Gone with the Wind: Understand the confusion of this love, and you will become the master of controlling love

There are three reasons for falling in love with a person, one is because of appreciation, the other party is in line with their own aesthetics and ideal character settings; second, because they are needed; third, because they are the same kind of soul and confidant of the soul. In these three categories, it is easy to distinguish between the feelings that need to be generated, while the love that comes from appreciation and the soul confidant are not easy to distinguish, especially when the people who come from these two kinds of love appear at the same time, and they will not be able to figure out which is true love.

Scarlett in "Gone with the Wind", the love triangle between her and Ashley and Bred, emotional entanglement stems from this.

Scarlett is actually very lucky, because she is smart and beautiful, very attractive to the opposite sex, she has two kinds of love that are precious and difficult to meet in the world, one is the love that comes from the humanistic ideal, and the other is the love of the soul.

Scarlett herself is a synthesis of contradictions. She was a noble lady, and the education she received shaped her aesthetic and value judgments. Ashley conformed to the value judgments of the education system to which she had been educated, he was knowledgeable, he was polite in temperament, he was polite in his manners, he was upright and orthodox, and there was a slight melancholy, and everything about him was in line with the standards of a gentleman in aristocratic education, a good man in the standard aristocratic aesthetic. A lot of girls admire him and love him. So did Scarlett. Ashley was a dazzling star-like presence for her. However, he was far away from Scarlett. Scarlett didn't really know him, but she looked so beautiful, so in line with the standards of her ideal lover. She loved him madly. But she didn't realize that this standard was given to her by her education, not something she grew in her heart.

Scarlett's identity is that of a noble lady, but Scarlett's soul is not. This is the source of her emotional contradictions.

Her personality is almost the opposite of the ladylike image that her education advertises. In her bones, she is a wild and active, vigorous, willful and brave, bold and selfish, shrewd and independent person. She saw through the hypocrisy and pedantry of aristocratic education and did not care about it at all. But she is also proud and self-respecting, she subconsciously knows that her ideas are not recognized by the upper class, she does not despise the company of the underclass, she looks down on them, she feels that she should be noble, and the noble elegance recognized by society is like Ashley, so she wants to conquer Ashley. The conquest of Ashley is actually a symbol of her proving to society that she is extraordinary, a victory in her conquest of high society, a victory that proves that she is smarter than them, a victory banner of her victory, and she has conquered Ashley, a representative of aristocratic society. This yearning is also the result of her subconscious attempt to cover up the essential cowardice of her rejection by high society.

But Scarlett's aristocratic education did not change her soul, education was powerful for weak or weak souls, but for a shrewd and strong soul like Scarlett, the shaping power was very weak, because the power of Scarlett's soul was far greater than the power of the aristocratic education she received. She saw through the feeble nature of this education, she did not want to be bound by it, and the vitality of her soul was much stronger than those advertised by education.

Therefore, she is more inclined to love Barred in her soul, but in order to maintain her noble social status and maintain her noble social image, she instinctively rejects Brider. The rejection of Brethren is her unavoidable devotion and compromise to secular society, because In secular society, Breod is a shrewd and selfish, not honorable, and a nouveau riche like a nouveau riche. His personality and behavior are not honorable, neither noble, nor flowing.

When Breud first saw Scarlett, she was attracted by Scarlett's demeanor, scarlett went upstairs, and Bredder was under the stairs, staring at Scarlett tightly. Scarlett was frightened by his burning eyes and asked the people around her who Boreed was, and the lady's introduction indicated The social image of Brad. She said: "His reputation is very bad... He was unpopular, he spent most of his time in the North, because the Chester people were reluctant to pay attention to him, he was expelled from West Point, his life was debauched, he had an affair with a girl and did not marry her. It was dark, and he took her alone in a carriage without a guardian, and then he refused to marry her. No, but her reputation was ruined. ”

Breod has a bad image and is not popular, but he is very rich because he is in the arms business. Therefore, the southern aristocratic society did not reject him.

People with the same soul can communicate unconsciously. Although Scarlett consciously rejected Barred, resisted being complicit with him, and wanted to maintain her noble image, whenever there was anything, the first thing she thought of must be Brede, and her soul had recognized him and remembered him, no matter how much her intellect resisted.

The first time they met, they were different. When Scarlett received the news of Ashley's engagement, she was anxious and had to confess to Ashley to prevent him from marrying someone else. The method she uses is contrary to etiquette and wild. Taking advantage of everyone's lunch break, she sneaked out and pulled Ashley to a room, boldly and enthusiastically confessing to Ashley, "I love you!" This was an unashamed act of breaking with etiquette at the time, but Scarlett did it recklessly. Barred was hiding under the table in the house, witnessing all this, and when Ashley left, he walked out. Scarlett felt that Breod's behavior was vulgar and despicable, but in fact, their behavior was the same, and Scarlett's own behavior was the same for the morality of the time.

Scarlett scolds Brethren for not being a gentleman, but in fact she has subconsciously approved of Bredder. After that, when she encountered difficulties, the first thing she thought of was not Ashley, only Barryd. Like Barryd, she is a very strong person who can see the situation clearly and solve problems.

Ashley was knowledgeable, mild-mannered, and a modest gentleman, but he died under his knowledge, faced with reality, and had no adaptability. He is weak and powerless, and the difficulties in real life are all solved by Scarlett to help him.

Ashley fought in the Civil War, and he entrusted his pregnant wife to Scarlett's care. In the midst of the war, Ashley's wife was churning in pain on the delivery bed, everyone was fleeing, the doctor was in the square to rescue the wounded and sick, Scarlett had to deliver Ashley's wife herself, and then find a car to pull Ashley's wife away. Without horses, she thought of Brider. Breud stole a few horses from the enemy and drove his own through the burning enemy-occupied areas, repelling the pursuing enemy soldiers and sending them to safety.

After the war, Ashley returned from the battlefield, unable to survive, and lived on Scarlett's farm with his wife and son, and the family lived on Scarlett's farm to raise them. When Scarlett turned to Ashley for help because she couldn't pay her high taxes, Ashley talked about a bunch of useless philosophical principles and ended up with nothing. Scarlett thought of Brid again and dressed up to find Brad.

She and Barred are people who can see through the situation and adapt quickly to find a way out. Moreover, when worldly values hinder her interests, she, like Brethren, is a person who dares to stand up for herself in spite of worldly criticism. At that time, the exquisite women's morality was to teach their husbands and children at home, and they did not show their faces. In order to survive, Scarlett took her sister's boyfriend, used his funds, opened a timber factory, and drove herself in a carriage to and from the street, which was a big rebellion and non-observance in public opinion at that time, but she didn't care. When the surrounding neighbors accused and mocked her, only Barrett admired her behavior.

Brider knew very well that he and Scarlett were the same kind of people, Scarlett was his confidant, he knew very well what he loved about Scarlett, and he knew what was precious about her, and he loved her soberly and deeply. But Scarlett always resisted and did not admit this love in her heart, just as she resisted the accusations of unruly women around her. She doesn't admit that she's done wrong, she feels better than them all, she still maintains an arrogant posture, refuses to compromise with secular values, and she doesn't admit that she and Brider are in the same group. Then she must resist her inner love for Boreed, and if she admits it, then she is equivalent to recognizing that she is also a vulgar, and she has broken away from the noble aristocratic class and has fallen into the asshole class rejected by the ideology of high society, and she is equivalent to admitting that she is the kind of unruly person that the surrounding public opinion accuses. Her proud heart made her resist acknowledging this love that came from the depths of her soul.

Breud soberly married her. Scarlett actually married Barry because of love, but she ignored this inner voice, thinking that it was because of Berry's money that she married him. After marriage, Brider loved Scarlett very much, and Scarlett always felt that the marriage was flawed, still thinking about the white moonlight Ashley in her heart, she always felt that she should be standing next to Ashley, such a handsome and elegant and respected person. It wasn't until ashley's wife died, ashley's spiritual pillar was gone, it was in its original form, and the whole person collapsed into a skeletonless mud, scarlett recognized the reality, she didn't want to pay for Ashley anymore, or rather, she knew that he was no longer the one who could maintain her image and bring her glory, and others no longer regarded Ashley as a gentleman, his weak nest was seen through by everyone, Scarlett's dream was shattered, and she quickly left.

At this time, her ego stood up, she also recognized herself, her soul was going to stand up, and the love of her soul also came to the front with the obstruction of Ashley. She truly realized, or admitted, that she loved Barrett.

In fact, every woman has an Ashley and Barryd in her heart, one is what she yearns for, one is loved by the soul, and what is chosen in reality is often needed at the time, just like Scarlett, the first choice of marriage is because of gambling, confessing the despair after Ashley. The second marriage was because there was an urgent need for money to pay taxes.

Scarlett's charm is also here, she has responsibility, but also can see the current affairs, seize the opportunity, let herself live well, but also live up to the love of the heart, have the responsibility, in their own survival difficulties, but also raised the beloved Ashley family. When she understood that her true love was only Brethren, she bravely went after it.

Author: Wei Feihong: Contributor, screenwriter. In the colorful world, figure out the yardstick behind the success or failure of life, and show you.