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After reading too many romance novels, I found that the ending of those novels is without exception, either smoothly together, marriage and children; or two people separated because of some things, and finally broke the mirror and reunited.
And this type of novel is also the favorite of many people.
But in reality, it is not as perfect as the novel, too many feelings are regrettably separated in the end, like each other, but can not be together.
As Zhang Ailing said: "I thought that love can fill the regrets of life, but what creates more regrets is love." ”
There are too many men and women who have liked but are not together.
If you are also at this stage, deeply in love with each other but can not be together, do three words, is the best result.
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First word: light
Reality is not a TV series, there is not so much happiness, more is love and can not be, ask for fruitless.
Like a pair of good friends I know around me, the two of them have been together since the third year of junior high school, and they were not in the same school for three years in high school, and the two of them persevered.
After four years of college, not in a city, one in Chengdu, one in Xi'an, two people also persevered.
In the blink of an eye, after graduating from college, the two people had different ideas, the girls stayed in their hometowns to work, and the boys went to Beijing to work.
The two people's work has also become busier and busier, and they can contact each other at first, but as time goes on, they talk less and less. In the end, the girl said to break up.
During the time when they first broke up, the girls were very sad, living a very decadent life every day, and even suffering from mild depression.
After all, eight years of feelings, how many days and nights, after the breakup, it is impossible to say that you put it down.
Although her friends around her were also trying to persuade her, she still couldn't get out of the shadows.
It can be seen that feelings are like this, obviously loving each other in their hearts, but because of realistic reasons, they finally have to say that they are separated from each other.
Even if you are sad in your heart and unwilling to be reconciled, how long you have been together in the past, in the end, you can only say goodbye to each other.
After all, if there is a choice, no one wants to go to the step of breaking up, but since this is the case, the only thing that can be done is to adjust themselves.
Try to look down on the feelings that used to be, like the girl I mentioned above, after a year of "torture", she finally came out.
Some time ago, she met a new boy and successfully started a new relationship.
Since you can't have past feelings anymore, try to look down on them. Treat the memories of the past as a passing cloud, and look forward, so as not to affect the future happiness.
In fact, as long as you change your mindset, you can successfully be relieved.
You must understand that your entanglement really has no meaning, and only by not nostalgic for the past can life find new excitement.
Second word: busy
Some time ago, my friend was once very anxious because of life problems, and he kept thinking about it every day and worrying about it constantly.
Later, because of her work, she needed to work overtime non-stop, working more than ten hours a day. When she finally didn't have to work overtime, she unexpectedly found that she was not anxious.
In fact, the same is true of feelings, when we feel pain, often because we think too much. Blindly remembering the past, I always complained, of course, this is also because I can't put it down.
Behind these behaviors, it is only because there are too few things to do and too much time to do nothing.
When you shift your focus, put all your attention on work, or be busy with other things, you will forget about those unhappy things unconsciously.
It's like a case I was exposed to earlier, there was a girl, when she was in graduate school, her boyfriend split his legs.
Although she chose to break up, she was very sad afterwards. In order to get out of the pain quickly, she spent all her time studying.
Every day I wake up early to memorize English words, and I review my homework before going to bed at night. Because of the long-term effort, she was not only admitted to graduate school, but she found that she unconsciously forgot about each other.
Thinking about the other party's leg splitting again, although her heart was still a little wavering, she was no longer so sad.
There's an old saying that everything is the best arrangement.
Since you can't be together, Maybe God is telling you in this way that he's not a good person.
Instead of forgetting, it is better to keep yourself busy in order to cure all heart diseases.
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The third word: put
Anyone who wants to let go of someone they love but can't love is a difficult journey.
Because this is not only to let go of a person, but also to let go of the past efforts, to let go of the past thoughts, and the heart that has loved him for a long time.
In the movie "Roman Holiday", Princess Anne, because she is too eager for freedom, sneaks out of the mansion without others noticing, and ends up sleeping on the side of the road, just when the reporter Joe met her and took her home.
The next day, Joe took Annie through Rome for a few days, and in the process of playing, the two people developed feelings for each other.
But Unlike Joe, Anne has a princess mission, and she knows that even if she loves each other, she can't give up her responsibilities.
So in the end, she still hid her feelings for Joe and ruthlessly chose to leave, and Joe also knew Annie's unspeakable secret, and finally took the initiative to let go of her hand.
Two people also have feelings for each other, and have loved each other, but in the end, the two people also let go of their feelings, they did not make a lot of trouble like some couples, even if they love again, they will break up peacefully.
Then, let the relationship be each other's fondest memories.
In fact, there are many things in life that are fruitless. But at first, we didn't know it, thinking there would be a desired ending.
In the end, after knowing the true result, we were disappointed and eclipsed.
But the more you care, the more painful it is, which not only will not change anything, but will make yourself worse and worse.
Therefore, only by really letting go can we have the energy to face new feelings and meet new people.
Because we already have regrets, let's not create more regrets. From now on, live your life and find new feelings.
Feelings are like water, cold and warm self-knowledge, since we can't change the result, then change ourselves, a person can also keep the joy.
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