Some girls are born strong and stubborn, such a personality may make them successful in their careers, but in love, if a woman does not know how to show weakness and is not willing to show her little woman's side in front of her lover, she is likely to rub shoulders with love because of her personality.
In the Novel "Gone with the Wind" by British female writer Margaret Mitchell, the heroine Scarlett is a stubborn person, which allows her to have a never-say-die spirit when she is in adversity, but it also makes her have a bumpy road, and she always can't recognize what she really wants.
In the ignorant girlhood, Scarlett fell in love with the young and handsome Ashley, but Ashley already had a fiancée Melanie, he refused Scarlett's pursuit, under the role of competitiveness, Scarlett in the subsequent journey of life, obsessed with being able to get Melanie's love, but unwilling to face her own heart, missed the person she really loved.
Scarlett's life experience has taught us that in love, being too strong is not a good thing.
First, when encountering the wrong love, we must know how to let go.
Scarlett is the daughter of the owner of Tara Manor, she is not only beautiful, but also lively, and has many suitors around her.
But Scarlett didn't like the ordinary boys, and she had a crush on the young and handsome Ashley, but Ashley already had a fiancée, his cousin Melanie.
Scarlett has a stubborn and competitive personality, she is not willing to give up this relationship easily, she compares herself with Melanie, and finds that she is better than Melanie in terms of looks and origins, so Scarlett runs to confess to Ashley, and she hopes that Ashley can finally choose herself.
However, Scarlett's confession was rejected by Ashley, which made Scarlett very painful, and after she thought about it, she decided to stay by Ashley's side and seek the opportunity to regain her love.
In my opinion, the reason why Scarlett feels pain in love is because her personality is too stubborn, and when she encounters the wrong love, she does not know how to stop the loss in time.
If Scarlett had chosen to let go, take her heart back, listen to her heart, and pursue the love she wanted, when she knew that Ashley had a fiancée and that he did not love himself, perhaps her love road would not have been so bumpy.
Second, marrying someone you don't love because of stubbornness is a tragedy in one's life.
After being rejected by Ashley, Scarlett married Melanie's brother Charles in a fit of rage, just to be able to stay with Ashley until the day he changed his mind.
Soon after, however, war broke out, Charles lost his life in the war, and scarlett's Tara manor was in an economic crisis, and if they could not pay the land tax, Scarlett would lose Tara manor.
In order to be able to keep Tara Manor, Ashley went to ask For the help of Brad, who loved her, but Brad's money had been hidden, and he could not help Scarlett.
On the way back home, Scarlett met her sister's fiancé, who was already a wealthy businessman at the time, scarlett used her own means to make the other party fall in love with herself, and saved the Tara manor as she wished, but soon after, Scarlett's second husband died again, and she fell back into loneliness.
Scarlett's stubborn personality makes her still able to be indomitable and burst out of a strong ability to survive when she encounters adversity, but in the love relationship, her stubbornness makes her unable to face her heart and have a happy love.
Third, not knowing who you really love will only make you rub shoulders with happiness.
Scarlett spun around and finally walked with Brad, who loved her.
Brad said to Scarlett, I know you better than you do, and we are both the same type of people.
Brad and Scarlett's marriage is very sweet, and they both have a lovely daughter together.
However, due to Scarlett's stubbornness, she cannot let go of the regret of not getting Ashley, which makes Scarlett appear half-hearted in this marriage relationship, which makes Brad painful.
In the end, when Scarlett and Brad's daughter died unexpectedly, Brad finally despaired of this love and chose to leave Scarlett.
It was only then that Scarlett understood that the person she loved most in her heart was Brad, and although she could not save Brad at this time, she still said the famous words when she looked at Brad's distant back: Tomorrow is a new day.
The reason why Scarlett's love experience is bumpy is because she never knows who the person she really likes is, and it is precisely under the influence of competitiveness that Scarlett is stubborn, unwilling to get rid of the wrong love, and unable to face her heart and choose the happy love that really belongs to her.
The enlightenment of the novel "Gone with the Wind" is that in love, too strong is not a good thing.
In front of the lover, you must know how to show weakness, and you must properly show your soft side, the other party will understand your needs, and love you with sincerity and practical actions.
The reason why Scarlett's love road is not smooth is because her personality is too stubborn, driven by competitiveness, unable to face her own heart and choose the person she really likes.
If Scarlett knows how to show weakness in love, and knows how to stop losses in time in the face of wrong love, perhaps her love road will be sweeter.
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