Marriage is mostly beautiful in our cognition. Two people who love each other together, do not seek great wealth and nobility, only seek plain and simple, beloved people accompany themselves, three meals a day, all year round, do not worry about food and clothing, so it is enough.
This is the simplest happiness, but some people don't even have such happiness.
This kind of marriage that people do not marry well, and thought that they can bring a good sense of experience to themselves, will only end up being a mess, wanting a divorce but not daring, and continuing to endure can only be a lingering struggle.
Such women are unfortunate, the consequences of their own choices are negative, and they may not have thought that their marriage would be so bad when they chose the other half.
A study of hundreds of cases found that most of the women who did not marry well were actually these women.
Most of the women who marry badly are women who dare not talk about money
Tong Jiaqian in the TV series "The Naked Marriage Era" considered Liu Yiyang's family situation, so she did not ask for a bride price, did not ask for a car, did not want a house, and married him in a naked marriage.
After marriage, Tong Jiaqian knew what a poor couple was.
The child's milk powder and diapers need money, but Liu Yiyang does not go out to work, and Tong Jiaqian can only let her mother's family supplement herself.
Before marriage, Liu Yiyang would let Tong Jiaqian everywhere, but every quarrel after marriage was based on reason.
The double pressure of material and spiritual made Tong Jiaqian breathless, and this eight-year relationship finally ended in only one year.
In real life, there are not a few girls who do not talk about money and do not want bride price, but most of them are not married well.
The reason is very simple, when marrying you, there is no money spent, there is no cost, then even if it is divorced, there will be no loss, so why put you in your heart?
People are like this, selfish and realistic, and marriage is no exception.
Therefore, if you want to make your marriage secure, you have to talk about money, that is, to make men pay.
Zhang Ailing once said: "Spending his money, my heart is happy." Spend his money, not because of the greed of women, because women are not any man's money will be spent. ”
Only when people pay, they will cherish, and money is also the guarantee of women in marriage.
Those who do not marry well are mostly women who go with the flow
The heroine of the movie "The Leftovers Are King" is thirty years old, but she is still single, she is not in a hurry, but her mother can't wait.
The heroine wants to get married because of love, not because she has reached the age to get married, so that she will not be happy.
Therefore, no matter what the mother says, no matter what others say, she will not give in, she only follows her own inner feelings, if there is no suitable person, it is better to be indiscriminate about marriage.
However, in real life, some women cannot withstand the pressure of other people's public opinion about "older leftover women" and are afraid of others pointing fingers at them.
Therefore, they seem to complete a task, whether it is suitable or not, as long as they can get married, they will quickly enter the marriage hall after sloppily walking a process.
Those deficiencies that can be discerned through the understanding of time are all reflected in marriage, and all kinds of problems arise in an endless stream, and if you do not know how to solve them, you will inevitably be unhappy.
The philosopher Russell said: "Much of a happy life depends on tranquility, because only in the quiet air can true joy dwell." ”
Being gregarious will only make people ignore their feelings, respect their inner thoughts, and not go with the flow, so that we can listen to our inner voice and find a marriage that is truly suitable for us.
Most of the women who do not marry well are women who are too strong
Independence is a plus for women, but being too independent will become a minus for women, because being too independent will become strong, and no man is willing to play the weak in feelings.
A happy marriage is inseparable from the wife's heartfelt expression of admiration for her husband, which will satisfy a man's self-esteem and sense of existence.
And a woman who is too strong, they will handle everything in an orderly manner, and there is no need for men to do anything at all, which will blur the sense of existence of men;
Moreover, strong women generally only do things according to their own ideas, and men only need to obey themselves, which blurs men's self-esteem.
In this way, if men's basic needs are not met, they will naturally be tired of marriage, and women will naturally not experience the pampering that should be in marriage.
Huang Wenrong said: "Women who love to laugh are easy to cry; women who love to cry are easy to coax; it is easy to coax women to be happy." ”
There is nothing wrong with showing weakness a little, and being spoiled is also a process of shrinking yourself and amplifying others, and at the same time prolonging each other's friendship.
For women, the happiness in marriage must be more than the business, and the marriage must be carefully considered. Therefore, when you don't meet the right person, when you are not ready to run a marriage, it is better to abuse it.