"Know it or not" has a line: In the homes of people with many children, parents need a bowl of water to be flat in order to have a quiet home.
However, in real life, the more children of the family, the more difficult it is for parents to achieve a bowl of water. Even in many cases, parents will be justified and biased in favor of the child they love.
In the face of eccentric parents, the biological children have no choice but to accept it. But this trick is not good for the daughter-in-law. After all, the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law do not have any blood relationship, and the family kidnapping the daughter-in-law cannot ask the other party to give the mother-in-law a pension, unless the mother-in-law has been kind to the daughter-in-law, otherwise everything is exempt from discussion.
01, when the mother-in-law is strong, help the daughter-in-law to take the child
Chen Mo did not expect that when he was young, he was strong and strong to help his daughter-in-law with his grandson,But in his old age, when he was old and sick, he came to find his eldest daughter-in-law to serve the elderly, and he also called it a beautiful name: pension should be the obligation of the eldest son and eldest daughter-in-law.
The selfishness and righteousness of the mother-in-law made Chen Mo almost burst into a scolding. When she and her husband got married, her mother-in-law sent them away with a sentence of "no money". Later, the little uncle bought a house, but the mother-in-law took out 200,000 yuan, and Chen Mo was so angry that he almost divorced his husband.
Later, Chen Mo gave birth to a daughter and asked her mother-in-law to help take care of Yuezi and the child. The mother-in-law was unwilling and refused on the grounds that she wanted to take care of her grandson. But at that time, the sons of the little uncle's family were more than three years old and could go to kindergarten.
The mother-in-law's eccentricity once broke Chen Mo's heart. After that, no matter how helpless he was, Chen Mo almost never asked his mother-in-law for help. It's not that she's competitive, but she knows very well that her mother-in-law won't hurt her at all, and naturally won't come to help her.
Hindered by the mother-in-law's various eccentric practices, the relationship between Chen Mo and the in-laws gradually cooled down. Except for the New Year's holiday, she usually rarely takes her children back to her in-laws' house. Even if I went back to my in-laws' house, I only stayed in a hurry for half an hour, and I didn't even eat food and left.
02, when the mother-in-law is weak and sick, find the eldest daughter-in-law for the elderly
I thought that the mother-in-law took the child at the little uncle's house and lived in one place each, and the two mother-in-law and daughter-in-law could also get along with each other. But Chen Mo's abacus eventually turned into a vacuum after the two sons of the little uncle gradually grew up to study and go to primary school.
The two sons of the little uncle were raised one after another, and the task of the mother-in-law was completed. Before she could catch her breath and recuperate, her sister-in-law proposed to send her mother-in-law to her hometown, saying that the two children had grown up, and the family house was small, and there was no way to live so many people.
Although the mother-in-law is sad about the sister-in-law's crossing of the river and demolishing the bridge, she also has her own wishful thinking, the daughter-in-law does not leave anyone and does not provide for the elderly, and she will go to the eldest daughter-in-law's home to retire. Anyway, in the countryside, the pension of parents is generally responsible for the eldest son and eldest daughter-in-law.
This is how the mother-in-law intended, and this is also the way it is. The sister-in-law's front foot wants to drive people away, and the mother-in-law's back foot packs up her luggage and goes to the eldest son's house. When his mother-in-law came to the door, Chen Mo was still in the dark.
Looking at his mother-in-law's old and sickly appearance, Chen Mo's heart continued to sink. The mother-in-law is also very discerning, and in front of her eldest son, she cries about the filial piety of her daughter-in-law. When Chen Mo's husband was soft and compromised, he changed his face and asked Chen Mo to serve himself, saying that he was old and sick.
03, the mother-in-law's wishful thinking failed
The way the mother-in-law cried and cried made Chen Mo's husband not bear it, and advised her not to worry, after all, it was his parents. Chen Mo didn't want to worry about it, but when he thought of the grievances and heartache he had suffered over the years when he got married and had children and resigned to take his children, he couldn't help but hold his own grievances.
The mother-in-law, who did not have any kindness to herself, was young and strong, and went to bring two children to her daughter-in-law. When she was weak and sick in her old age, but she thought of moral kidnapping her to serve in the old age, there was no door.
After all, Chen Mo still couldn't force himself to agree, and his mother-in-law had never experienced and felt the pain of suffering for so many years, let alone felt empathy. Now let her ignore the previous suspicions, accept her mother-in-law to come to the family to retire, even if it is a divorce, she can't do it.
Chen Mo took out 5,000 yuan to her husband and showed him a showdown, either we divorced, or you gave your mother 5,000 yuan and sent her back to her hometown for the elderly. My husband looked at the 5,000 yuan that had been hard stuffed and was very embarrassed.
But Chen Mo couldn't manage so much, she just didn't want her mother-in-law's wishful thinking to succeed. When she was lonely and helpless, how could her mother-in-law ever feel sorry for her? True heart for true heart, the mother-in-law has no heart for her, why should she ask for trouble?
Today's Topic:
Do you support Chen Mo's practice of sending his mother-in-law away?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!