People with these 3 characteristics are nine times out of ten scumbags

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In this era of fast food love, it seems that it is difficult for us to meet sincere people, and it is difficult to meet a person who is willing to accompany you to boil a small fire and slow stewed porridge.

Most people meet people who meet today and want to fall in love and make a relationship together tomorrow.

A lot of people are together, not because of love. But because of fitting, because of loneliness, inexplicably together, and hurriedly separated.

People who have been hurt in the eyes of the world and in love often have a stereotype of scumbags.

Scumbags seem to be smoking and drinking, fooling around outside. But in fact, people with this habit of life may indeed be "scum" men.

In love, people with the following 3 characteristics, nine times out of ten are scumbags, to stay away.

01

Hot and cold attitude

"Do you sit by the fire and don't feel the warmth?" People who have had a crush experience have heard such a sentence.

If a person loves you, or if you love someone, the other person will feel it more or less.

Don't feel that men are testing your sincerity, self-protection, and wanting you to dominate the development of the relationship.

When you can't feel the other person's like, the other person just doesn't like you.

In fact, when he's passionate about you, it's often when they're bored.

When two people are chatting hotly, you may wish to observe that it is often the other party who is talking about their own things, and when you say their own things, the other party will behave uninterested, or even very impatient.

This only shows that there is no better person around him, and he can only spend time with you.

When the other person finds new fun, the attitude will naturally change, and the enthusiasm level will become lower.

At this time, the more you are suspicious, the more you suffer from gains and losses, and the other party's purpose will be achieved.

With such a person, it is easy for the other party to pull out, because nothing has been paid at all. And you will become suspicious of yourself, deny yourself, and unable to get out of the relationship.

If a person really likes you, he wants everyone in the world to know.

But if you can't feel the love in this relationship, then love often doesn't exist, and he doesn't love you.

02

Always "crying poor" in front of you

Good feelings require a certain material basis, which is beyond doubt. Talking about money has become a necessity for an intimate relationship.

If you are with each other, the other party is always crying with you. His real purpose is actually not to spend money on you, but also to make you keep spending money on him.

Tu Lei once said that even the poorest men want to "show off their wealth" in front of their beloved, because he does not want his beloved to be wronged, and he hopes to do his best to give his beloved a good life.

If a man loves you, instead of crying poor, he is afraid that you choose not to be with him because he is poor.

I once saw a girl online sharing her experience:

Her family is a little better off than her boyfriend, and the two often hang out together when her boyfriend chases her.

Most of the money is made by boys, and gifts are often given to girls. Later, the two people were together, and before the freshness passed, the boyfriend began to cry to her.

For example, when the other party sees her wearing a very expensive down jacket, he will say in a yin and yang manner: "This dress is so beautiful, it's a pity, I can't afford it." ”

At that time, the girl did not realize that her boyfriend was crying poor, thinking that the other party really wanted this dress, so she bought it and gave it to him.

Not long after this incident, my boyfriend began to knock on the side and say to her: "It will be my birthday in two days, remember to prepare a gift for me." ”

Not only that, but even when two people go out on a date, the boyfriend will complain: "Don't come to this kind of place, the consumption is too high, I don't have living expenses." ”

In fact, the store was frequented by her boyfriend when he chased her, and he didn't have a word of complaint at the time.

Later, the boyfriend cried poor under various excuses, and the girl kept giving him gifts and spending money.

Until one day, the girl inadvertently looked at her boyfriend's mobile phone, only to find that the other party had already changed his mind, took her money, and spent it on other girls.

At that time, both of them were students who had not yet worked, but because the girl's family was better, the other party felt that she should pay more, and it was reasonable.

But the disillusionment of this relationship has already begun when the other party began to cry poor.

03

Emotionally unstable and full of negative energy

Life has hit us a lot, and if the people around us are full of negative energy, it is easy to affect our own rhythm.

Yataro Matsuura once said, "It's a great thing to keep warm. ”

Because we need to love life enough, be emotionally stable enough, and want to run to enough things to not feel tired.

For an adult, maintaining emotional stability is one of the most basic things.

The meaning of two people together is to face the difficulties in life hand in hand and bring peace of mind to each other.

If a person continues to have positive energy output, and a person keeps injecting negative emotions, this feeling of tiredness makes it difficult to let this relationship go on.

In fact, most emotionally unstable men have a tendency to "domestic violence".

They will continue to send negative energy to the people around them, from getting angry to dropping things and hitting people with their hands.

Brush video saw such a comment, she said, the first time the quarrel, the other party broke the phone, the second quarrel, slapped her.

She went to investigate her boyfriend's emotional history and found that the people who were with him had been beaten by him.

He has so many girlfriends who can't change, why can you change him?

On a large scale, we can choose better, there is no need to choose a tree to compete. Otherwise, in the end, it is still us who are hurt.

Falling in love should be something that makes us feel happy, and the people we meet should be people who can make us better, rather than torturing ourselves and adding to life.

Therefore, when encountering these kinds of men mentioned above, if you can have words, try to stay away.

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