Conquering men is not about "brute force", such as flattery, such as humility, such as pandering to each other's preferences, such as controlling each other's lives.
Conquering men relies on "ingenuity", which can coordinate the overall situation, take into account love at the same time, and do not forget to consolidate their position in the relationship between the sexes.
Being able to conquer men means that women do not need to suffer in their feelings, nor will they have insecurity, they can "do whatever they want" and enjoy the happiness in love.
In a relationship between the sexes, these are the 4 ways to conquer a man, and using one well will make him obsess over you.
Don't let the other party easily pinch yourself
What is not obtained is always in turmoil, and those who are favored have no fear.
What you don't get is the best, and if you get it too easily, you won't be cared for.
Why has the fox been obsessed with grapes all his life, and why do he think that grapes are the most delicious thing in the world?
It is because the grapes they get have gone through a lot of hardships, so it can be seen that anything that takes time and energy to get, anything that costs money, will be cherished.
When we deal with feelings, we should be like this.
Zuo Yan, an emotional expert, once said: "When a woman is more and more enthusiastic about men, men are becoming more and more cold to women, which is because men feel that women have no challenges for themselves, so they will be like this." ”
Therefore, we must avoid getting too enthusiastic with men, let people quickly pinch themselves, so that they lose their freshness.
We must want to indulge, we must know how to refuse, and we must refuse to return the favor, so that the man's appetite will be hung up, and the man's heart will be caught by us.
If you want to leave, firmly grasp the man's heart
Wei Yongluo in the TV series "Yanxi Raiders" is very good at catching men's hearts and getting along with men.
When she is in a good mood, she will stick to the emperor, think of ways to make the emperor happy, and solve problems for the emperor;
When she was in a bad mood, she avoided the emperor and let the other party accommodate her.
The other concubines would all be emperors who were respectful and respectful, and Wei Yongluo was below the offender, but even so, the emperor still favored Wei Yongluo alone.
Because the emperor could not guess Wei Yongluo's heart, he felt that she loved herself, and he felt that she did not love herself, hot and cold, and this uncertain thing tickled the emperor's heart all the time.
In this way, the emperor's heart was on Wei Yongluo's body, and it was difficult to think about whether he cared or not.
Zhang Ailing once said: "Feelings are very difficult to deal with, you can't put it in the refrigerator, just think it can be stored for a certain period of time, it will not deteriorate." ”
What is too easy to get is that it will not be cherished, and it is not suitable for coping with the changes that occur in love.
Only if you are separated, hot and cold, can you let yourself grasp the dominance of love.
To improve yourself, there is an irreplaceable value
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun in it looks so good, and at the age of forty, he still has a fascinating style and a slim figure that makes people dream.
But why, such a person, in the end, was tragically betrayed by Chen Junsheng?
The reason is very simple, that is, the gap between her and Chen Junsheng is getting bigger and bigger.
Chen Junsheng has been moving forward, and Luo Zijun has been a full-time wife since he got married, never worked, and has never been promoted, so naturally he will open up the distance between him and Chen Junsheng.
Therefore, divorce is also a natural thing.
Luo Zijun's girlfriend Tang Jing told her when comforting her that after the two people are together, the person who is making fast progress will definitely get rid of the person who stands still.
Because this is out of human instinct, everyone wants to be able to explore life, life, the extension and connotation of the poet more.
If you fall behind, you will be beaten, and if you can't keep up with each other's steps, you will be rejected, so cruel, but so realistic.
Therefore, we must enhance our own value, so that men will never forget themselves.
It is necessary to compare hearts to hearts and give each other the warmth that is deeply rooted in people's hearts
How important is it for women to have empathy?
This means that they can detect the emotional changes of the other party at the first time and send praise, affirmation or encouragement in time;
This means that they can consider problems from each other's point of view, and can easily break through each other's psychological defenses and let the other party accept themselves.
Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "I just hope that there is someone who knows that I am not really okay when we say that I am okay; that there can be someone who, when I force a smile, knows that I am not really happy." ”
When women have the ability to empathize, they can have emotional resonance with men, thus better enhancing each other's feelings.
This requires us to consciously exercise our observation ability, to learn to push ourselves and others, to learn to swap roles, and to substitute ourselves into each other's bodies.
Empathy can make men feel supported in this world and will naturally be spiritually dependent on women.