Feelings need to be run-in, and the run-in period is a long process, and it is also the period when couples are most likely to break up. Many times, the problems in the relationship appear early in the morning, but the couples are blinded by the sweetness of love, and you subconsciously ignore those unpleasant moments in the relationship.
Below, we will summarize the most likely period of love to break up, no matter how good your relationship at this time, you need to pay attention to these three periods.
1. The incubation period of contradictions after hot love
The hot love period is the most unlikely time for obvious contradictions, but it is also the stage of the accumulation of contradictions, because at this time, you will see each other with strong emotional color, feel that ta is full of advantages, even if there is a little dispute, you will take the initiative to give in, for fear of leaving a bad impression on each other.
In this way, even if there is dissatisfaction in the heart, it will be covered up by the sweetness of love, but you must know that covering up does not mean disappearing.
These accumulated contradictions and dissatisfaction will be gradually revealed after the hot love period, that is, after about a year of interaction, because some differences in the thinking of men and women lead to certain deviations in your concept of love and mode of getting along in the process of getting along.
At this time, if you do not understand what the other party wants and needs in time, but blindly act according to your own ideas and act contrary to the expectations of the other party, this is a process of contradiction accumulation.
For example, women want you to accompany her often, and you feel that love needs personal independent space, she feels that you do not love her enough, and you will feel that she is too clingy, making you breathless, so how can you get a good love experience?
Break up after the hot love, generally with false breakups, but don't take it lightly, behind the fake breakup is actually hidden the other party's dissatisfaction with you, but this time your emotional concentration can temporarily cover up these negative emotions, so that she is reluctant to really leave you.
Therefore, the most critical thing about a fake breakup is the immediacy of redemption, don't drag it out, express your concern for her in time, and put forward your own ideas at the same time, and sometimes be honest and relatively can solve most of the problems at this stage.
2. The stable period of high-incidence contradictions
Couples at this stage, even if they do not admit it, you will have a natural feeling about each other, spend a long time together, understand each other deeply, have included each other in their own safe distance, at this time, you will no longer deliberately suppress your temper and personality, various shortcomings and problems, but also began to appear and erupt.
In this mode of intensification of contradictions, your communication has also begun to gradually be negative, such as frequent cold wars, quarrels and words.
If this process cannot be controlled in time, the emotional concentration will also decline, becoming the stage with the highest probability of breaking up.
In a situation like this, the most effective way to redeem is to establish efficient communication with the other party, but communication does not represent entanglement, but starts from learning to listen, first let the other party vent out of the inner dissatisfaction, she has the patience to listen to your views on feelings.
3. Emotional boredom period after a period of time
At this stage, the most common state between couples is "lazy", lazy to quarrel, lazy to cold war, but also lazy to solve the problem, at this time, you know each other's understanding of each other, know each other's emotional forbidden areas, master the way of getting along with each other, will appropriately reduce the conflict with each other, but at the same time, it is easy to get tired of this immutable way of getting along.
At this time, the breakup, not so much because of contradictions, but rather the lack of freshness of the injection, the feelings of the two people are flat as water, there is a tacit understanding, but less passion for love.
Once a person has a fresh and ideal opposite sex around him, it is easy to break up because of principle issues, causing irreversible damage to your feelings.
At this time, you need to try to create emotional commonality between you, in order to deepen the emotional link between you and her, so that she can restore her good feelings for you in a new mode of getting along, you can cultivate your common interests according to each other's hobbies, naturally increase your emotional communication, and let the feelings warm up.