Happy marriages are always similar, but unhappy marriages have their own misfortunes.
Choosing a suitable person is like laying a foundation, having a good foundation, and then adding bricks and tiles will be much more effective with half the effort.
Of course, the acquisition of love may not be so difficult, but it is not once and for all, so when operating, it requires wisdom and requires us to spend our minds.
Especially for women, only by using the right method can they experience the happiness in marriage.
Here are 4 tips in marriage that can make a woman's life happier.
For the mother-in-law relationship, it is best to maintain basic respect
There are always people who say that they have treated their mother-in-law as a mother-in-law, but why is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law still so bad.
The fundamental reason is that we blur the boundaries between ourselves and our mother-in-law, thinking that we can avoid contradictions as long as we treat our mother-in-law as our mother-in-law, but we do not know that many problems are caused by a lack of cognition and a sense of boundary.
There is only one mother, this is irreplaceable, and treating the mother-in-law as a mother is not a substitute for the mother?
Besides, how can we be sure that after we treat our mother-in-law as our own mothers-in-law, our mother-in-law can treat us as our own daughters?
The Legend of the Giants says, "There is nothing more painful between people than to suffer annoyance and damage in a place where you think you deserve kindness and friendship." ”
We are afraid that our expectations are too high, and the ideal does not meet the expectations, which will inevitably bring a lot of dissatisfaction.
Therefore, instead of being haggard, it is better to go with the flow, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can maintain the most basic respect.
For the relationship between husband and wife, it is possible to be close to each other and relaxed
TV series "Know it or not. The reason why the relationship between Gu Tingye and Sheng Minglan in "Know It or Not" is so good, and the reason why Sheng Minglan can experience happiness in marriage is that she never controls Gu Tingye.
As long as it didn't involve the issue of principle, other things, as long as Gu Tingye was happy, Sheng Minglan never asked and intervened, and he could do whatever he wanted.
People, when you don't dwell on one thing, you will find that life will be much easier, and the happiness you feel is much more, and Sheng Minglan is like this.
Zhou Guoping said: "All exchanges have an insurmountable final boundary, between two people, this boundary is not clear, but it is certain, all troubles and conflicts arise from inadvertently trying to break through this boundary." ”
Because the distance is too close, always thinking about controlling each other, so the contradiction will increase.
The distance is not close, the relationship is not distant but not too close, and I feel comfortable, both for my husband and myself.
For parent-child relationships, loving but not inclusive
The other princes in the TV series "Yanxi Raiders" are particularly envious of Wei Yongluo's children, because they need to study every day, and as a prince, they absolutely cannot play with things and lose their minds.
The other concubines were riveted to make their children stand out, but Wei Yongluo had no such ambitions.
She never demanded her children, as long as they were happy, as long as they could grow up safely and happily, which was more important than anything else.
Therefore, the relationship between Wei Yongluo and the child is also particularly good and warm.
Gibran said, "Your children, through whom you came into this world, did not come because of you. ”
We can't think of ourselves as parents, so we can take care of everything about our children, not asking and thinking about their innermost thoughts and feelings, ignoring their needs.
What we can give them is our love, not our thoughts.
All we can protect is their bodies, not their souls.
For marital relationships, understanding that "laziness" is more useful than hard work
If the diligence is excessive, it will become a shackle to put pressure on people.
Just like in marriage, if a woman is very involved in doing housework, then she has done everything, leaving the man with little left.
In this way, the man does not know what to do, and in the long run, he will feel that it is natural not to do housework, and doing housework has become something that is not understood.
Smart women understand that you can't be too industrious in marriage, but you have to be appropriately lazy.
For example, guide men to do housework, whether they do it well or not, they must give affirmation and stimulate their enthusiasm to continue to do housework;
For example, let men go down to the kitchen, teach them to cook, even if it is to make a simple dish, to show affirmation and encouragement.
A married man is a blank piece of paper that requires us to paint and to be patiently tuned to be able to slowly "tame" the other person.
The French writer Romain Rolland said: "In marriage, everyone has to pay a price and at the same time to take back something, which is the law of supply and demand." ”
Marriage is never a matter of one person, it requires husband and wife to create their own future together, so that the happiness that belongs to marriage will meet unexpectedly.