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Zhang Xiaoxian said: "When you fall in love with someone, you are always a little afraid, afraid of getting him; afraid of losing him. ”
Therefore, when women pay their hearts, they are prone to gain and loss, and it is easy to make love unbalanced.
Although obsessed with love and giving everything for love, it has to be said that such a woman is not only stupid, but also will not get the real love of men.
In love, smart women don't give up.
Smart women always have their own set of business methods for love, will not be soft, do not rely on uncontrolled giving and flattery, and can also get the sincerity of men.
Any good feeling needs a certain amount of time to test, to go through hardships together, to endure loneliness, to accept the "lowest point" of each other's character, in order to make the feelings of both sides rise step by step.
02, in the mode of getting along, it will not be soft
Wei Yongluo in "Yanxi Raiders" is a "wonderful person", and the contest between her and the empress, from the beginning, the empress lost.
The empress helped the emperor manage the harem, handling everything properly for the emperor and doing her duty. In her heart, first the empress with supreme power, and then the emperor's wife.
And Wei Yongluo was different, he took a fancy to the emperor's Yantai, took it away, went to the emperor's "land" to eat, and met the emperor's cook, the emperor did not say a word, Baba sent her over.
Even if during the period of making a mistake, Wei Yongluo "sold miserably", the emperor immediately could not sit still, and it was to send charcoal fire, but also to send winter clothes and quilts. In fact, in his heart, he loved this little woman and was eager to give her his heart.
Like Wei Yongluo, this is the way for a smart woman to "hunt". If you want the other party to love you, you must let him hold his stomach, let him know what he wants, and then he needs to be not soft and guide men to pay.
Truly love a woman, a man who sees an orange will remember that you love to eat sour. When you see a book, you will think that this is your favorite thing to read. When he sees a trinket, he will imagine what you wear on his body. Buy it, I will look forward to how happy you will look after seeing it.
If you can guide men to love you so much, then you will become the happiest woman who is nourished by love.
03, for their own career, not soft
Many people will remember Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life", for love, ate the "poisonous apple" given by the man, and believed the man's "I raise you". In middle age, because of her dependence on marriage, she became a divorcee.
And "The Second Time Is Beautiful" is also the same, for the sake of the child, became a full-time wife, gave up her future, gave up her bright future. But in the end, it was exchanged for the husband's dislike and change of heart.
Such a woman is actually the most stupid. There is not much time to waste in life, and no one is constantly dependent on for a lifetime. Your parents will truly love you, but they will grow old one day, will need your care, and will leave you forever.
Even after marriage, women should be independent, no matter how much money they make, do not make themselves incapacitated.
Smart women, not soft on their careers, know how to manage love, but also know how to run their own careers, do not rely on men to live, have their own way of life.
Love is a luxury, even if it is painstakingly managed, it may not last forever. However, if you can be economically independent and independent in your thinking, you will not be discouraged when you encounter any problems, and you will not be able to solve problems by relying on your own ability.
Women who have love and career are often more favored by men.
04, when quarreling, do not be soft
In "Dream of the Red Chamber", the biggest conflict between Wang Xifeng and Jia Lian was because of Jia Lian's extramarital love, the two people moved the knife, and they also made trouble with the old lady.
In feudal society, it is not a matter for a man to have three wives and four concubines, but Wang Xifeng poured all her feelings into Jia Lian, and she longed to get all the love of her husband, so she would make a big fuss about this matter.
It is said that Wang Xifeng is a "vinegar jar", but now it seems that she is one of the few women who dares to rebel against fate. She has always regarded loyal love as her bottom line and principle, even if she makes things bigger and makes a difference, she must defend her marriage and defend her love.
However, the non-human person she married, the strength of one person can not shake the pressure brought by the whole era to the woman, and the means she makes are too fierce, resulting in her not having a good ending.
Although "love is not allowed", her spirit is precious. As a woman, you should not forgive men again and again, you should not compromise again and again, even if you make a big fuss, you must let the other party know your bottom line.
Huang Lei once said: "Marriage is a technical job, a man must be a big man in his thoughts or career, and don't be a big man in other things." ”
Truly intelligent women, in the face of things they can't accept, quarrel without being soft. There are principles, there is a bottom line, and they will not blindly get used to men. When noisy, it is noisy, and when it is broken, it is broken.
If the other party does something sorry for themselves, they must pay the price for doing something wrong, rather than getting by and easily choosing to forgive. Because easy compromise will only make the other party feel that you have no principles, and will challenge your bottom line again and again.
05, in love, smart women will not be soft.
Dickens once said, "No one deserves your tears, and those who deserve to make you do this will not make you cry." ”
In the world of love, women must let themselves live with dignity, beautiful and men can not become the capital they rely on, only their own continuous learning and progress, can be self-reliant, in order to make themselves invincible.
Smart women, in love, will not lose themselves, will not easily compromise for love, will use their own unique way, manage love, and defend marriage.
In the face of love, women who are not soft often live with themselves, live independently and attractively, know how to guide the love of their lovers, and know how to see how they want to live, rather than living as men like.
Love that is not soft is like a bamboo in the wind and rain with resilience, always able to maintain its own posture.