Sometimes you can't find any reason to like someone. But in fact, two people who can really fall in love with each other must have a unique place in the two sides to establish a different fate.
Regarding feelings, the more mature a woman is, the more she understands rational choices.
The writer Su Cen said: "Don't just be obsessed with love, character is more important than this." Love is temporary, character is eternal. When love slowly fades, the relationship between two people must be maintained by kindness. ”
A man who is handsome may be favored by more girls. But wanting to have a happy and long-lasting relationship is not simple.
A woman who is determined at heart will not be confused by appearances. In their eyes, truly attractive men often have such significant traits, and it is difficult to make exceptions.
01: Not indecisive, courageous
Gu Tingye in "Know It or Not", although he has a very strong personality, he is particularly bold in doing things and never indecisive.
As long as he likes someone, he will give a commitment.
Sheng Minglan was initially touched by Qi Heng's affection, and when he bravely confronted his parents, Minglan knew that even if he married, his future life would only be difficult. But for the sake of the people she loves in her heart, she is willing to open up.
However, Qi Heng's personality is too weak, always hesitant, and he is powerless to cope with his mother's strength.
In the end, Sheng Minglan was completely disappointed in him. And Gu Tingye treats feelings, as long as he is determined in his heart, he will not shrink back. When Qi Heng turned back to minglan to reunite, she had already given up and would no longer have any intersection with Qi Heng.
Minglan was also impressed by Gu Tingye's firmness and willingly married him.
In fact, from the perspective of appearance and family conditions, Qi Heng was completely better than Gu Tingye, but Sheng Minglan gave up Qi Heng. The reason is simple, if a man is too indecisive, he will lose his charm.
In women's hearts, truly attractive men have such a significant trait: that is, they are decisive and determined, and never hesitate.
In the vast world, it is lucky to meet someone you really like, and if you want to keep this feeling, you must love it firmly.
02: Broad-minded, not arrogant
The most annoying thing about a man is that he is too arrogant. Obviously, I don't have any real skills, but I always feel that I am very great.
As Flaubert once said, "The earth has borders, but human stupidity has no end." ”
A person's greatest indiscipline is that he can't see his own stupidity.
Truly attractive men, on the contrary, will exude a humble quality, their hearts are broader, and they are not arrogant and arrogant.
When interacting with the opposite sex, men with gentle hearts know how to respect women. They will not casually underestimate the value and dedication of women, and in front of the women they like, they know how to give pity.
Men with this trait can generally better control their emotions, even if there is a quarrel between partners, they will communicate in a peaceful way, not to go to extremes.
Wang Cheng's (pseudonym) personality is very gentle, although he does not talk much, but he is actually very smart and has a clear plan for the future.
Zhu Qing (pseudonym) has good family conditions and many boys who pursue her, but she is attracted by the calmness of Wang Cheng.com.
After graduating from university, Wang Cheng seized the best opportunity by his own ability, and in just two years, he could stand alone.
What Zhu Qing liked most was that although Wang Cheng was very good, he was not arrogant at all. If there are people around him who need help, he is never stingy and will not look down on people who are not happy.
In addition, when he met a friend who was really better than himself, Wang Cheng was not jealous, but would learn from the advantages of the other party.
Although they are with Wang Cheng, they need to fight with each other in the future, which is relatively hard. However, Zhu Qing felt that it was a particularly meaningful thing to be able to associate with men with noble souls.
Men who are truly attractive to women are generally not arrogant and have a wider pattern.
03: Strong empathy ability, know how to love
Some men are very handsome, and they know how to create romance when pursuing you, and at the beginning girls will be moved by these small things.
However, after really getting along, if the other party lacks empathy, they cannot understand what love is.
Just like Xu Zheng in the TV series "Xiao Min's Family", he is a man with weak empathy ability. When interacting with the opposite sex, he is always full of possessiveness and does not consider the feelings of the other party at all.
He also does not know how to love a person, in Xu Zheng's view, as long as the other party is his girlfriend or wife, he should not have any contact with other members of the opposite sex.
In the process of getting along, as long as his partner has done some behavior that makes him dissatisfied, Xu Zheng will expose his true character.
Liu Xiaojie was just joking with her nephew, but Xu Zheng could not accept it and accused her of being restless.
This kind of overbearing man, even if he is handsome and rich, it is difficult to win real love. Liu Xiaojie later decided to divorce him and did not want to see him again in this life.
An attractive man does not actually need to be very handsome, nor does he have to be very rich, but he has such qualities: strong empathy and love.
In the relationship, they will sympathize with women's difficulties and know how to manage each other's relationships. Even if the two have become husband and wife, they are still independent individuals, learning to respect and tolerate each other, and love will not be disintegrated by time.
Attractive men often have such significant traits, and it is difficult to make exceptions.
I like a quote that Balzac once said: "What a man should stand out for is not his horse, nor his ornaments, but his character." ”
If you want to have good feelings, let yourself be a truly attractive man first. Only then will you be able to maintain a relationship full of love and warmth.