The hit drama "Xiao MinJia" ushered in the grand finale.
Liu Xiaomin met the like-minded Chen Zhuo after the divorce, although there were twists and turns between the two and they were separated, but in the end they were licensed to get married, but unfortunately, before they could enjoy the happiness and sweetness of the cave flower candle, they got the news of her husband's cancer.
Sister Liu Xiaojie chose to divorce, she also experienced 2 failed marriages, and finally understood a point, that is, she can first learn to be alone and not afraid of loneliness in order to get happiness, fortunately, the crush on her Fa Xiao QianFeng has been waiting by her side.
The two daughters of the "Xiaomin family" have their own ups and downs in their marriage.
When chasing the drama, the audience can't help but feel the heart of the claws:
If Liu Xiaomin can realize that Jin Bo and herself are not the same person before marriage, they cannot give her happiness to insist on her own decisions;
If Liu Xiaojie and Xu Zheng met, they would be able to see through his scumbag PUA trick.
The two daughters of the Liu family will not experience so many setbacks. But once there is an "if" in the world, it is destined to be an irreversible and helpless sad ending.
The whole "Little Min Family" is like a "chaotic and complex intimate relationship smorgasbord", putting some clichéd scumbags, mothers, alcoholics, PUA control perverted men... These issues are presented in a completely new way in front of the public.
But the women in the play did not collapse because of the setbacks and experiences of marriage, but after examining their relationships, they used new ways to live, or even better, just like Liu Xiaojie, who experienced being imprisoned and divorced by Xu Zheng, but smoothly promoted, for example, Liu Xiaomin, although fate did not give her a gift, but has been working hard, promoted, and her husband has also successfully operated.
It is enough to prove that a healthy mode of getting along relies never on passion, but on sober cognition and a strong heart.
Marriage is never a ladder to redeem a woman's destiny, but it is indeed a woman's second reincarnation.
Human management is important
Qian Feng has been guarding the woman's side since he was a student, willing to be her blue face and spare tire, but why did such an obsessive man confess that he failed to succeed? In fact, it was not that Xu Zheng was one step late, but from the beginning he did not notice the importance of human design.
Recall the scene where Xu Zheng and Xiao Jie first met, the tacit understanding of playing ball, and the vitality on the sports field, as well as the adaptability of persuading guests next to them to cut off cigarettes in the restaurant, he is constantly creating his own personality, passing on to women: sunshine, cheerfulness, enthusiasm, wealth, wisdom, elite lawyers, gentle and considerate, empathetic..., in short, many high-quality labels will be involuntarily associated with him.
Therefore, getting a person's love is actually really important for individuals, because before choosing a lover, we will definitely filter according to the type of person you may have.
What is the secret to wanting to keep a relationship happy for a long time?
High value? Good shape? Rich family, obedient compromise? Or is it a good cooking skill that can cook delicious food?
In fact, the answer is very simple, that is, under the exchange of values, the relationship can achieve a balance between giving and receiving.
Liu Xiaomin and Jin Bo have been married for many years following the orders of their parents, and have given birth to a smart and handsome son, the more you see the end, you will find that in fact, there are really no bad people, but two people are really inappropriate. Xiaomin gives to the children and the family, what they get is the care of the lover and the exchange of ideas, and what they desire is the resonance of the spirit.
What Jin Bo gave was only the economic conditions brought by the father of the original ecological family factory manager, so with the layoff and death of Jin's father, it was difficult for the two people to return to the past.
The marriage relationship is actually the exchange of values, and the ideal relationship must be balanced between giving and receiving to be able to stay together for a long time.
Together, authenticity is important
Xu Zheng has psychological problems in the plot, but in fact, even if he is a person with no health problems, such a relationship is difficult to be happy, because the pursuit of success, and the other party's good cognition If from the beginning comes from "acting skills", then when tired, or the moment after the relationship is stable and removed, it will become a turning point in the relationship between the two.
This is why many people feel that the other party has become the reason after getting married, because at first he (she) just threw in his or her favor and hoped to get the skills you used faster.
But no matter which side you are, if you want to be happy for a long time, it is really important to show yourself authentically, because no one can always wear a mask to show affection.
The three views are not in harmony, and it is difficult to endure to the end
Jin Bo's appearance is really estimated that the audience will spray the screen wet, nibbling on the old when he is young, nibbling on his ex-wife in middle age, even if he is preparing to take the college entrance examination, he does not let go, just like his son said, in fact, he is not bad, but the quality and level are not in the same dimension as Xiaomin.
Therefore, he did not feel that there was anything wrong with disturbing his ex-wife's rest in the living room and disturbing the people in the corridor, because in his world, it was a way of survival, which was not a big deal.
At the same time, there is Liu Xiaojie's ex-husband Tong Bing, he is a "mother treasure man" who does not want to make progress, on the day of divorce, he is addicted to mobile phone games and cannot extricate himself, even after the divorce, he also has to listen to his mother to get back the private money hidden, to return his grandmother's heirloom, which is not suitable for women like Xiao Jie who grow up in a single-parent family, need a sense of security, and pay more attention to independence.
Sometimes there is something right or wrong between husband and wife, but the three views cannot be consistent, so no one can stand it when they are twisted together.
The finale reveals the truth of marriage, the marriage of middle-aged people who can not guarantee the happiness of this moment is a lifetime, surprises and bad news really do not know which one arrives first. The sieve of fate may joke with us at any time, even if the luck is low to the limit, do not give up, believe that you work hard, the future will be better.
However, there is only one type of woman who can ultimately achieve happiness in marriage, that is, she understands that love is not all, can accept the changing reality, can withstand the blow of unhappiness, and can survive alone very well.
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Text/Relief Emotional Station
(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.