As a person grows older, whether it is temperament, experience and inner needs, compared with when they are young, they will undergo earth-shaking changes, and at this time they will often be more mature than when they were in their early 30s.
Similarly, when women enter middle age, many times what they want has changed dramatically. Often women in this age group, most of the most want men to give, is no longer money.
When women reach middle age, they often don't want money
Since my sister Wang downstairs divorced her husband, although she has found several boyfriends, she later felt that it was inappropriate and did not register again.
Many times I will ask Sister Wang, why not find a suitable man to remarry?
Sister Wang told me that these men actually do not understand what she wants, in fact, what Sister Wang wants is very simple, that is, the company of men, has reached middle age, and people are more and more afraid of loneliness.
And Sister Wang, what she needs most is a man who can accompany her, and also needs a man who can give her a sense of security.
In the last relationship, although the middle-aged man earned a lot of money and often bought a variety of beautiful clothes for Sister Wang, he often used the excuse of busy work to snub Sister Wang, so that Sister Wang did not have a little sense of security and worried that she could not give her a home.
Middle-aged woman, what she needs most
1. The silent companionship and care of men
In a complete family, both people have entered middle age, although the husband's income is more than when he was younger, but the husband and wife have been together for a long time, and the husband will inevitably become impatient with his wife's small temper and "temperament".
In fact, although life is getting better and better, what a woman who is born emotionally needs most is the care of her husband, and when she is wronged, her husband can silently accompany herself.
For a woman whose husband and wife are divorced, she needs to have a man silently by her side when she is lonely and helpless, guarding herself and caring for herself.
2. There is a need for a sense of belonging and security
After entering middle age, most people often have a lot of receipts in the workplace, and income is no longer a problem.
And a divorced woman, also after entering middle age, does not care about money. They are often at this age, and they need a man to be able to give her a home and give her a sense of belonging and security.
Everyone has a day of aging, and after entering middle age, both the skin and the body will age rapidly, but I can't wait to meet a good man who accompanies her through the second half of her life before she is completely old.
3. Mutual sincerity and non-retention
It is understandable that most of the married families are sincere with each other. However, in most second-marriage families, two people are married for the sake of marriage, and couples have experienced the harm caused by a marriage, and it is inevitable that they will keep "heart eyes" for each other.
So we often see that in the relationship of the second marriage, the two people will rarely be really honest with each other, and they are more inclined to keep some of their own secrets than the original match.
However, this kind of insincere feelings are very tiring for women, the days are tasteless, the pillow person does not really love himself, and the feelings are like chewing wax.
What should we give to middle-aged women?
Be a man who can accompany her around and guard her
Although women have entered middle age, despite experiencing the storms of the world, although they have become accustomed to harm, they are still vulnerable.
I hope to have a man to accompany me, even if it is just to accompany me silently, so when they are helpless, give her a shoulder to lean on and give them some more care.
Let them feel that if they really have the day when they lie in the hospital bed, they can have a man by their side.
▲ Treat each other frankly, do not deceive, do not hide
People who have already experienced a marriage will inevitably have reservations in the second marriage. But in fact, since it has been decided that it is not as good as a second marriage, it should also be honest with each other without reservation.
After all, what woman wants the man next to her pillow to cheat on herself and not give herself a real heart?
Feelings are really not an easy thing, although material is the premise of love and marriage, but when a woman enters middle age, often the most important thing is not money.
If you are in the middle of marriage, or are about to prepare for a second marriage, remember that these middle-aged women need to meet them, they will love you more.