No one could have imagined that the reader, who is now Chinese New Year's Eve years old, is already a woman who has been married three times.
The so-called one drum, then decline, three and exhaustion, the same thing has been experienced three times, the reader naturally lost the initial expectation, even in the face of a failed marriage, the same ending, she is also a light breeze.
The first marriage was with the boyfriend who was with him when he was in college;
The second marriage is an "honest person" introduced by the family;
The third marriage, after the broken jar was broken, randomly found a person to perfunctory marriage.
Three marriages, three people, different people, but the same ending.
Readers don't know whether it is their own bad fate or the problem that appears in themselves, so there will be an end to marriage and divorce.
Later, the reader also understood that life is impermanent, who can predict what will happen?
Even if it is married, then at the moment of marriage, I did not think about divorce, but with the passage of time, love walked and walked to this step.
The so-called eating a trench is long and wise, and the reader eats the trench three times, and naturally understands some truths.
At the age of 30, she has been married 3 times, and women must remember not to have these 3 thoughts.
Don't feel like don't get a bride price, men will care about you after marriage
When Tong Jiaqian in the TV series "Naked Marriage Era" married Liu Yiyang, she did not want a bride price, did not want a house, did not want a car, and she firmly believed that as long as she could understand Liu Yiyang on the issue of bride price, then Liu Yiyang would understand herself after marriage.
In fact, everything was the opposite of what she thought.
After marriage, Liu Yiyang never let Tong Jiaqian, every quarrel is a confrontation, and it is not painful when crying.
Why is this happening?
That's because only after a person pays the cost will he care about what he has because he is afraid of losing.
When Tong Jiaqian and Liu Yiyang were together, they did not ask for any dowry money.
For Liu Yiyang, isn't marriage the result of an empty glove white wolf?
Since he hadn't paid anything, he thought that even if he lost Tong Jiaqian, he wouldn't have anything to lose.
Since this is the case, then Liu Yiyang will inevitably be unscrupulous.
Therefore, women should not feel that they are full of sentient drinking, and when men pay, they will know how to cherish.
The bride price is a woman's confidence in marriage, do not give in.
Don't feel like you're a divorced person and worthless
Many women will have such an idea, feeling that they are divorced, that is, a second-married woman, devalued in the marriage market, and are not worthy of requirements.
Whoever looks up to himself and does not abandon himself is his own blessing.
They fell into a strange circle, drilled into a bull's horn, and they equated marriage and self-worth, so that they could not be cared for because they were too humble in their second marriage.
When a reporter interviewed the linguist Mr. Zhou Youguang, he asked him the secret of longevity. The old gentleman replied, "Everything must look forward, and it must be opened." ”
At this time, the reporter jokingly asked - "What if I can't think of it?" ”
Mr. Zhou replied, "Don't you want to open a corner?" ”
A lot of times, a big part of the reason why we feel that life is so unsatisfactory is because we drill the horns.
Feel that you are a second-married woman, that is, depreciating, you are not worthy of asking again, as long as the man is willing to accept himself and does not dislike himself, that is his own luck, and he should be aware of it.
In fact, if we ourselves feel worthless, then men will not take us seriously.
So, if we can't get past a bull's horn, we might as well try to turn around, and since we can't go to a dead end, we can turn back.
Moreover, divorce does not mean that our people have problems, but only that this relationship is not suitable for us, and we can only choose to leave if we can't go on, and that's it.
We, still the independent us, are not worthless because of any change.
Don't choose to marry in order to gamble
After many failed marriages, some women may feel that marriage is nothing worth their own nostalgia for, and intend to spend the rest of their lives alone.
However, relatives and friends do not agree, and parents can't get through it.
Everyone is saying that a woman is incomplete if she doesn't get married, and not getting married will make people poke their spines.
Therefore, when she is tired of listening to these nagging, women will gamble and find a man to marry.
Then, the tragedy is destined to begin from the moment the choice is made.
In fact, we don't have to put our lives in the mouths of others, after all, whether we live well or not is the most important thing.
Writer Liu Tong wrote in "Whose Youth Is Not Confused": "Spend more time understanding yourself, and spend less time dealing with others." ”
Low-quality marriages are not as good as high-quality singles, and women are not miserable if they are loyal to themselves.