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In the traditional concept, many people have only one purpose of having children, that is, to pave the way for the elderly. Parents take out their savings for their sons to marry wives and have children, sons and daughters-in-law do their best to serve their in-laws, and both sides are grateful for each other's efforts, and the days will be harmonious and happy.
However, with the development of the times and the improvement of women's social status, the thinking of many mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law has also changed.
In order to have a more comfortable old age, some mothers-in-law began to refuse to help their sons and daughters-in-law with their grandchildren, and this attitude of "giving up" also made the daughters-in-law release harsh words: Since I do not help with the baby, I will not give you a pension!
In the face of this kind of mother-in-law contradiction caused by the problem of bringing a baby, the mother-in-law in the new era does not seem to mind, because legally speaking, although the daughter-in-law has no obligation to support the in-laws, the son must give himself a pension.
Therefore, more and more elderly people have also begun to "wake up": we only rely on our sons for the elderly, not on our daughters-in-law!
The new concept of old-age care is sought after, and the elderly rely on their sons for the elderly, is this statement reliable?
Not long ago, an aunt posted a photo of her "girlfriend group" on the Internet.
The aunt confessed that the people in the photo are mother-in-law, as elderly women in the new era, they will not take grandchildren at home, the rest of their lives are not long, and they just want to keep their time to themselves.
In the picture, every aunt wears sunglasses and wears fashion, and a group of people walking together is a beautiful landscape.
In the comment area, many netizens praised these energetic aunts, but some people also questioned: the mother-in-law only cares about enjoyment, refuses to take her grandchildren, and does not expect her daughter-in-law to serve when she is old and lying in bed.
Below this comment, someone replied: The son can give the pension on the line, and the current mother-in-law does not rely on the daughter-in-law at all.
It can be seen through the comment area that in the face of the daughter-in-law's practice of tying the pension with the baby, the attitude of the elderly is also very clear: only rely on the son and not on the daughter-in-law.
So from a realistic point of view, is this new type of pension concept reliable?
According to the relevant provisions of the Civil Code, adult children are legally obligated to support their parents, and if the parents lose their ability to work or have financial difficulties, the children need to pay the parents for support.
However, the daughter-in-law and the in-laws, the son-in-law and the in-laws are not biological, so there is no legal support relationship between them.
Legally speaking, this new concept of old-age care is feasible, but emotionally speaking, the idea of the elderly "only relying on their sons and not their daughters-in-law" has been questioned by many netizens.
"Too idealistic, now many are male and female, when the elderly need to be taken care of, many husbands will persuade their wives to help them share the pressure of old-age care."
"It is impossible to rely on a daughter-in-law at all, and no matter how filial a son is, it is impossible for a daughter-in-law to be careful, and they still need to work to earn money."
"I am a mother-in-law, and I am willing to help my daughter-in-law's little family when she needs help the most, first with a mother-in-law and then with a daughter-in-law.
" It is okay to rely only on the son to provide for the elderly, but in this case, most people's small families are not harmonious, so as parents, it is better to have more love and care for their children."
If you want a happy and harmonious family, parents and children should respect and understand each other
In life, parents should receive the return and support of their children, this is the inheritance of filial piety, it should not be kidnapped by any conditions, when parents raise their children to adulthood, they certainly have the right to pursue a free and happy old age.
Of course, if parents give up their original free old age in order to help their children, the children should be grateful for this and should not respond to the efforts of their parents and in-laws with a natural attitude.
Whether it is daughter-in-law and in-laws, or son-in-law and father-in-law and mother-in-law, they should respect and understand each other, after all, people get along with each other in exchange for sincerity, rather than calculating and hostile.
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Daughter-in-law is not obliged to support her in-laws, and she relies on her son for the elderly, do you think this concept is realistic? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area!
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