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Some time ago, I heard my girlfriend complain that their neighbor's children beat her girlfriend to cry again, which is not known as the first time.
In the past, every time the neighbors said that the fight between the children was harmless, this time the girlfriend really couldn't help it, so she went to the door to let the neighbor's children apologize, but the neighbors were unwilling, and they also exported hurt people, and the angry girlfriends almost got into a fight, and finally the neighborhood committee came forward.
It is not uncommon in our lives to see such bear children, and bear children must have a bear parent behind them.
In the past, we used to say that bear children are not terrible, he is still young, it is good to grow up, but in fact, bear children will not change even if they are adults, because no matter how old they are, the bear parents who love them will continue to spoil them as always.
And Wenwen met such a bear woman.
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Wenwen's husband is a civil servant, graduated from a prestigious university, has a good length, is polite and polite, and is also very good to Wenwen, when she first got married, Wenwen's parents were satisfied with her husband's ten thousand.
But Wenwen has always wondered why her husband has such an uncontrolled brother and such a selfish mother.
Wenwen's in-laws divorced in the early years, Wenwen's husband followed her father-in-law, and her uncle followed her mother-in-law, and the days of separation of the family were fifteen years.
Originally, the father-in-law gave the mother-in-law a certain amount of living expenses every year, and both sides were at peace, but in the first two years, the father-in-law was married for the second time, and the little uncle had already reached the age of being able to support himself, and the father-in-law refused to give maintenance anymore.
But the mother-in-law herself has no job, she also loves to play mahjong, often loses penniless, the little uncle has long dropped out of school, has no academic qualifications and no job, and only knows how to play games at home every day, and when there is no money, she will find her mother-in-law.
Originally, this mother-in-law and Wenwen did not have any intersection, after all, they did not show up when they got married, but because there was no financial resource, the mother-in-law brought the little uncle to run to Wenwen's husband, and the hard days of Wenwen also came.
Wenwen gave birth to a child at home full-time with the baby, the family suddenly two more people, every day look up and do not look down to see, Wenwen still hopes to be able to get along with the mother-in-law.
I didn't think that my mother-in-law didn't look at Wenwen at all, all day long I said how good my son was, Wenwen married him that was three lifetimes lucky, that is, when she got married, no one told her, otherwise she would definitely have to check it, not all women can enter their homes.
Wenwen was already speechless about her mother-in-law's words, but compared to her mother-in-law, the little uncle gave her more headaches.
The little uncle is an enlarged version of the bear child, there is no bit of an adult look, the game is not closed on the drop of things to smash the keyboard, all day long ding-dong downstairs have come to find several times, each time is the mother-in-law to come forward and people theorize, and finally the end of the quarrel, and then they and their husbands still have to apologize to others.
Broken phone, buy a new one! Keyboard broken, buy new one! In short, what you want, the mother-in-law will agree, smashing pots and selling iron must meet the needs of the little uncle.
The husband also talked to the little uncle, thinking that he was not small and should find a job, but every time he talked about this matter, the mother-in-law ran out to count down her husband, thinking that the husband was reluctant to spend money on the little uncle, and wanted to drive them away.
Originally, the younger brother had a problem, the mother-in-law did not let the teaching still throw around, the husband was angry, he really no longer gave the mother-in-law living expenses: "Here will not be less for you to eat and drink, if you want to do something else, you have hands and feet to earn!" "
At this time, the mother-in-law was angry, saying that her son understood himself and would not say such things to himself, so all this was directed by Wen Wen, and for this reason, she also fell with Wen Wen.
Wenwen also realized what a disaster came from heaven, and Wenwen also knew that her mother-in-law did not look up to her, but she did not think that her mother-in-law would do any substantial harm to her, but she was still naïve.
That day her husband was on a business trip, Wenwen went out to buy vegetables, and when she came back, she found that the door had changed the lock, and the mother-in-law in the house still shouted, saying that the house belonged to her son, let her leave, and not come back in the future.
Wenwen is also panicked, no matter how she slaps the door, the mother-in-law and the little uncle just don't open the door, the child is scared in the house and cries, but the mother-in-law is still indifferent, and finally the neighborhood leader helps call the door together, and threatens to call the police, and the mother-in-law opened the door.
This matter really frightened Wenwen, and her mother-in-law also asked her to pay attention to it in the future, not to blow the wind in her husband's ear, and remember whose home this is. She really did not dare to tell her husband, mainly for fear that he would be worried in the field.
After that, the mother-in-law did not bother Wenwen again, but the things in the family were always lost. In the living room, the antique vase bought by the husband, Wenwen's ring and bracelet, every day will be one or two less, before and after the loss of less said is worth tens of thousands, there are so many people in the family, do not have to think about who took it.
But Wenwen has no evidence, and the theory with her mother-in-law will certainly not have the upper hand, so Wenwen bought the monitoring and secretly installed it in her bedroom, and sure enough, the little uncle took advantage of Wenwen to take the child out when she entered her room to vote.
The bracelet that the little uncle took this time can be worth a lot, it is the dowry of Wenwen's mother's family, worth seventy or eighty thousand, Wenwen took the video in a huff and went to the mother-in-law theory, asking the little uncle to return the bracelet, she did not want the previous jewelry, if she did not return she could only call the police.
But the mother-in-law did not pay any attention to Wenwen at all, but instead threw at the little uncle: "Hurry up and sell, don't care about her, borrow her two guts, she doesn't dare to call the police!" "
The arrogance of the mother-in-law completely angered Wenwen, Wenwen not only called the police, but also called her husband back, and said everything that the mother-in-law had done before, fortunately, the husband understood Wenwen, and also felt that her brother should have disciplined a long time ago, as for the mother-in-law, after this incident, she also retracted a lot, her husband rented a house for her and moved out, wenwen's life finally returned to the right track.
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The family has a difficult scripture, and if the strange mother-in-law on the stall cannot make her own decision, then she can only be slaughtered.
First: Women in the in-laws' home, must have their own opinions.
We often say that whether a woman's life in the in-laws' house is good or not depends on whether the husband is toward himself, although this is true, but what is more important is that the woman has to do her own master.
How to make yourself have a place in your in-laws' home, first of all, don't treat yourself as an outsider, you can also treat yourself as if you were in your own home.
Many people are easy to go to extremes when facing their mother-in-law, either afraid of getting along with their mother-in-law badly, they will go against the grain and tolerate it everywhere, or they will preemptively attack when the mother-in-law has not yet provoked the thorn, and the mother-in-law is not right.
Obviously, these two methods cannot effectively avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and even have the tendency to intensify the contradiction.
So as a smart daughter-in-law, or choose to integrate with the in-laws, once the boundary is not so obvious, a lot of what should not be said can be said, a lot of what should not be done can also be shirked, even if it is targeted, you can also smile and go back, absolutely do not let yourself suffer a little grievance.
The second is to enhance self-worth, although we advocate not to use money to make or break, but I have to say that sometimes money can really do it for itself.
Many contradictions are because the mother-in-law feels that the daughter-in-law is not worthy of her son, which is either that the daughter-in-law's work is not as good as her son, or the daughter-in-law's education is not as good as her son.
Therefore, whether you can earn money and how much money you earn is not only related to the relationship between husband and wife, but also to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. There is a daughter-in-law who can earn money and has knowledge, and the mother-in-law will endure even if she has a lot of unaccustomedness.
So don't always envy other people's mother-in-law for being good to your daughter-in-law, but also see how your daughter-in-law makes her mother-in-law obedient.
Second: No matter in any relationship, excessive things must be stopped in time.
Many times, we all think that we can live our own little life, and we are not willing to interject more about other people's things.
In most families, there are always a few strange relatives, just like Wenwen's little uncle in the above, delicious and lazy, not learning, even breaking the law, such a person always has such a bear parent to protect, just like Wenwen's mother-in-law.
In fact, Wenwen's little uncle's childhood has already determined his fate, the enlarged version of the bear child is definitely a solid bear child when he was a child, but no one tells him what is really right, he will always live under the wings of his mother, no matter what he does wrong, he will not be punished because of the protection of his mother.
We will always meet a lot of bear children around us, just like the children of our girlfriends and neighbors, if things don't happen to us, we may rarely pay attention to it, let alone help others to educate children. As a result, many bear children have grown into the appearance of Wenwen's little uncle.
Many times we know that our relatives or friends are doing something wrong, but we feel that things are not related to ourselves, we are not willing to be nosy, and we do not know that sometimes good intentions can change a person's life.
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