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Marriage must be responsible, especially after having children, both husband and wife must actively assume their due responsibilities and create a good growth environment for children. If you feel that you can't afford to take on the responsibilities of marriage, then don't get married and don't harm others.
Those who don't take responsibility in marriage don't deserve happiness and won't have happiness. Life is all about planting beans to get beans, planting melons to get melons, what you plant when you are young, and what you harvest when you are old.
Women understand women's minds best, women's basic needs in marriage are similar, and no wife does not want to be loved and cared for by her husband. When many women get married, it is because of the love and care of men that they follow men into the door of their in-laws' homes.
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The father-in-law, who abandoned his wife and son for 18 years, suddenly came home one day, and the daughter-in-law was very surprised. The son persuaded the mother to forgive the father, but the mother resolutely disagreed, and the daughter-in-law was very supportive of the mother-in-law.
This happened to Jia Yibei's family, she had always thought that her father-in-law was dead, so she was surprised when her father-in-law suddenly returned three years after she and her husband were married! Let's hear the story of their family.
Self-narrator: Jia Yibei
Age: 28 years old
Occupation: Clerk
City: Jinju
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When my husband and I got married, I thought my father-in-law had already died. Because when we were in love, I asked him about his father-in-law, and he said in a bad voice: "I died early!" ”
At that time, I thought that this was the case, and my husband might be complaining that my father died too early, so I didn't ask any more questions. The husband was brought up by the mother-in-law, and in order for the son not to be wronged, the mother-in-law did not remarry repeatedly.
The mother-in-law is a hard-working, but also a kind heart. The first time I saw her, she held my hand lovingly, smiled and said, "Thank you for being with my son, I like you very much, and I will give my son to you later." ”
Later, my husband and I got married, and the marriage was handled by my mother-in-law and my parents. After marriage, we lived with my mother-in-law, who was working in a factory. Every day when she came home from work, she did housework, and when I went to help her, she always told me to leave it alone and let me do my own thing.
But I will still help my mother-in-law to do housework together, and my mother-in-law is particularly happy and very good to me. The year after we got married, I gave birth to my daughter, and my mother-in-law quit her job to help us with the baby at home.
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Three years after my husband and I got married, one Sunday I was teasing my children and my mother-in-law was choosing dishes when a man suddenly came knocking on the door. After I went to open the door, the man walked in with a self-talking voice, with the posture of a master. After the mother-in-law saw him, her expression was surprised and angry, which I thought was very strange.
At this time, the husband just came back, and the mother-in-law wanted to drive the man away, but was stopped by the husband. I learned that this man was my father-in-law, who had been away from home for 18 years. He ran away with a good woman when my husband was only 11 years old.
My mother-in-law told me that her marriage to her father-in-law was decided by both parents, and they had not met several times before marriage. After getting married, his father-in-law ate and drank outside every day, and he also picked flowers and weeds everywhere, and the money he earned was spent by him, and he didn't take a penny from the family at all.
At that time, the mother-in-law also thought about divorce, but after the divorce, she did not even have a place to live, and her mother-in-law's family still had a brother-in-law, and her parents' house was for her brother-in-law. The child is still so young, if the mother-in-law is wandering around alone with the child, the mother-in-law is reluctant to let the child suffer with her.
The mother-in-law's parents and in-laws both advised the mother-in-law to be patient, saying that when a man was young, he was greedy, and in a few years he would return to the family if he played enough. The mother-in-law has been patient, but the father-in-law has not changed in the slightest, and he does not go home every day. When the child was 11 years old, the father-in-law met a woman from out of town and went to a foreign country with this woman.
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After the father-in-law left, he never returned, and the mother-in-law thought he was dead. The mother-in-law does not want to get married again, she is afraid that the children will be wronged after remarriage, so it does not matter whether they divorce or not. Moreover, the father-in-law disappeared, the divorce was not easy to handle, and the mother-in-law never went through the divorce procedures.
Unexpectedly, now the father-in-law suddenly appeared, and in law, the mother-in-law and the father-in-law are still a legal couple. The mother-in-law could not forgive her father-in-law and insisted that he leave immediately, saying that he was not welcome at home, but the father-in-law did not leave.
At that time, after the father-in-law left with the woman from out of town, the two people mixed up. Now that the father-in-law is in poor health and has no money, the woman dumped him. The father-in-law remembered his wife and children, so he contacted his son and wanted to come back to live. The son was also angry with him, but he was the father after all, and the son agreed to consult with his mother.
My husband didn't know how to talk to his mother, so he dragged on for a long time, and he still didn't tell his mother. My father-in-law couldn't wait, so he ran to our house by himself and said that he had come home to live. The mother-in-law firmly disagreed and demanded that he leave immediately, saying that this was not his home.
The mother-in-law said with tears that this house was built after a lifetime of struggle, and her father-in-law did not have a house at all. The house they had married was built by their mother-in-law's in-laws. Later, the in-laws died one after another, and the house was so broken that the mother-in-law asked someone to demolish the house and rebuild the current new house.
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The mother-in-law did not agree to the father-in-law living in, the husband felt that the father-in-law was his father after all, he could not ignore it, and the father-in-law insisted on living in. For a time, our family quarreled, and my husband defended my father-in-law and asked my mother-in-law to forgive my father-in-law. The mother-in-law resolutely did not forgive her father-in-law, and she became isolated and helpless.
The mother-in-law cried and said that she had worked hard to raise her son, but the son stood on the side of the father-in-law, who had not raised his son for a day, and the mother-in-law was very cold. I can understand my mother-in-law's pain, so I stand on the side of my mother-in-law, and if I don't defend my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law will die of sadness.
I made it very clear to my husband that I also didn't agree with my father-in-law living in because I looked down on such irresponsible men. If the husband has to let the father-in-law live in, then we will divorce. If my husband is also as irresponsible to the family as my father-in-law, then in the future I will be like my mother-in-law and will never forgive my husband.
Because of my insistence, my husband could only let my father-in-law go, and my father-in-law scolded and grinned. Later, how my husband arranged his father-in-law, my mother-in-law and I did not ask.
After my father-in-law left that day, my mother-in-law, while shedding tears, told me that she should keep a close eye on my husband. I only then understood why my mother-in-law usually told me to control my husband's money, saying that if men have spare money in hand, it is easy to go out to eat, drink and have fun, and they do not go home, and it turns out that my mother-in-law is afraid that my husband is like my father-in-law.
epilogue:
When men are young, they are irresponsible for their families, and when they are old and sick, they think of their wives and children. But after a woman's heart is broken, it is not warm, and a woman who is completely dead to men is unlikely to take care of men with all her heart.
The suffering that should have been suffered by the husband and wife together was eaten by the woman, and when the fruit was harvested, the man wanted to pick the fruit, which was not such a good thing. Only when people pay, they can gain, and no one should think of getting it for free.
It is the duty of children to be filial to their parents, but the rights and duties are equal. Parents raise their children to grow up, children give their parents pensions to the end, filial piety, so that it is fair, people are mutual.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are both women, and women can understand women better. The mother-in-law loves the daughter-in-law as a daughter, and the daughter-in-law treats the mother-in-law as filial piety as a mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law will love each other and the family will be happy and harmonious.
Author: A creator in the field of emotions, focusing on various issues in the field of emotions, welcome to pay attention. Life has warmth because of love and love, let us grow in love, and spend every day in true feelings.