There is a stereotype in psychology that we will always put the characteristics of a group on individuals, in order to generalize and ignore the differences of individuals.
For example, when we mention Sichuanese, we assume that they are not spicy or happy;
For example, when we mention Shanxi people, we tacitly accept that they are jealous no matter what they do.
In fact, this is influenced by habitual thinking and subjective bias, which will affect our cognition to a certain extent.
In the relationship between the sexes, we will also take it for granted that the good looks in the eyes of men are limited to the face and body, the face is beautiful, the body is sexy, then the person is good-looking.
On the contrary, it is not good-looking.
However, a person's beauty is not only determined by the outside, it also has internal participation, if the gold and jade are defeated on the outside, even a beautiful face will make people feel tasteless with the passage of time.
Therefore, in the eyes of men, women are not beautiful, and have nothing to do with looks, but with these.
A woman is not pretty, and has something to do with her personality
Shen Meizhuang in the TV series "The Biography of Zhen Huan" is a real show of everyone, with his own pride in his bones.
When the emperor treated himself sincerely, he also paid his heart, but when the emperor did not trust himself, embarrassed himself in public, and hurt his heart, she no longer had any illusions.
Shen Meizhuang likes chrysanthemums the most, preferring to die with incense on the branches, and has not blown down in the north wind, and Shen Meizhuang's personality is the same, people are as light as chrysanthemums, do not argue or grab.
Shen Meizhuang will never humble and please anyone, but she is not cold-blooded, for the good sister Zhen Huan, she always keeps in mind, worried that she will not eat well and sleep well.
She has a temperament like Lan, not humble, cares about the people she cares about, gives up people who are not worthy, she is rational, she is the best eyebrow sister in the world.
And we should also learn the characteristics of Shen Meizhuang.
Zhou Guoping said: "For interpersonal relationships, I have gradually summed up a principle, that is, mutual respect, closeness and estrangement. ”
He who loves others, he who loves others, he who respects others, he who respects others, respects others, he who respects others, he
People who are related to each other, those who care, then pay sincerely; those who are not suitable, then stay away, not arrogant, not impetuous, and generous, so that they will exude unique charm.
A woman is not beautiful and has something to do with her inner beings
I have seen a girl with long hair and waist, a white dress, and a pear swirl at the corner of her mouth when she laughs, which makes people feel that the world is beautiful.
However, when a sanitation worker accidentally touched her shoe with a broom while sweeping the floor, even if the sanitation worker apologized, the girl still did not spare.
The unbearable profanity and aggressive momentum made me trance for a moment, thinking that this was still the girl who was as quiet as a virgin, like a painting?
I feel that no matter how good a person looks, if the inner beauty is lost, it still makes people feel that this is the gold and jade outside, and it cannot withstand scrutiny.
Qin Mu once said: "The defects of external beauty can be compensated by inner beauty, but the humility of the soul cannot be offset by external beauty." ”
Beauty without the support of good character is fleeting and cannot stand the test of time;
If we have a beautiful soul under our appearance, in this case, the woman's appearance is beautiful, and this beauty will last forever.
Beauty in the bone is not in the skin, external beauty will pass with the passage of time, and inner beauty will be timeless with the passage of time.
With the support of inner beauty, even if the outside is unremarkable, it will allow people to discover the beauty hidden in the depths of the soul in a long time together.
And this beauty is something that nothing can consume.
A woman is not beautiful, and it has something to do with her life
If body is a woman's best dress, and temperament is a woman's best sign, then ability is a woman's best business card.
In the TV series "Who Said I Can't Get Married", Tian Lei, a working woman played by Chen Shu, can be described as a goddess in the minds of many people.
She is decisive, far-sighted, has a big pattern, and her ability to handle things is also clean and sharp, and she never drags mud and water.
When she learned that her girlfriend was uncomfortable because of the man's imminent separation, Tian Lei hated iron more than steel.
In her world, the same knife, maybe the girlfriend wants to cook, but she wants to fight, to get more of what she wants.
Tian Lei does things on a principle, that is, starting from interests and considering whether to do it or not;
Starting from the risk, consider whether you should fight or not;
Starting from ability, consider whether it can be done;
From the results, consider whether it is cost-effective, rather than letting others tell themselves whether it is right or wrong to do something, whether it should be done or not.
Such a woman is sober and sane, knows what she wants, has a clear goal, and puts an effort into it. Their behavior in the world is basically based on safeguarding their own interests, people do not offend me, I do not offend, others touch their own bottom line, they will argue according to reason. Such women are shining, how can people think that they are not good-looking?