"I got pregnant in the first month of marriage, and my husband hid it from me to take the child for a paternity test"
Joan Flute emotion
Release on 2022-03-2117:28
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In marriage, for two couples, the most important thing is trust.
If as lovers who accompany each other on the road of life, they cannot fully trust each other, then this relationship will be full of holes and difficult to persist to the end.
When we choose to enter into marriage with this person, we must tell ourselves in our hearts that from now on the person closest to you is him, and the person you rely on the most will be him, and no matter what difficulties you face and what contradictions arise, you cannot give up on each other, let alone doubt each other.
Only in this way can you become a true soul mate, and you will truly enter each other's hearts and accompany each other to grow old.
If there are really some problems between two people, or if you have an unsolvable knot in your heart, don't think about it alone, sometimes the more you think about it, the more you will feel that things are serious.
It's better to open your mind and ask your partner directly, and maybe they'll give you a simpler and more frank answer that you can't think of.
Wenwen and her husband knew each other on a blind date, and the two people felt that each other was not bad, and they did not have too deep understanding, so they got married.
At that time, Wenwen also thought that the two people would establish a marriage first, and then develop their feelings little by little after marriage, which might be happier.
However, she did not expect that because she did not know each other well enough, once a small episode occurred, she would plant a seed of doubt in her heart.
This kind of seed will quickly take root and sprout, grow into a towering tree, and finally completely affect the feelings of two people.
I. "Married in three months on a blind date, pregnant in the month after marriage, the husband became suspicious"
Wenwen and her husband met in a blind date, both of them are teachers, and they also have a common topic, and soon they have a good feeling for each other.
At that time, Wenwen had just ended a 4-year-long relationship, the whole person was still relatively low, and she did not hide this matter from her husband, who was still a boyfriend at the time, and told him bluntly.
He comforted Wenwen with great sympathy: Such feelings are difficult to come out, but you can rest assured, having me with you in the future will definitely make you forget the unpleasantness of the past.
Three months later, they got the license, and some friends thought that Wenwen would not be too fast and too impulsive to do so, but Wenwen said,
My ex-boyfriend and I have been 4 years, haven't we broken up? The marriage does not depend on how long the two people have been together, but on whether you have a fate or not, and whether he is the right person.
Wenwen became pregnant in the second month after marriage, and she also felt that this good news came a little too suddenly, but since she ushered in this little life, she had to learn to accept it.
Wenwen told her husband the news, and her husband was stunned, unexpectedly did not show too much surprise, and said calmly: You have it so soon?
Wenwen did not hear his voice, but happily returned to him, yes, I think it must be the two of us have a fate, so the old genius is so partial to us.
The only thing that makes Wenwen feel unhappy is that during the entire pregnancy, her husband is always busy with his own affairs, rarely cares about her, and when the pregnancy reaction is intense in the first three months, even if Wenwen hugs the toilet and vomits, he will not look at her more.
Later, she also felt his coldness and tried to find him to communicate, but her husband always avoided it for various reasons.
Once he drank too much wine, came home in the middle of the night, shook wenwen who was asleep, and asked her the same question: Are you really pregnant? Are you really pregnant?
WenWen touched his belly and asked him, what do you say? The husband insisted on saying, this is too fast, this is also too fast, right?
Wenwen, who was sleepy, did not want to pay attention to him, muttered a word of "there is a disease", and went to sleep.
Second, "the baby just came out of confinement, the husband will hold him for paternity testing"
Then the child was born, and it was a cute baby boy. Wenwen and the parents of both parties were happy not to do it, only the husband was still calm, and even refused to hug the child more.
When she was discharged from the hospital and returned home, Wenwen couldn't help but lose her temper with her husband, and she said what crazy are you smoking, or is there someone outside of you? Why have you been cold to me since I was pregnant, and now that you have a baby, you refuse to hold the baby, are you still the child's father?
Unexpectedly, my husband actually sneered and retorted, I am not the child's father, how do I know?
Wen Wen only half a day to react to what this sentence means, she yelled at him: "What do you mean?" Make it clear, don't slander people, who will the child be if it is not yours? ”
Since the words were spoken, the husband simply asked her:
If it was really mine, how could I get pregnant so quickly, and you were pregnant in the past month after getting married. Didn't you have a boyfriend you talked to for 4 years before, and did you still contact him after the two of you broke up? ”
Wenwen only felt disappointed and funny, and she stared at him and said:
"Do you think this kid is not yours, it's my ex-boyfriend's?" There is no evidence not to say such hurtful things, and I have not been in contact with you since I was with him.
"As for why you said you got pregnant so quickly, how do I know that being pregnant is getting pregnant, are you just suspicious of me because I got pregnant so quickly?" This is also disrespectful to people! ”
This quarrel finally broke up, the husband did not say anything more, went to sleep in the second bedroom, Wenwen made up her mind not to pay attention to him, the whole month the two people spent in such a cold war atmosphere.
The morning after the confinement, Wenwen woke up, and the child was gone. She searched the house several times, but she did not see any trace of the baby, and her husband disappeared with her. She always felt that something was wrong, called her husband several times before he picked up, and said slowly, I am in the hospital with the baby.
Wenwen thought of a possibility, or couldn't believe it, she hesitated for half a day and asked him:
What are you going to do in the hospital, and are you going to do a paternity test? ”
The husband did not speak, stopped for a few seconds and hung up the phone, but Wenwen's heart was cold, and she knew that he was acquiescing.
When her husband returned, Wenwen grabbed the child and gave him a slap, she said: "I didn't expect you to have no trust in me, it doesn't matter, don't wait for the appraisal results to come out, we will go to divorce tomorrow, as you wish." ”
Unexpectedly, when my husband heard this, his first reaction was not to recognize his mistake, but to say that Wenwen must be someone outside, and this child is definitely not his, otherwise why would he say that he wants to divorce?
Wenwen sneered and said,
Whether the child is yours or not, you will know when the results come out, but it is too late at that time, because I have divorced you. Even if you get down on your knees and beg me, I won't give you back the baby.
Third, if there is no trust in love, no amount of happiness is vain
No wonder Wenwen is so sad, she is full of joy and ushered in the little life of her husband, thinking that the new life that belongs to them will come.
But he did not expect that her husband did not believe that it was his child at all, and even from the time when Wenwen first became pregnant, he had already suspected it, so throughout her pregnancy, he ignored Wenwen's love and cold face.
After Wenwen gave birth to the baby, during confinement, he was also unwilling to perform the duty of a father, unwilling to take the initiative to hold the child, and after the confinement, the first thing was to take the baby to do a paternity test.
He never imagined how much harm his actions would cause to people. However, because he became pregnant a month after marriage, he planted such deep doubts and stereotypes about his wife.
Such a stupid and careful,selfish and narrow-minded man is really not worth going on with him for a long time. Even if this time he got the appraisal results, he trusted his wife, and with his character and character, it is presumably that in the near future, he will be turned upside down because of another trivial matter.
If there is no trust in the love of two people, no matter how much happiness, no matter how deep the love is, it is also a delusion.
Because between you, there is simply not enough foundation to support such a love. It seems to be happy, but in fact it cannot withstand any setbacks and tests. Once people's hearts are shaken, all that awaits you is drifting away.
So finding a good, suitable person is important, but finding someone who believes in you is even more important.