Good love can make people have positive psychological cues in their hearts, and then have the motivation to manage love and let it go in a better direction.
Bad love will make people wonder in their hearts whether the love they have is worth their expectations.
The next love, will not be as bad as this?
This is why we should look for a soul mate, because only a soul mate can give us the opportunity to experience good love.
Psychological research has shown that these 4 feelings occur only when you meet a "soul mate".
You will feel that love is so beautiful
A bad love will make people feel as if there is nothing in this world that can give them happiness.
We lose hope in love, even saying that we will not love, and we do not know what it is like to be loved.
A bad love can save people from fire and water, and can use positive psychological suggestions to save people from the mud and tell him (her) that this world is worth it.
After meeting the right person, we realized that the original healthy love would be like this, and that a trivial matter could be full of ritual.
In a relationship, ritual is actually a very important thing, a person who pays attention to the sense of ceremony, no matter how boring life is, they can still have a way to live a sunny life.
The fox in "The Little Prince" explains the sense of ceremony this way: "That is also an act that is often overlooked. It can make a certain day, a certain moment different from other days, other moments. ”
With a sense of ceremony, we will feel that in the process of getting along, a trivial matter is also full of fun and surprises.
With the right people, every day of our lives is something to look forward to.
Become "unscrupulous" and do whatever you want
With inappropriate people, we become cautious because we don't know if the other person will like our imperfections and whether they will dislike themselves.
We also don't know what the other person likes, and if we don't, whether the other person will stop liking us.
Therefore, in order to maintain the relationship, we can only handle the relationship as the other person likes.
However, such feelings will only make us feel depressed, and they are not the feelings we want our soul mates to have.
Prague will make people feel comfortable, and what is comfortable will always make us want to go close to it, to experience the pleasure from the inside out.
In the same way, soul mates make us feel comfortable.
With comfortable people, we don't have to pretend to be adults, and we can be a childish, carefree child again.
And this is the love that each of us should have.
As a line in the TV series "Ode to Joy" said: "A good relationship should make yourself comfortable, not disguised as another person in front of the other party." ”
Become "greedy" and want to be better
When we don't meet the right person, we feel that we have to get by, but why bother to make ourselves excellent.
And when we meet the right person, we will hope that if we become better, we can stand by each other's side with confidence.
Yang Lan once said such a sentence: "The so-called love is to constantly improve themselves, the other party also keeps improving, and then the two people are attracted to each other again." This is how so-called love begins, and constantly falls in love with the same person. ”
In fact, good love is a teacher.
It allows us to not just blindly immerse ourselves in the so-called sweetness in the process of getting along.
It will teach us something, and it will make us feel that the greatest meaning of two people's relationship is to raise the level of life together.
Achieve each other, grow each other, and the best love is to constantly improve yourself and then meet at the top.
It will become transparent and it is good to live in the moment
Sheng Minglan in the TV series "Do You Know It or Not" is a very poor girl, when she was very young, her mother died of difficult childbirth, along with her unborn brother.
Her father did not value her, and she had no honor, no dignity, and some were only the blessings of an elderly grandmother.
Therefore, Sheng Minglan can only be patient, can only be clumsy, obviously very smart but to avoid the limelight, all this is to let himself be able to mix in the Sheng family, so that he does not cause trouble to his grandmother.
Therefore, her life in the Sheng family was very difficult, and at a young age, her heart was like a dead wood, and she had no expectations for marriage.
Until he met Gu Tingye, he gave Sheng Minglan the confidence to let her start to enjoy life and enjoy the beauty of the moment.
In fact, when we meet the right person, we will become "unenterprising" and feel that everything in this world is better than the joy and happiness of this moment.
We will cherish the people in front of us, we will cherish the happiness and beauty we already have, and we will be calm in our hearts and be afraid of all the wind and frost in the future.