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Today's hot search news: The child bumped the back of the chair many times, and the girl reminded that she was slapped by her parents instead.
Here's what happened.
On May 2, Chengdu, Sichuan, a girl was constantly kicked in the back of the chair by the child behind her on the high-speed train, persuasion was fruitless, the two parents not only did not discipline the child, but also slapped the girl, and the girl fought back.
During the quarrel, the parents always emphasized that it was the girl who scolded the dispute.
There was a big brother next to him who couldn't look past and stood up: It's clear that you scolded people first.
Video source: @云上胶州
At first, the eldest brother persuaded him with a good voice, but the parents were unreasonable, and the eldest brother was anxious and loudly rebuked the parents:
"You men were the first to insult."
"The girls didn't scold at first."
"You can't stop people from scolding because you've finished scolding, and you'll hit people after they've scolded."
"And the hand is your first hand, and you have been yelling at people for a while when the conductor came."
"She yelled at your baby, and your baby roared before people roared."
"You take your mobile phone to record people, people don't say, people record you, you hit people's mobile phones and drop people's mobile phones."
"You mean that people haven't made a sound for a long time, and I mean you can't do it, there's something wrong."
"You can't take care of it all when you take children."
The eldest brother's words made the whole carriage agree, and they all applauded the eldest brother.
In the end, the girl and the child's parents called the police, and the parents asked the girl to delete the video on the Internet, and always stressed that she did not scold people, but had a bad attitude, and at present, the incident is still being further communicated.
(Follow-up of the party's response)
The video has sparked heated discussions on the Internet, and many netizens have left messages:
"How to be a parent, your child will definitely learn from you in the future, still shouting, and will not be spared."
"My own child is a treasure, I can't say that I can't scold or beat, and every time I see a lawless bear child, what I dislike most is their parents."
"Behind every bear child, there are unreasonable parents."
In public, children have been noisy and kicking chairs, and after affecting others, parents' first reaction is not to discipline their children, but to scold and hit others.
It really verifies the sentence: almost all bear children hide a bear parent behind them!
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Bear kids + bear parents
There is no reason to speak in front of this collocation!
Some netizens said: In fact, I am not afraid of bear children, I am most afraid of the bear parents behind the children.
Yes, children can not be sensible, but adults cannot be ignorant.
But there are many, many parents who do not understand things.
On the high-speed train, the child ran around and made a noise, and the passenger reminded him to be insulted by the elderly: Children don't understand you don't understand, children eat you also eat?
In the Yunnan Wildlife Park, a couple plucked out more than 10 peacock feathers at once with a peacock, and the child, like a learner, came up to the frightened peacock's butt.
The child read aloud in the bookstore, the clerk discouraged, and the father scolded the waiter: I smoke you believe it or not!
There was a girl, waiting for the float parade at Disney during May Day, a little boy desperately wanted to squeeze from her to the front, constantly pushing, she said many times do not squeeze, do not squeeze, but the child's parents asked her: How to squeeze you? Can't you touch it?
It could have taught children to observe civility;
Children could have been taught to love animals;
The child could have been told not to affect others in public places;
Could have told the child to be quiet when entering the bookstore ...
These parents choose to connive, because they feel that their children are just children, so their behavior does not need to be restrained, as if there are children are reasonable, and children are the master key to avoid mistakes and avoid responsibility.
But this kind of education is really poor.
As netizens said: if parents educate their children well, children will not bear, but unfortunately, some parents are more bears than children!
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"I can't manage the child, what can you do with me"
If your own children are not educated, there will always be someone to help you teach!
In life, there are too many parents who do not understand things.
Fighting for the child is small, there is no bottom line of arrogance and tolerance for the child, and if something happens to others, let's say: he is still just a child.
However, if your children are not well educated, someone will always help you teach them.
If you don't teach children to talk about rules and recognize right and wrong, it will not be others who will suffer in the end.
On the moving bus, the little boy kept kicking the male passenger next to him.
The unbearable passenger let out a shoulder and let out a breath.
Four children in Guangdong scratched more than 40 cars, and a total of 1.5 million yuan was claimed, including BMW, Maybach, Lincoln and other luxury cars, and a Maybach alone may have a loss of 120,000.
It is understood that the four children are relatives, they come from three families, all of whom are in their teens.
Afterwards, parents ignore and ignore it, and this attitude is enough to see how they educate their children, and it is precisely because of parents who do not pay attention that there are children who do not care.
1.5 million, evenly spread to three families, one family 500,000, this is to pay for the "whim" of children and the "lax discipline" of parents.
Professor Li Meijin also once told a case: a nine-year-old boy molested a little girl, and his father helped him "settle" everything, and later the child became a habitual rape and murderer.
Why such consequences? Because children feel from the beginning:
No apologies for doing something wrong!
Don't be responsible for hurting others!
Someone comes and helps me settle these things at all times!
This is the consequence of parents' misguidance, if parents guide correctly at the beginning, tell children that this is wrong, teach children right and wrong, good and evil, and establish a sense of boundaries for children, the result will definitely not be like this.
No child is born a bad child, and no child can become good overnight.
The growth of each child is a gradual process.
When parents input to their children: positive and positive nutrition, the harvest is naturally also sunny and beautiful!
When parents give their children the input: let it go, let it develop, breed, naturally it is lawless and fearless!
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Parents are a child's first teacher
Please teach well and be a good role model for your children!
The child is born as a blank piece of paper, he will learn what he accepts, there are no children, and he is born with the attributes of a bear child.
As long as parents educate their children well and set a good example, every child can grow up well.
There are many parents who do very well when something happens to their children.
The little boy secretly took a jelly while visiting the supermarket, and when he returned home, he was discovered by his father.
Instead of pampering him, Dad took him back to the supermarket again, asking the little boy to apologize to the clerk himself and promise never to steal again.
A community surveillance in Xi'an photographed a young boy urinating in an unmanned elevator.
After being found out by the child's mother, she immediately apologized in the owner group,
And punish his children for cleaning the elevator for a month in a row as compensation.
Then do what you say, personally supervise the children to clean the elevator, not sloppy at all.
Parents are a mirror of the child, what you show the child, the child will learn, in order to let the child understand the rules, know right and wrong, can be humble, parents must be a good example!
Don't think that the child grows up, can instantly understand things, educate the child, should penetrate into every moment with the child, penetrate into all aspects of life, from a young age to start to guide!
So how should parents teach their children to be polite, understand the rules, and know right and wrong?
First: Start with the basics
Starting from a very basic rule, let the child learn from a very young age.
Example of basic rules:
● Do not interrupt others.
● Don't put your elbows on the table while eating.
● Do not chew with your mouth wide open when eating.
● Try to say "please" and "thank you." ”
Second: As your child grows up, gradually add rules
As long as you feel that your child is ready for the next rules of etiquette, you can teach him something new.
List of etiquette rules added to the basics:
●How to behave when eating at someone else's house.
● Answer the phone politely.
● Never gossip about anyone behind your back.
●Have a helpful heart.
●Be kind to everyone.
Third: Impolite behavior is prohibited
In the child's daily life, there will be other things that affect the formation of children's parenting habits, so at this time, the child should be given the correct judgment.
Examples of impoliteness:
●Spitting.
●Coughing or sneezing into someone's face.
● Throwing things in anger.
● Give others unpleasant nicknames.
● Improper touching of others.
● Grab something from others.
● Constantly interrupting other people's conversations.
Fourth: Do not affect others in public places
● Do not cut the queue, run red lights, grab elevators, slam doors.
● Do not yeat, chase, or kick chairs on public transportation. When the baby is 3 or 4 years old and can communicate, you can transmit more rules to the baby not to speak loudly and noisily in public, and the baby is much more sensible than we think.
● When going to a public place, do not chase and do not move.
● When going to a restaurant, tell your child not to make noise.
● When visiting, tell children to respect history and exhibits.
● In public, tell your child to refrain from moving around.
Finally, the pregnant mother wants to say: good tutoring and quality education are protecting children, because children who raise well are more likely to succeed than others, and they know how to get along with people better, this truth, I hope every parent must understand!
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