Men do this, seemingly caring about you, but in fact have changed their minds

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Women are not afraid of the ups and downs of the future, afraid that all the ups and downs are given by men.

—— sammy

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The famous psychologist Jung once said: "Lies are often wrapped in a sweet coat that makes it impossible to distinguish." ”

Everyone is willing to listen to good words, especially in feelings, boys' love words are always easily taken seriously by girls.

Even if the onlookers can see clearly, want to communicate with the girl, and want to wake her up, it has no effect.

If these sweet words come out of the mouth of a good man, it is still a good thing, at least he will not easily fail the girl.

But if this is said from the mouth of the "scum" man, it will be difficult to do, and in the end it will not only be ruthlessly abandoned, but even be hurt by a lot of holes.

Therefore, what women can do is to protect themselves in their feelings, even before the man they love the most, they must maintain enough sanity.

Many times, men seem to care about you, but in fact, they have changed their minds, such as the following performance.

01

Always advise you to be frugal

In life, too many men are very concerned about profit, but at first, they will not show it.

But as time goes on, all his thoughts will always be hidden in front of you.

In order to make yourself a little more profitable, he will let you be a little frugal in your life and save a little bit of everything.

For example, he will make you a little more virtuous, unnecessary skin care products do not need to be bought, unnecessary clothes do not need to be bought, let you save money for this family, save money for the future.

For example, if you buy a few new clothes or new accessories, he will look sad and say that his mother has not bought anything new, and even if he buys it, it is a discount.

For example, seeing that you have bought skin care products, he will say that there is no need, and that women naturally do not apply powder to be really beautiful, and even praise you crazy about your plain face.

Over time, many women will think that they really don't need these, which shows that you have been tricked by men.

On the other hand, men don't let you spend money, let you be frugal, but they spend more than anyone else, and they have to buy big brands of clothes, even cigarettes must be smoked for twenty or thirty.

If not, he would rather not buy or smoke than buy something cheap.

You are together, he is always extra generous to himself, but he is very stingy with you, double-standard excessive.

And the reason he does this is because you are in his heart, not particularly valuable, think you do not deserve better.

Or think that you should only wash and cook at home with children, there is no need to go outside, and there is no need to dress up.

You work at home and he can live comfortably. He's just for his own enjoyment, and he's also reluctant to make you prettier and better.

On the contrary, the person who loves you will never let you be too frugal, but let you buy whatever you want, will not make you think too much, and everything will come to you.

Because he is in his heart, putting you in a very high position, even more important than his own interests, so it will not be painful to spend money for you.

02

Always let you go outside and get together with friends

After two people determine the relationship, they will take the initiative to restrain themselves, even if they are friends with good relations, the frequency of contact is no more frequent than before.

The reason is not that there is a problem with the relationship with friends, but because there are people around who are more important than friends, plus they already have people they love, and they have more responsibilities to bear.

Therefore, it is destined not to go out with friends like before, and there is not so much time to spend with friends.

But some men will encourage you, let you go out with friends more, don't worry about things at home, talk to friends, and you can help with things in the future.

Many women will think that men are very caring and know how to care about themselves. But in fact, men seem to be doing this for you, but in fact, for their own sake.

Because he doesn't want to be managed by you all the time, he wants to find something for you to do so that you don't focus on him.

He can take advantage of this time to go out and do what he wants, such as knowing other members of the opposite sex. Because if you go out with him or put your energy into the house. Then the little nine-nine in his heart, you can naturally guess.

Not only that, but you will find that when you go out to party with friends and come home, the house is still like that, all the work is waiting for you to do, he is still the same as before, a handshake.

It is precisely because he has ulterior motives and wants to separate you that he will use this method.

On the contrary, the person who loves you will also encourage you to be more social and know more people outside, but he is more willing to go with you.

Or when you go out, take the initiative to take on the responsibilities of the family, do housework, and clean up the house.

The person who loves you will not count you, and will make you live more freely and be a better version of yourself.

03

Never help you make decisions

Since two people are together, they are bound to have problems and disputes.

But the bedside quarrels at the end of the bed and, even if the quarrel was fierce at the time, it will be fine after the anger subsides, and it will not be sullen in the heart.

Some women have a heavy heart, not as big as men, it is impossible to quickly adjust themselves after a fight, and she needs the comfort of the other party more.

Some men, who are very competent in this regard, will handle it very well after each quarrel.

Even if the face is red, it will let two people vent their resentment at one time, and will not let the other party suffocate in their hearts.

But there is also a kind of man who makes you make decisions, never disciplines, and will not give you advice, and every small decision of yours, he will never question.

You think that he really loves you by doing this, but in fact, he is not willing to bear the consequences of the decision, so he will let you make a decision.

If it ends up with a good result, he won't say anything, and if it turns out to be bad afterwards, he will shift the blame on you.

Before, in your opinion, he was obedient, because he would not fight with you, and he would not have any objections to you.

But after a long time, you can see his true face, he really loves you, but he has no responsibility and does not want to bear any results.

In fact, women are not afraid of the ups and downs of the future, afraid of all the ups and downs are given by men.

As soon as there is a problem, he will run away, or just blame you. This kind of man without position and principle is not worth your lifelong trust.

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