The man you fall in love with, whether you can entrust it for life depends on four details

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Don't think that it is good for a man to be good to you, but in fact, this lowers your mate selection criteria, and even encounters a scumbag who hurts you.

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In life, many women believe that choosing a partner is mainly based on whether the man is good or not.

As a result, after some women find that men are good to themselves, they no longer consider others, do not consider whether he is worthy of entrusting for life, and do not consider his future development.

But in fact, choosing a suitable partner, just to figure out his goodness to you is not enough.

If he is not motivated, just good for you, then the future situation is likely to be that you will live a hard life with him.

Moreover, in a relationship, the other party should be good to you should be the most basic criterion. If he can't even be nice to you, then you don't have to be with him.

But being nice to him doesn't mean he's a good partner. In the future, he will also have a hard time bringing you the happiness you want.

Therefore, whether the man you fall in love with can be entrusted for life depends on four details.

01

Respect your partner

Director Ang Lee once said: "In marriage, more important than love is respect." ”

To see if he is the right partner, you must see if he respects women.

If a man is always very arrogant, or has a very serious machismo, it means that he will not respect women after marriage because he always puts himself in a very high position.

He will think that no matter who he marries, he is wronged himself, and if he is single, he will find better in the future. The girl who married him had to be grateful to Dade because he didn't think you deserved him at all.

Marry a man who does not know how to respect, and after marriage, the man will definitely put himself in a high position, and always let you do this and that, and take your efforts for granted.

Because he will put you in a position of inferiority to himself, he will have this attitude towards you. So how can you be happy with him? He doesn't treat you equally, much less as you.

I once saw a girl crying on the Internet, she and the boy spent several years together, for each other eight times, but still in exchange for the result of being broken up.

The reason for the breakup is that the boy thinks that his girlfriend is not worthy of the life of a rich man.

Because he does not respect women, even if he has deep feelings for you and has love, then he will still not recognize your value.

Never acknowledging your worth, not seeing your excellent man, and simply not living with you wholeheartedly.

02

Be responsible

If respect between partners is a prerequisite, then a sense of responsibility must be a "stability maintenance tool" in marriage.

Because people with a sense of responsibility will always work hard for your life, find ways to promote and raise salaries, is to use their own hands to give you a good living environment.

On the contrary, those men who have no sense of responsibility, eat and lazy every day, only want to play games with their heads down, and never focus on making money. For the future, he does not have any ideals and fighting spirit.

In the TV series "Ideal City", Zhang Xiaobei is such a man, he only knows how to play games after work every day.

Never think about making more money, never think about the future of life. As a result, he and his girlfriend lived in a low-rent house, not even a washroom, and had to go to the public bathroom to brush their teeth and wash their faces.

Living with this kind of man, her girlfriend Hongmei does not feel happy, on the contrary, she only feels depressed.

So, remember not to be with men who don't have a sense of responsibility, and in the short term, there's nothing wrong with that. But in the long run, he will not work hard, nor will he be motivated, and no matter how thick the family foundation is, he will be gnawed away.

In the end, the life between you will also go downhill little by little.

03

There is a sense of proportion

This point is more focused on whether the other party actively distances itself from the opposite sex.

After all, you'll be with him forever in the future, and you'll definitely care how loyal he is to himself.

But human nature has always liked the new and tired of the old, every time you encounter a new opposite sex, if you are too close, you will definitely have feelings, which is not something that everyone can control.

So, in order not to generate unnecessary feelings, most men will take the initiative to keep their distance from the opposite sex.

I don't talk too much about personal topics with the opposite sex, and even the number of times I talk to each other is countless, except for questions about work, I rarely talk at other times.

However, those men who have no sense of proportion, even if they have entered marriage and encounter other members of the opposite sex, never consider the feelings of their partners, and always get too close to the opposite sex.

When there is nothing to do, make small talk with each other, talk about each other's lives, or talk about some more intimate topics.

Saying more, two people will naturally become ambiguous, and even produce feelings. The fundamental reason why all this happens is because men have no sense of boundaries, so they will like other women.

Therefore, for the sake of the future, if he does not have a little sense of proportion in the opposite sex, then it is necessary to consider separation.

Even if he can't split his legs now, he won't be single-minded in the future, and it is very likely that he will betray his feelings.

04

Progress together

Qualified partners will not blindly follow each other. Instead, he will reason with the other person when they make mistakes.

Instead of turning a blind eye to her mistakes, continue to let her go down this detour.

For example, if a girl is trying to prepare for an exam and wants to be lazy during the study process, the man should come out and stop her.

Or the girlfriend promised her boss to turn in the report before the deadline, but in the end she began to procrastinate and was unwilling to do it.

Or maybe she's in the relationship, always talking about breaking up, or always saying something hurtful that makes the intimate relationship crack.

Usually at this time, men will speak out directly and let you change the bad shortcomings, which is what partners should do, principled pampering.

He'll be nice to you within reason, but if you do something wrong, he'll point it out to you.

In the process of correcting mistakes again and again, you will also grow slowly, and two people will work together to make this relationship last.

Therefore, when looking for a partner, you must find a partner who can make you progress, rather than blindly doting on you and even "killing" you. It's not love, it's control.

Over time, you will get worse and worse, and your gap will get bigger and bigger, and maybe he will start to dislike you. When he has no feelings for you one day, he will even dump you directly.

Therefore, don't think that it is good for a man to be good to you, in fact, this lowers your mate selection criteria, and even encounters a "scum" man who hurts you.

In addition to being good to you, men can do the above 4 points to be a really suitable partner.

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