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When I was surfing the Internet, I saw such a hot topic and asked if I would be friends with the other party after confessing that I was rejected? Such questions are like a thousand Hamlets for a thousand readers, and a thousand people have a thousand answers.
However, this thousand kinds of answers can often be summarized into two categories, one is that they will be friends with each other, and the other is that they will not be friends with each other, the difference is the reason behind the choice.
Every day there will be many people confessing to their loved ones, and every day there will be many people who will be rejected, confessing to being rejected is a very sad thing, the most difficult part is after the confession is rejected, and what kind of relationship should be with the other party.
The question raised here should be for the kind of person who was originally a friend, because if two people just know each other, and they are not very familiar, whether to be friends with each other after the confession is rejected is not a big problem, whether it is a friend or not, this choice is relatively simple.
The difficulty lies in those who were originally friends, one of whom has a crush on another person, and it is necessarily difficult to make a decision to confess, because it is feared that if the confession fails, even the friend will not be able to do it.
Of course, there are two reasons for not being friends, on the one hand, the other party may be estranged from each other, and on the other hand, they feel embarrassed and embarrassed to continue to be friends with each other.
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Let's first take a look at what may happen if you continue to be friends with each other after the confession is rejected.
I think the movie "Gone with the Wind" can be a good case study, the heroine Scarlett is deeply in love with Ashley, she is very brave in her feelings, and does not hesitate and tangle, very directly confessed to him at his engagement banquet, of course, was rejected.
Scarlett, who was rejected, did not stop interacting with him from then on, but continued to treat him as her lover, close to each other, which can also be understood as treating each other as friends.
She was rejected, did not die because of this, or entangled with the other party, had great expectations for the other party, felt that the other party would change his mind, would divorce his wife, and then elope with her.
The end result is that it is not until Ashley's wife dies that she truly sees that Ashley does not love herself, and at the same time, Brad, who loves her deeply, chooses to leave her because of his inner wounds.
This is a very likely end to continue to be friends with each other, because most people will have such an obsession with people who can't get it, or they will want to be with each other, and they will not be willing to just be friends.
If you are not willing to only make each other friends, you will definitely have expectations for each other, and even feel that the other party actually likes yourself, which not only delays your youth, but also may miss the person who loves you deeply.
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The above is a possibility to continue to be friends, of course, there is another possibility, that is, to put your feelings for each other in your heart from now on and no longer show them.
This kind of person generally has to pay a lot, because her feelings for the other party have not changed, but she just does not say it again, and is ostensibly happy to be friends with the other party, and the other party may therefore regard her as the best friend, and from then on talk about everything.
In the process of being friends with each other, the other party may fall in love, have an awkward relationship with the object, or have a very happy thing with the object, and share it, then it will be a huge torment and pain for her.
Because the other person was enjoying the happiness she could not enjoy, of course she would feel pain, but she could only bear it silently, because there was no way, after all, it had retreated to the boundary of friends, and drew a boundary between each other, and that boundary could not be crossed under any circumstances.
While being friends with him, while enduring the pain of not getting it, some people may always feel that he is very good because of the existence of this person, and then look down on others, and from then on, the emotional world is blank, empty of a person who can't get it, wasting their youth.
No matter what kind of ending, it is not very good, unless you can be friends with each other at the same time, continue to move forward, should be in love, rather than still secretly in love with each other, otherwise it will be very painful.
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So in general, if the confession is rejected, we generally do not recommend continuing to be friends, unless you are sure that you have no such special feelings between men and women for each other.
Although it may be difficult not to be a friend, it is good to pass the past, keep a certain distance from each other, whether it is still keeping contact information or deleting the other party, as long as you are happy.
Not to be friends with each other, you can not interact with each other from now on, you can also be as a circle of friends like the friend, or do not like, simply do not pay attention to any social dynamics of the other party, because you will not be intentionally difficult to reconcile if you can't see it.
Not being a friend after being rejected is suitable for those who still have each other in their hearts and can't let go of each other, because only in this way will they not be hurt by the relationship and will not feel pain because they can't get it.
So the answer to this question depends on how far you can do it yourself, because not being a friend is entirely based on your personal mood, and at this time you should make a decision based on your personal feelings, as for what the other party will think, that is the other party's business, not your business.
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Article illustration | Stills from "Stealing Hearts"