The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart
The harmony of a family, in addition to being closely related to the feelings between husband and wife, is also inextricably linked with various family members, and among these family members, the relationship between the most mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is complicated, it can be said that the mother-in-law's behavior will affect the feelings between husband and wife to some extent.
If the mother-in-law is understanding, she will treat the daughter-in-law with the greatest tolerance and understanding, and the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will be reduced a lot. However, if the mother-in-law is a calculating person, has always treated the daughter-in-law as an outsider, living in such a family, not only to deal with the intricate relationship with the mother-in-law, but also to worry about the feelings with her husband will be affected.
01 has been suffering from the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than 2 years
When Wenwen was not married to her husband, she already had a general understanding of the temper of her future mother-in-law.
I remember when Wenwen went to her boyfriend's house for the first time, I don't know why, Wenwen always felt that her mother-in-law had a little bit of reluctance to see herself, until later, she learned from her boyfriend's mouth that the reason why the mother-in-law was a little slack on herself was because of her original family.
Wenwen's original family conditions are not so ideal, and the reason is very simple, because behind Wenwen, there are three younger brothers, and it is precisely because of this that the mother-in-law has not agreed to this marriage.
Wen Wen knows in her heart that the reason why her mother-in-law has opinions about herself is mainly because she is worried that her three younger brothers will drag her family down, in fact, on this point, Wen Wen's parents have long talked to Wen Wen: Wen Wen, when you get married, as long as you feel happy, as for the cumbersome etiquette such as the bride price, it is up to you to decide, and your three younger brothers, in the future, their affairs, do not need you to ask, you just need to live your own life.
After learning all this, the mother-in-law reluctantly agreed to this family affair.
Wenwen originally thought that the relationship between her and her mother-in-law after marriage could be improved to a certain extent, but all this was just Wenwen's wishful thinking.
02 The mother-in-law has always believed that she is not worthy of her husband
Since marriage, Wenwen has been single-mindedly taking care of the small family, while her husband is focused on his career, the husband and wife are qinser and ming, the division of labor is clear, and the life of the small family is also very happy and happy.
But the mother-in-law does not think so, she always feels that every time Wenwen returns to her mother's house, she will bring a lot of things and increase the family's expenditure, so whenever Wenwen is present, the mother-in-law always means to say that when she was young, there was nothing that did not return to her mother's house.
Wenwen naturally knows what her mother-in-law means, but after all, as her own biological parents, Wenwen will naturally miss a lot in their hearts after not seeing them for a long time.
In addition, Wenwen has seen the chat records of her mother-in-law and her husband more than once, and in the chat records, the mother-in-law always thinks that Wenwen is not worthy of her son, but her husband will reply to her directly: But I like it.
Seeing this, Wenwen's heart is a little warm, even if the mother-in-law does not like herself, her husband's love for herself has never changed.
When he first married his husband, his monthly salary was very low, barely enough for two people to live, but later, after Wenwen played her husband's Xiannai helper, her husband's income rose to a point of 30,000 per month.
At first, the mother-in-law did not know the real income of her husband, but then she came home once, and in a conversation with relatives, the husband said the figure of his income, and the mother-in-law happened to be by the side.
03 The mother-in-law asked her husband to divorce, but the husband's words made the mother-in-law dumbfounded
Of course, this was just a small episode, and soon Wenwen forgot about it.
One day, Wenwen was cooking in the kitchen, when she suddenly heard her husband's phone ringing, and her husband quickly answered the phone: Mom, is there anything wrong?
Since her husband was busy at the time, he turned on his mobile phone hands-free, and it just so happened that this voice was clearly heard by Wenwen.
The mother-in-law said on the phone: Son, I heard that your income is quite a lot, according to your conditions to find a daughter-in-law should not be difficult, otherwise you and Wenwen divorce it, she also knows the conditions of her family, one day will become a burden.
After Wenwen heard this, the shovel in her hand suddenly stopped moving, and her heart was very unhappy.
At this time, Wenwen listened to her husband and said: Mom, what are you talking about, when Wenwen married, she did not ask for a bride price with our family, and for so many years, she gave everything for this family I see in my eyes, it can be said that without Wenwen's efforts, there would be no achievements I have today, not to mention, she is my wife of chaff, no matter what, I can't abandon her.
After listening to her husband's words, the mother-in-law did not speak for a long time, and after a while, the mother-in-law said: Well, since you have decided, then I will not say anything more.
Wen Wen, who was on the side, had long been moved and could not help herself.
Wenwen went to her husband's side and hugged him tightly, so many years of married life, has long reached the point of flatness, Wenwen thought that her husband's love for herself also slowly disappeared with the flow of time, as everyone knows, her husband's love for herself has always been with her.
Conclusion: It is a very common thing to meet an unreasonable mother-in-law, but if the husband can mediate from it, comfort his wife, and understand the wife's difficulties, then the family will not be torn to the point of chicken feathers because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Therefore, the man sandwiched between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship plays a vital role in the harmony of the family.