When each of us gets married, we will not start a new relationship with the purpose of divorce.
Our original intention is beautiful, holding the hand of the son, and the son is old, and we hope that the two people can go to the white head together.
However, the world is unpredictable, and we did not expect that there would be a day when two people who originally had the most intimate husband and wife relationship in the world would be like strangers.
The boy who proposed successfully in the first place will also break his vow to be with us for the rest of his life after marriage.
Fate is predestined, in fact, many things have long been laid at the beginning.
Psychological research has shown that men will not divorce you and are "doomed" before marriage, and these three details reveal the answer.
Love that is not right at the door is doomed to go to the end
The gap between the family of Tong Jiaqian and Liu Yiyang in the TV series "The Naked Marriage Era" was actually reflected long before marriage.
Tong Jiaqian's parents are dual-career workers, both have pensions, and there are several suites in the family, just for her only daughter, from a young age, food and clothing.
Liu Yiyang, on the other hand, is a large family huddled in a dilapidated old house, unable to afford a marriage house, unable to afford a bride price, and few savings.
In this way, two people with a huge gap entered the marriage hall.
Tong Jiaqian did not ask for a bride price, did not want a house, did not want a car, she felt that the love of two people should be above the material.
However, when she saw two people arguing over the child's milk powder, the family was crammed into a small house and could not stretch their legs.
She felt that the marriage that was not the right door was really unhappy.
I remember that Cai Kangyong said before in the variety show "Strange Story": "My impression of the door-to-door pair includes my own education class, cultural background, etc. Different family backgrounds, different social circles, the topics exchanged with each other after marriage will be less and less, and finally lead to couples going farther and farther. ”
In nature, not all fish live in the same sea;
In real life, not all people are born in the same environment.
Men who don't know how to respect differences are doomed to end in the first place
Some men have machismo, no matter what they do, they like to express their so-called unique opinions, and then point out the preferences of others.
In fact, machismo itself is not a problem, and sometimes it will add some masculinity.
However, some people will be arrogant and feel that all their actions are right and impeccable, and the other half can only do it according to their own methods.
Therefore, they force women to do things they don't like, they like plain faces, they ask women not to wear makeup, they like long hair shawls, they don't allow the other half to perm their hair.
You know, there are no two identical leaves in this world, even the fingerprints of the twins are different, the world is different, not to mention the most emotional love?
So
marriage
The previous disrespect will become the fuse that destroys each other's feelings in marriage.
Teacher Zhou Guoping once said such a passage: "There is a ruler in speech, a degree of playfulness, more than enough to do things, understand the measure, know the advance and retreat, and everyone can live comfortably." ”
Marriages that do not know how to divide and respect will also lead to separation in repression.
Men who only pay attention to the outside, because the appearance is together, will also leave because of the appearance
Luo Zijun in the TV series "The First Half of My Life" was a school flower-level existence when he was in college, and it was precisely such a face like a hibiscus out of the water that made Chen Junsheng fall in love with her at first sight.
After the two people got married, Luo Zijun became a full-time wife, and she only needed to spend money to maintain her skin and body every day, and the rest did not worry about anything else.
Chen Junsheng encountered tricky things in the workplace, at this time, Luo Zijun, as a wife, should send comfort, but because he had been derailed from society for too long, Luo Zijun did not know how to comfort.
Slowly, Chen Junsheng felt that Luo Zijun had no other advantages except for good looks, but when he was sad, what was the use of looking good?
Therefore, when Ling Ling, who had a common topic, appeared, Chen Junsheng betrayed their marriage.
Host Dou Wentao, on the variety show "Round Table Pie", when talking about the marriage relationship, once said: "The most terrible thing about marriage is not the gap between the income of the two people, but that they are living together, but the distance is getting farther and farther." ”
Marriage is what it is
Wonder no
Transparent things, need to constantly run in.
The heart of love beauty, everyone has it, but the appearance of this thing is too broad, it brings people a feeling of only visual pleasure, but the sense of pleasure will be limited by time.
Maybe after a while, after adapting to each other's faces, you will feel that the other party is actually not so amazing, and the love that was established because of beauty will also be lost because you can't feel beauty. Therefore, marriages established because of appearance are likely to end up divorced because of appearance.