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The deep love that everyone yearns for is probably a trap, not so beautiful at all.
Liu Xiaojie in "Xiao Min's Family" met Xu Zheng like this. Liu Xiaojie is the youngest daughter of the family, and when she met Xu Zheng, she had just ended a relationship marriage. Xu Zheng has a good appearance, a family lineage and ability, and can help Xiao Jie solve problems three times and twice, which is in stark contrast to Xiao Jie's mother's ex-husband, and more importantly, both of them love each other.
Looking at what Xu Zheng has done to Xiao Jie, it can be said that he is careful and thoughtful in all aspects, and he can often create small romantic surprises, and it is impossible to say that Xiao Jie is not moved. For Xiao Jie's choice, we are beyond reproach, she has the right to choose and pursue.
There is only one point, she lost herself in Xu Zheng's love, and she did not know it.
Once discussed this issue with a friend, the friend said that when in love, there is no way to know whether he will be lost, and there is no way to know whether the man is reliable or not, but when he gets married, he finds that he is unreliable, and it is too late, whether it is divorced or not, it is a kind of harm to himself.
Indeed, if Xiao Jie did not happen such an extreme thing as being locked up at home after getting married, she did not feel that Xu Zheng had anything wrong, and even enjoyed Xu Zheng's love very much, until Xu Zheng confiscated her mobile phone, asked for leave for the unit, and cut off all contact between her and the outside world, she could see the other side of Xu Zheng clearly, which was so terrible.
In fact, a careful review of Xiao Jie and Xu Zheng's relationship will find that Xu Zheng's terrible is traceable, but Xiao Jie thinks that all of this is love. Xu Zheng's traces can be followed in Xiao Jie's feelings, and it is a pity that Xiao Jie ignored it.
If love doesn't make you better, if that love doesn't bring you pleasure, it's not true love. In other words, when enjoying the other person's love, you must not ignore the feelings that make you uncomfortable.
Xu Zheng made Xiao Jie uncomfortable is constantly escalating, just like boiling frogs in warm water, Xiao Jie is also slowly adapting to this abnormal love, until he is completely awakened by being restricted from his freedom.
At first, Xu Zheng was only suddenly irritable, but he would soon apologize to Xiao Jie and ask for forgiveness. In Xiao Jie's view, everyone will have bad moods, but she ignores the reason why Xu Zheng's emotions are out of control, and attributes that this is Xu Zheng's way of expressing love.
Xu Zheng knows Xiao Jie, and also knows Xiao Jie's classmate Lao Qian for many years, it can be said that the two of them are pursuing Xiao Jie at the same time, and finally Xiao Jie and Xu Zheng have a chemical reaction of love, and Old Qian silently blesses. Xu Zheng minded that Xiao Jie was in contact with Old Qian, and he was jealous, and Xiao Jie also felt very cute at first. As their relationship was established, Xiao Jie and Old Qian also had less contact.
In Xiao Jie's view, Xu just loves her and likes to eat jealousy, which is what we often call the vinegar jar, for this matter, everyone can basically accept it, and this time is still within a reasonable range.
The love between loves does have exclusivity, but this exclusivity is not without boundaries at all, and Xu Zheng's exclusivity has reached the point where there is no boundary. The first time he crossed the line, Xu Zheng saw that Xiao Jie and his nephew had intimate behavior, showed displeasure, and reminded Xiao Jie.
At that time, Xiao Jie's first reaction was surprised, but at the same time she just felt ridiculous, when she told her sister and mother about this matter, her sister and mother both thought that there was a problem, but Xiao Jie did not think it was a problem, but thought that Xu Zheng was too jealous, which was the first time That Xiao Jie missed the opportunity to re-look at Xu Zheng.
The second time was xiao jie's good friend and classmate going abroad, she and old money met at the party, but finally in the group photo, the classmate arranged for old money and xiao jie to stand together like when they were in school, and hugged Xiao Jie. All this was seen by Xu Zheng, who came to pick up Xiao Jie, for this, Xu Zheng was not happy, and it was understandable to think more, but after xu Zheng did something, he had begun to expose the side of his paranoid personality.
Xu Zheng was not happy, seeing the old money in front of the car, it directly crashed into it, although it was just a small car rear-end accident, people were fine, but at that moment Xiao Jie looked at Xu Zheng's eyes, there was panic, but with Xu Zheng's apology, Xiao Jie forgot about this discomfort, she only saw Xu was jealous of the old money, but did not see the impulse and paranoia of doing things.
Xiao Jie's sister and mother were not optimistic about Xu Zheng, and began to worry a little about these events, but Xiao Jie and Xu Zheng got married with a license. After Xiao Jie got married, it can be seen that Xiao Jie made a lot of compromises, such as not docking male authors and not participating in any social activities, for only one reason, that is, Xu Zheng would be unhappy.
Xiao Jie has experienced a failed marriage of Ma Baonan, she thinks that the real love is Xu Zheng, all-round and dead-ended to have each other, and willing to be surrounded by such love, but she did not think about how a person who constantly asks of you can stop here, how can it be so simple to just love you.
Yes, there are too many controlling elements in Xu Zheng's love, his love for Xiao Jie is all centered on me, every time he asks Xiao Jie's forgiveness, he will confess that Xiao Jie is his, Xiao Jie should belong to him completely, and ignore that Xiao Jie is a person and not a private item.
Let Xiao Jie see the true face of Xu Zheng clearly, know how terrible this love is, or because the old money took a ride of Xiao Jie and was discovered by Xu Zheng. Xu Zheng completely controlled Xiao Jie and did not allow any contact with the outside world until he was finally rescued by Lao Qian.
For Xiao Jie, it was like a nightmare, and it would take her a long time to get out. Until the end, Xu Zheng still had to tell Xiao Jie that he loved her because he loved her. However, he had no idea how to love someone.
True love is like seeing a flower, it is to water and nourish the flower with love, so that she can bloom her own wonderful, rather than using love to pick the flower and grasp it in her own hand, even if the flower will wither.
Therefore, if you want to judge whether the love that the other party gives you is true love, it depends on whether there is respect in this love, whether there is appreciation, if you feel that these are too broad to judge, then pay attention to your own feelings, those who say they love you, or love for your own good, whether it makes you comfortable, whether it allows you to breathe freely, if not, then leave quickly, do not hesitate.
Girl, may you find your true love and be a reliable lover.
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