kept waiting willingly for him, for him to divorce, for him to leave.
Of course, this mistake was also made by Ashley, because he did not reject her very crisply, making her mistakenly think that she had a chance, and making her mistakenly think that he loved her.
If she had recognized Ashley earlier and known that he did not love her, then she would not have such a wrong expectation, nor would she have taken the wrong step by step.
Because of the expectation of the wrong person, she is completely invisible to the person who loves her deeply, and by the time she really sees her feelings for him, the other person's love has been consumed.
Although In the end, Brad left, but fortunately, Scarlett also saw her own heart, saw her feelings for him, and knew that he really loved himself, and the way forward, I believe that she will not continue to make mistakes.
Scarlett's growth is based on loss, and it is loss that makes her grow, but this is also a place of regret, if she can see Ashley and see her heart sooner, she will not lose the person who loves her deeply.
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Article Illustration | Stills from Gone with the Wind