Wen\Muqing, Jiang Zuo Meiniang
Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos once said in a speech:
"Kindness is harder than cleverness, cleverness is a talent, and kindness is a choice."
Good people are not stupid, but between being sleek and treating others with sincerity, they choose to treat people with sincerity.
Yes, don't live up to the people who are good to you, and don't snub the people who have you in your heart.
Only by knowing how to cherish can we reap blessings; only by learning to be grateful can we meet noble people.
01. Not saying broken, does not mean not knowing
Wutaishan Jinge Temple has a couplet: "It is difficult to open your eyes when you see through the world, and you can't read all the human feelings and nod your head darkly." ”
Many things that are not broken do not mean that they do not know; many things that are not debunked do not mean that they are not clear.
Sometimes, we choose silence, not cowardice, but wisdom and cultivation after reading a thousand sails.
Zhang Qixian, a politician of the Song Dynasty, once held a banquet at his home during his tenure as a transport envoy in Jiangnan, but he did not expect that a servant had secretly hidden several pieces of silverware.
Zhang Qixian happened to be behind the curtain and could see clearly, but he did not question the servant afterwards, nor did he mention the matter to anyone.
Later, Zhang Qixian rose all the way to the position of prime minister, and many servants in the family were promoted under his care.
The servant who stole the silverware did not get an official position.
The servant who did not know the truth knelt in front of Zhang Qixian and said with tears in his eyes:
"I've been waiting for you for a long time, and your servants have all become officials, so why did you miss me?"
Zhang Qixian said very calmly:
"I didn't want to say it, but if I didn't say it, you'd resent me again."
I don't know if you remember that in Jiangnan, you stole silverware? I've kept this in my heart for nearly thirty years.
Now that I am in charge of the prime minister, I have promoted and dismissed officials with the intention of encouraging the virtuous and dismissing corrupt officials, so how dare I recommend thieves?
Since the matter has been broken, you will inevitably be ashamed of me and will not be able to stay with me. Look at the love you have served me for many years, now give you three hundred thousand dollars, you choose a place to settle down. ”
The servant was shocked when he heard this, and he knelt down to thank Zhang Qixian in tears, and then left in shame.
Dealing with people and knowing how to turn a blind eye is a rare cultivation for a person.
As the saying goes: "See through and don't say broken, face better." “
No one is really stupid, it's just that they don't want to tear everything down and embarrass people.
Not to mention that behind the broken, it is not only a rare and precious kindness, but also a great wisdom for people to deal with the world.
02. Not being more true doesn't mean you don't mind
The Cai Gen Tan says:
"Great and wise people, small things will be hazy."
People who don't care about small things are not instigated, but they don't want to entangle and waste time.
When her girlfriend Wenwen first joined the work, she happened to be in the same company with her classmates and was assigned to the same dormitory. Fate led to this, and the two soon became good friends.
Every time she goes out to buy, eat, etc., Wenwen will take the initiative to pay the bill. And the sister said every time that she would transfer the money to her later, but there was no follow-up in the return.
Once, the student sister took the initiative to say that she would pay for it for the first time, but when it came to checkout, she would say that she did not bring cash, and she would say that the mobile phone was out of power, and she had not paid for a long time.
Wenwen looked at the cashier standing on the side with a black line on his face, and had to take out her mobile phone again to pay.
In the dormitory, xuejie never sorted out the internal affairs, and wiping the table and sweeping the floor were all handled by Wenwen.
Accustomed to Wenwen's forbearance and generosity, Xuejie became more and more unscrupulous. Once, the student sister was in a hurry to go home, and even asked Wenwen to help her wash the clothes that had been soaked for two days.
Although Wenwen did not care about these things, an incident that happened later made her decide to stop the loss in time.
One day, she was about to push the door into the dormitory with a steaming takeaway when she suddenly heard a conversation between her sister and her friend in the dormitory.
Xuejie's friend said: "Staying will transfer more money to Wenwen, busy before and after ordering food, take takeaway are all her, strange and embarrassed." ”
Unexpectedly, The student sister was not afraid, "beep" a voice and said: "She is stupid and has a lot of money, don't worry." ”
Hearing this, Wenwen was very angry in her heart, but she still controlled her emotions, pretended to walk in easily, and ate the takeaway with them casually.
Later, she moved out of the dormitory, and since then she has been like a stranger to her sister.
Between friends, sometimes the choice is not more real, just hope to protect a rare friendship.
Gibran once said, "A great man has two hearts—one bleeding and one tolerant." ”
In any relationship, don't take others lightly, because all generosity contains grievances, it can't afford to waste, and it can't afford to be disappointed.
All the carelessness, not that they don't mind, just prefer to grievance themselves, just to protect a rare friendship.
03. Mei Niang said
I've seen a passage like this:
"I give you a candy every day, and you get used to it and take it for granted. But when I don't give it to you one day, you start to get angry. ”
There is a heart-wrenching truth in life that if you give unreservedly, you will take pleasure with impunity.
But Qiyannian wrote in the book "Pingsheng Huan":
"In this world, people who are really good to you, when they meet one, there is one less." Don't lose someone who treats you well; don't live up to a heart that treats you sincerely. ”
That's right, so don't take the kindness of others as a fool, and don't squander the sincerity of others.
In fact, everyone is not stupid, but some people choose to be warm and thoughtful to others.
Those words that are not broken, in fact, he is tolerant and generous, just to take care of your face.
Those things that are not more true are actually a sincerity that he disdains to worry about with you and chooses to guard between you.
The stupidity you think is the fulfillment of the good intentions of others. The person you call a fool has always been the person with the clearest heart.
Kindness is not stupidity, but a virtue; forbearance is not stupidity, it is a kind of mind.
Writer Leng Ying said:
"Your kindness and kindness to others will ultimately be your own."
Yes, people are mutual, know how to cherish, in order to make a relationship long-lasting, love out of love to return, blessings to the past, all sincerity and goodwill, in fact, are also accumulating good luck and blessings for us in the future.
May you and I in the days to come, so that all goodness can be reciprocated, then all love and beauty will meet.
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