The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth remains in the heart
As the saying goes, every family has a difficult scripture, whether it is poor or rich, there will always be many unsatisfactory things in every family.
Among these many family conflicts, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most headache.
Meeting a kind mother-in-law is the biggest dream of every married daughter-in-law, and the kind mother-in-law will do everything they do for the sake of the small family, will try to maintain the harmony of the small family, and after encountering differences of opinion with the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law will take the initiative to take a step back, even if she suffers some losses, as long as the family is happy, she will not care.
However, if it is an unreasonable mother-in-law, her behavior often makes people feel very puzzling and helpless, and even affects the stability of the small family.
01 When I got married, I didn't want a bride price, and I thought it would be taken seriously
Xiaoye is the only daughter of the family, since she was a child, her parents have poured all their love into her, coupled with her family living conditions are relatively good, so Xiaoye's first 20 years of life have been colorful and colorful.
Xiaoye returned to her hometown after graduating from college, and with it, during the journey of studying in other places, she met her lifelong partner Wu Lei, and Wu Lei and Xiaoye's hometown were in the same city, so after graduation, it became a natural thing for Xiaoye and Wu Lei to return to their hometown.
After returning home, Xiaoye took Wu Lei to meet his parents, in the face of the arrival of the future son-in-law, Xiaoye's parents were naturally warmly welcomed, and after eating a meal in a kind manner, Xiaoye's parents were extremely satisfied with Wu Lei.
When Xiaoye went to Wu Lei's house, there was a small episode.
Although Wu Lei's parents are also very satisfied with Xiaoye, the future mother-in-law told Xiaoye at dinner: Xiaoye, don't hide from you, our family's family conditions are not too ideal, you can choose our family Wu Lei We are very grateful, but about the bride price, we still need to discuss more.
After Xiaoye listened to these words, she naturally understood the meaning of the mother-in-law, and for the conditions of her boyfriend's home, Xiaoye had already understood in advance, so xiaoye also understood these hardships of the mother-in-law.
After returning to his home, Xiaoye discussed the matter with his parents, xiaoye thought that his parents would not agree to this family affair, but his parents' words really touched Xiaoye.
Parents said: It's okay daughter, as long as you like, we are your most solid backing.
In this way, Xiaoye married into the in-laws' family without asking for a dowry, and Xiaoye at first thought that he did not want a dowry and should be valued by the in-laws, but the reality was exactly the opposite.
02 The husband's monthly salary is 20,000, and the mother-in-law bluntly says that the daughter-in-law is not worthy of her
When Xiaoye and Wu Lei got married, Wu Lei's income averaged only a few thousand a month, after all, both of them had just graduated at that time, and it was very normal for their income to be low.
However, later, as Xiaoye turned behind the scenes and vigorously supported Wu Lei's career, his career gradually improved, and what followed was a rise in income.
Of course, her husband's current achievements are inseparable from Xiaoye's efforts, if it were not for Xiaoye handling the affairs of the family and making valuable suggestions when Wu Lei encountered a key turning point in his life, Wu Lei would not have been able to succeed so quickly.
In Wu Lei's heart, Xiaoye's identity is not only his wife, but also his own xiannai helper.
With the continuous improvement of the husband's income level, the family's living standard has risen by a large grade, and the husband's salary income has also been known to the mother-in-law.
After this, whenever the mother-in-law sees people, she praises her son for having the ability, and the monthly salary has reached the level of 20,000 at a young age, and in the face of the admiration of the people around her, the mother-in-law can't help but feel a little fluttery, always feeling that her son is the best.
In sharp contrast, it is the leaflets.
Xiaoye is usually at home full-time, only responsible for cleaning the hygiene of the home, all this in the mother-in-law's view, think that Xiaoye is dragging down the son, if it were not for the existence of Xiaoye, the son would definitely be more successful than now.
Therefore, in her usual conversations with others, the mother-in-law always deliberately says that the daughter-in-law is not, thinking that the daughter-in-law is not worthy of her son.
03 With a word, he personally ruined his son's marriage
These words eventually reached Xiaoye's ears, and when she confronted her mother-in-law, she said bluntly: Yes, you are not worthy of my son.
After hearing her mother-in-law's words, Xiao was also very angry, after all, for so many years, in addition to her own parents saying that she was not.
However, what the mother-in-law said is not true, although on the surface it is not as small as her husband Wu Lei, but Wu Lei can have today's achievements, but also through the help of his mother's parents to have today's deeds.
It can be said that everything about Wu Lei today is closely related to Xiaoye.
But in the face of such an unreasonable mother-in-law, Xiaoye did not bother to explain, but when her husband Wu Lei heard about this matter, he actually began to blame Xiaoye for not, thinking that Xiaoye should not question her mother-in-law in person.
It seems that between himself and his mother-in-law, the husband always favors the mother-in-law.
After thinking about this clearly, Xiaoye took the initiative and Wu Lei proposed to temporarily separate for a period of time, and although Wu Lei did not agree at first, he could not resist Xiaoye's insistence and finally could only agree.
However, since Xiaoye left, Wu Lei's career has taken a sharp turn for the worse, and it is only at this time that her mother-in-law and Wu Lei understand the importance of Xiaoye in this family and regret it one after another.
However, up to now, no amount of regret has been in vain, and the reason for all this is because the mother-in-law's words have personally ruined the happiness and marriage of her son.
Conclusion: There is a saying that the degree of harmony in the family often depends on whether the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law are intimate, so it can be seen that the mother-in-law also has a crucial influence on the small family. Therefore, as a mother-in-law, everything should be thought twice, and cannot affect the marriage and happiness of her son because of her words and deeds.