Are you embarrassed to spend money on men when you're with men?
First, the tutoring, feel that girls in the relationship do not just let the boys pay, after all, boys earn money is not easy, can spend a little less is a little;
Second, due to personality, I always feel that I will feel guilty and indebted when I spend a man's money, I will feel embarrassed, and I will worry about others labeling myself as material and gold worship.
In short, because of various factors, most of them are unwilling to spend men's money in gender relations, and even spend money on men.
However, such women are often not cherished by men.
The reason is very simple, a mobile phone sent by a charge bill, a mobile phone that has spent three months of salary, compared with the two, it must be the second one that people will carefully take care of.
Because the first one does not cost anything, bumping and bumping will not lose anything, but the second is costly, bumping means loss, and people have the nature of loss and hatred.
Therefore, this is why spend a man's money, the reason is this, a person will only know how to cherish it if he pays the cost.
So, how do we spend a man's money to make him love you more? Smart women show you a way.
Spend a man's money generously and don't feel guilty
The reason why Wei Yongluo of the TV series "Yanxi Raiders" can spoil the harem is because she is "thick-skinned", others dare not do it, she dares; others are embarrassed to do it, she means it.
She saw that the emperor had a particularly beautiful brick platform, and directly asked the emperor to give it to her.
Although the emperor was dissatisfied with her lack of rules, he also gave it to her rather helplessly, and the words were full of pampering.
Wei Yongluo's charm lies in the fact that she dares to express her needs, and she will not feel guilty because the emperor is good to her, on the contrary, she enjoys it.
When we are in love with men, we should also be like this, since the other party chooses to be with himself, it is to show that he is the most suitable person under the balance of pros and cons of the other party.
Since it is the most appropriate, it is natural to pay, and it is natural to enjoy this payment yourself.
Moreover, Zhang Ailing once said: "When you spend his money, your heart is happy." Spend his money, not because of the greed of women, because women are not any man's money will be spent. ”
Men want their other half to pay for themselves in order to satisfy their sense of existence and value.
Therefore, don't feel guilty, spend the man's money generously.
Spend men's money step by step and don't lose your balance
There is a threshold effect in psychology, which refers to the fact that people will not agree to the requirements with higher difficulty coefficients, but will increase the probability of meeting the requirements with higher difficulty coefficients after meeting the requirements with lower difficulty coefficients.
Because people want their cognition to be consistent in the eyes of others, otherwise there will be cognitive dissonance.
This reminds us that even if it costs a man's money, it is not necessary for the lion to open his mouth at the beginning, but to take it step by step.
For example, we want a bag of 10,000 pieces, but don't say at the beginning, you can first ask for a three-thousand-piece watch, and if the other party agrees, then put forward a request to buy a bag.
In this way, the odds of success increase.
Luo Zhenyu once said: "The vision of a person who really does things is to grasp the current and future trends in time, to look at things from different perspectives, and to maintain sufficient possibilities for iteration." ”
Truly intelligent women will take a long-term view, rather than being limited to the small profits in front of them.
Take it slowly, only faster, more secure.
Spend men's money back and forth, don't just ask for it
Love follows the law of balance between supply and demand, there are backs and forths, there are goings and returns, in order to ensure the two-way development of a relationship.
Therefore, when we spend men's money, we must also consider giving, rather than blindly asking for it.
Today's couple consumption method is popular "AB system", that is, men are responsible for the big head, and women are responsible for the small head.
For example, if a man spends money on movie tickets, the woman is responsible for popcorn and drinks;
The man invites the woman to a meal, and the woman invites the man to drink milk tea and eat cake.
In this way, men will feel that their efforts are worth it, their efforts are responsive, and it is meaningful to spend their own money, and then they will be willing to continue to pay.
Love is not a matter of preoccupied care, not to say that the other party has paid something, they must return the same, or indifferent. The price tag is not love, more like business, only business will be because of interests and calculations.
As Meller Sain said, "Love is not who sacrifices for whom, who does what for whom, and once love becomes like this, it is not love." ”
Love is a natural result from the heart, only two people who go in both directions can ensure that love is like water, thin water and long flow.