Toddler high-speed rail is forbidden to cry? It's not that people get "child weary", it's that some parents do bear

A few days ago, I brushed a blog post, and a mother shared:

The family went out on the high-speed train, and the son just hummed a few times, and the flight attendant immediately rushed over and suggested to take it to the junction of the carriage to coax.

The father on the side couldn't hold back his anger when he heard it:

This is public transportation and not whose private bedroom, the child just screamed twice and broke the law? What a ethos!

Bao's mother shared this experience, probably lamenting that the "child-loathing" emotions in the current society are too serious, and people lack basic tolerance for children, but most netizens in the comment area sang the opposite:

In recent years, there have been frequent incidents of bear children making noise in public, especially on high-speed trains with relatively closed spaces and denser crowds, which have become the "hardest hit area".

It is true that bear children who make loud noises and cry constantly in public are indeed easily irritating.

But if you think about it, are people really hating bear kids?

For children, especially young children as young as two or three years old, and even infants and toddlers, people tend to be more acceptable.

What everyone is really angry and unbearable is actually the parents' dereliction of duty behind the bear child and their indifference to the bear child.

As a parent, the most important thing to do is to appease the child in time and give the child a good education, and there will be fewer and fewer similar contradictions.

Are everyone really "child-weary"?

In August last year, "Bear children on the high-speed train noisy passengers reminded by parents to be scolded" was a hot search.

The cause was that the child was noisy on the high-speed train and was persuaded by the passengers to stop it, and the parents were immediately angry:

"I can't control my child, I can't control him!"

"Are you riding a high-speed train for the first time? Then I forgive you. ”

After the incident was exposed, it caused heated discussions, but everyone condemned not the children, but the parents who were irresponsible, casually throwing the pot, and not giving the children the discipline they deserved.

In fact, most people can understand the problem of children making noise in public, if parents show the attitude they should have

Parents' difficulty and people's "child-loathing" may not be as serious as claimed online.

I remember that CCTV had done a street interview in response to the noisy problem of the bear child's high-speed rail.

An uncle said:

"Children make trouble, most people can understand."

There are also lads who put themselves in their shoes:

"This has something to do with the education of parents, but it has something to do with the fact that children are a little uncomfortable in the car."

According to common sense, most people will have a certain tolerance mentality for children, and the reason why we often see various conflicts caused by children on the Internet is often because parents do not have a correct attitude, a look of "I have children I have reason", "no matter what the child is not my fault", and even when others remind a little parents will be angry, which is probably the norm for most conflicts.

The real intolerance is the "bear parent"

It is not difficult for us to pay attention to observe that every time the bear child makes a big deal about the high-speed rail and causes heated discussions, there are actually bear parents behind it "pushing the waves".

The child is noisy on the high-speed train, and the passengers with them speak out to stop it, and once the parents refuse to admit their mistakes and have a bad attitude, the conflict will immediately escalate.

"The child is still young, what do you care about as an adult?"

"Don't have a child if you have the ability, don't take him out!"

It is clear that he is at fault first, but he is quite unreasonable, taking the child as a shield, blindly maintaining and conniving at the child, of course, it will cause public anger.

It's no wonder that everyone agrees:

"What is more annoying than the bear child is the bear parent who supports him."

Although children are young, it is indeed not easy to discipline, especially some children are only two or three years old, they do not understand at all, and they lack the concept of public space, but this should not be an excuse for parents.

Parents are a mirror of their children, and behind their children's words and deeds are the quality and upbringing of parents.

As a parent, when taking children out, you should have basic public morality literacy and minimize the trouble caused by your children to those around them, which is the responsibility of parents.

How to avoid conflicts when going out with a baby?

The same parents take their babies out, and some parents' practices have been praised by everyone.

For example, a mother in Heilongjiang took her baby out, and the baby cried on the high-speed train, but the mother gave the baby a pack of wet wipes as a comfort.

So the baby has been concentrating on cleaning the carriage from driving to the station, quietly cleaning the whole process, killing two birds with one stone.

Another example is a mother in Taiyuan, Shanxi Province, who took her baby on a plane, because she was worried that the noise of her children would affect the passengers on the same plane, so she prepared small gifts such as candy, hand-drawn notes, and earplugs in advance.

In front of such parents, even if the child is a little crying, the passengers must be able to understand, and the mood of the trip will not be greatly affected by the noise of the child.

Therefore, when we take the baby out, the key is to maintain a good attitude, be able to actively intervene in the child's crying behavior, and minimize the impact on others.

Of course, if the child is a little older, it is more important to do a good job in family education, so that the child can recognize the basic moral behavior norms in public places and avoid affecting others.

People should understand and tolerate each other, as parents have the basic obligation to educate their children, and to cultivate and raise their children, parents need to carefully teach.

Epilogue:

While bear children are indeed annoying, the root of the problem lies in the inaction of bear parents.

Finally, I hope that all parents can give their children a good family education, and if the child affects others, intervene in time and take responsibility as a parent.

Today's topic: What do you think about children making noise on high-speed trains?