At a time when the global fertility rate continues to decline, young people have even begun to enjoy a free life of insolvent marriage and infertility. So, what is it like to not get married for a lifetime?
Not long ago, TV Tokyo filmed the daily life of an 80-year-old single man, allowing the audience to see what it was like to never get married for a lifetime.
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When the program team met the old man on the side of the road, the old man had just come out of the bathhouse.
After the staff indicated their intentions, the old man agreed and accepted the program interview. His name is Tian Suozhan Shi, he is 82 years old, unmarried and childless, single for a lifetime, and now he lives alone with his pension and previous savings.
In order to have a deeper understanding of the daily life of the elderly in Tiansuo, the program team exchanged 10 bath tickets as a reward for the opportunity to go to the old man's home to shoot.
Then, the program team followed the old man to an old apartment where he lived.
The apartment was crowded with households, and the old man of Tianso only rented one of the rooms, with an area of less than 30 square meters. The conditions here are extremely simple, and the room structure can see the end at a glance.
Worn-out furniture, air conditioning hanging from windows, and a mini kitchen with water pipes ticking and leaking water.
Facilities like shoe cabinets outside the door, washstands and toilets are all shared, but the elderly don't mind these because the rents here are cheap enough.
On weekdays, the old man does not choose to cook at home, and when he is hungry, he will go to a nearby fast food restaurant to eat. However, every day, he would boil some boiling water to make coffee.
After all, in the cold winter, nothing warms up and refreshes you more than a cup of hot coffee.
Although he lived alone, the old man of Tian Suo would still clean up the house, and his clothes were folded very neatly.
The old man's usual leisure activities are also very monotonous, and his greatest pleasure is to go to the bathhouse to soak in the bath and race horses.
He goes to the bathhouse 2 or 3 times a week, and on weekends he goes to gamble on horse racing. When it comes to horse racing, the old man is purely a pastime and passing the time, so his "bet" never exceeds 500 yen (about 28 yuan) each time.
"Eat whenever you want, sleep whenever you want, and I live freely." These words spoken by the old man tian suo may be the state of life that many young people yearn for the most.
But what everyone doesn't know is that such a happy old man actually has his own sorrows and regrets.
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During the interview, the old man would occasionally issue a sigh such as "lonely".
Once, when he went to the bathhouse to take a bath, he saw the picture of a family bathing happily, and he was immediately envious, and a sense of loneliness was also born.
In fact, the old man of Tian Suo has not always lived so lonely.
When he was young, he also made many friends and several girlfriends, and when he said this, the old man turned his eyes to a group of photos hanging on the wall and told the program team about his past.
The elderly Tadaso grew up in the countryside, and after graduating from junior high school at the age of 16, he came to Tokyo to work hard, and later worked in a printing factory until retirement.
When he was young, he often traveled with colleagues and friends, drank wine, and lived a moist and elegant life. But with the passage of time, the friends who had been with him all passed away.
The old man of Tiansuo also had several girlfriends, and he had also watched movies and made appointments with them, but each relationship ended in the end.
Gradually, the old man of Tian Suo completely gave up the idea of finding love and marriage, and he even thought that he might be better and more comfortable living alone.
Then, the old man also revealed to the program group that the reason why he had the idea of not marrying was actually very much related to his tortuous and bizarre life.
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For as long as Tian can remember, he has been living with his parents and older brothers and sisters in his rural hometown.
It wasn't until he was in elementary school that he was told by his parents that he had a "sister" who had gone to Tokyo for treatment because of tuberculosis. Unfortunately, it didn't take long for his "sister" to die.
His parents' claims did not make Oda suspicious, but who expected, he accidentally saw his household registration information at school. Moreover, the mother column is impressively written with the name of the deceased "sister", but the father column is blank.
Oda rushed home to ask if he could understand that his current parents were actually his grandparents, and he was the child born out of wedlock of the deceased "sister".
This dealt a blow to Tian Suo's young mind, and also made him begin to question emotions:
"I don't understand what family is, I can't understand, that's probably why I've been single and not married."
Although the old man of Tian Suo, who has been single all his life, does not have to bear the responsibilities of the family and lives freely, he sometimes wonders: "What is it like to get married and married?" ”
Subsequently, the old man asked a staff member if he was married, and the staff member said that he was not yet married, but had a girlfriend. The old man couldn't help but exclaim, "That's good! Boy come on! Be sure to cherish it! ”
Through the interview, we saw the life of a single old man who was unmarried and childless all his life, and he also lived to be the envy of many people.
Although he sometimes feels lonely and fantasizes about the picture of a family enjoying itself together, he has never regretted his original choice.
To his credit, although the old man himself was unmarried all his life, he did not reject marriage and also respected other different options.
At the age of 82, he is still in good health and faces life positively. It is very happy to have a confidant by his side, but if not, he must also live a life with taste.
Everyone has the right to choose their marriage freely, some people like freedom, some people embrace family.
If two people are fortunate enough to enter marriage and start a family, it means that they have more responsibilities and responsibilities. Because a good marriage is never a one-man fight alone, but two people support each other, and then in the long years, they operate together, grow together, and become a better version of themselves together.
Unhappy marriages are often like poison, and the negative emotions it brings will consume both people to the skin.
Low-quality marriage is really not as good as high-quality singleness, and it is better to be alone than two people's sadness.
I saw a question on the Internet: "Is it better to be single or better to be married?" ”
This is an unsolvable problem, because there is no standard answer in life, and marriage is the same.
George Bernard Shaw has a very bad saying: those who want to get married will get married, those who want to be single will be single, and you will regret it in the end anyway.
Happiness is in their own hands, and I hope that everyone can follow their inner choices and live the life they want.
Praise the article, may you be alone, quiet and rich; two people, warm and steady. Text/Axiaono