How great is maternal love? Look at these three mothers in the dream of the Red Chamber

There is a famous saying in the dream of the Red Chamber, obsessed parents Gu Laiduo, filial piety to children and grandchildren who have met. This is the song of the lame Daoist people, which says that the world's obsessive parents have broken their hearts for their children all their lives, but they have not seen several children and grandchildren really have filial piety.

In the dream of the Red Chamber, he wrote a lot of mother images, including unreliable aunt Zhao, li feng, who was bitter, and like Aunt Xue, who was blindly doting and indulgent, among them, there were quite a few great mothers.

Like Grandma Liu, who went to ask for someone for her daughter, as a mother alone, her actions are respectable.

The husband died early, and Grandma Liu, who had only one daughter, could only live with her daughter's family in her later years, and the life of her daughter's family was not good.

Husband Wang Dog'er was used to eating and drinking in a big way before, and the little bit of family property that his ancestors had easily accumulated was also eaten, resulting in the family even having a basic three meals a day becoming a problem.

In this regard, Grandma Liu can't sit idly by, that is, she doesn't feel sorry for her son-in-law, she is sad for her daughter and two grandsons, how can she watch her daughter's family freeze to death in the wind and snow and can't survive the winter?

Therefore, even if she is such an ancient and rare old man buried in the neck, in the face of the difficulties of her daughter's family, she cannot sit idly by, and always think of some ways to exert some strength, at least not to let the family suffer from cold and hunger.

Grandma Liu is somewhat disdainful of her son-in-law Wang Dog'er, disgusted that he did not succeed, and when she had money, she ignored her head and tail, and without money, she was blindly angry, and vented all her troubles on her family.

In the face of her husband's idleness after eating and drinking, Liu Shi did not dare to confront it. But Grandma Liu can't see it, obviously her daughter has not had a good life with her son-in-law for a few days, and now the family is about to open the pot, And Wang Dog'er, as a manly husband, does not want to go out to make a living, but sulks at home.

Grandma Liu eventually took her grandson Ban'er to Jia Province to fight the autumn wind, not for herself, but for her daughter's family. After all, her old bones will count on her daughter in the future.

For Grandma Liu, being able to borrow silver from Jia Fu will solve the urgent needs of her daughter's family, and also allow her daughter to suffer less from the idleness of her son-in-law and live a clean life for a few days.

Therefore, when we look at the humble posture of Liu Grandma when she enters the Jia Mansion, why do we feel bitter? Because we clearly see that it is not easy for an elderly mother to give up her dignity for the sake of the survival of her daughter's family.

As long as the daughter's family can get through the difficulties and live a stable life, she is playing ugly and self-deprecating, that is, bowing her knees, or letting go of dignity, what can she do? This is a great mother who can bend and stretch.

Grandma Liu went to ask for someone for her daughter, and there was a mother who also went to ask for someone for her son, she was Jia Lian's nursing mother, Grandma Zhao.

Grandma Zhao has two sons, no errands to do, and she is retired, whether it is her own pension or her son to start a family in the future, it is not a trivial matter. Life is not easy, every day to open the door is seven things, chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, every piece of money ah.

Aunt Zhao felt that she still had some decency, and Jia Lian Wang Xifeng and his wife helped manage the housework at her uncle's house, and they had the authority to arrange a personnel affair for the two milk brothers, that is, a one-sentence thing, and no one dared to say anything.

But in this matter, Grandma Zhao initially looked for Jia Lian, but there was no result, just like Jia Yun, who initially looked for Jia Lian to run an errand, this was to ask for the wrong person, and finally had no choice, Grandma Zhao could only ask Wang Xifeng in front of Jia Lian.

This is a mother for her son to do errands, just like Jia Qin's errands, but also his mother asked Wang Xifeng for him to get it, in the face of Jia Lian's nursing mother's request, Wang Xifeng naturally would not refuse, and happily agreed to this matter.

From this incident, we can see that Grandma Zhao can talk, and we can see her obsession as a mother for her son's future. After he retired, the family did not have so much income, and the two sons gradually grew up, and the expenses were getting bigger and bigger, and they had to show them the way.

Since she is Jia Lian's nursing mother, she uses this identity to plan for her son in advance when she still has some spare strength, find a good job, and have a foundation for her life in the future, which is her instinctive love for her son as a mother.

For Grandma Zhao, after solving the work of her two sons, she can really put her mind at ease and really have no worries. It is really pitiful to the hearts of parents in the world, when he was a child, I looked forward to him growing up, I hope he has a career when he grows up, I hope he has a good job, find a good girl, and have a stable life.

Parents under the heavens have never had the slightest selfishness for their children, and since they have become parents, they have also begun a lifetime of worry, concern and insecurity, and even until the last moment of life, the most concerned is her children.

It is said that men are afraid of entering the wrong line, women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, and they are worried about their daughter's lifelong affairs, and there is a Jia mother.

Familiar with the Red Chamber, we all know that the four major families of Jia Shi Wang Xue have a tradition of internal marriage, such as Jia Mu marrying from the Shi family to the Jia family, Madame Wang marrying from the Wang family to the Jia family, Aunt Xue marrying from the Wang family to the Xue family, Wang Xifeng marrying from the Wang family to the Jia family, and Xue Baochao marrying from the Xue family to the Jia family...

However, Jia Min, the most beloved daughter of Jia Mu, did not participate in the marriage of the four major families, but was married to a former scholar who was born of noble character and excellent character. This cannot but be said to be a special love that Jia Mu has for her daughter as a mother.

Why is it said that Jia Min's marriage is a kind of love for her daughter by Jia Mother? The children of the four major families know better than anyone what the children are, which is probably the main reason why she does not let her daughter participate in the marriage.

Perhaps, Jia Mu worried about Jia Min's marriage very early, and even chose for her cold eyes for a long time, and it turned out that those sons and sons in the four major families were either of bad character, or did not learn any skills, either had a violent temperament, or looked ugly, and none of them were worthy of their daughters, so she set her sights on the four major families.

In other words, Jia Min, who was once a pampered and pampered child in the boudoir, did not want to participate in the marriage of the four major families, did not want to make political transactions with his marriage, or did not look at it at all, after all, they were some stupid children who did not learn and had no skills, and Jia Mu loved her daughter and did not want her to marry the wrong person for life, so she decided to choose another east bed for her from outside the four major families.

Facts have also proved that Jia Mu did not choose the wrong person, as far as Lin Ruhai's character and learning are concerned, who among the four major families can compare? However, no one expected that Jia Min would die short-lived.

After Jia Min's death, Jia Mu nian and her young granddaughter were uneducated, and soon sent a boat to pick up the family to raise her, Jia Mu's love for Dai Yu, why not because of her deep miss for her daughter? The most beloved daughter died, not even the last face was seen, the white-haired man sent the black-haired person, how could she not be sad?

As the saying goes, parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans for it. Whether it is a village old woman like Grandma Liu who lays down her dignity to fight the autumn wind for the survival of her daughter's family, or the rich nursing mother Grandma Zhao carefully grasps the measure to seek errands for the future of her two sons, or a noble woman like Jia Mu chooses a good son-in-law for the sake of her daughter's lifelong happiness, it reflects the obsession of parents under the sky for their children.

We say that the love of parents has never been the distinction between rich and poor, poor as Grandma Liu, rich as Jia Mu, for their children, they can all sacrifice their dignity and sacrifice their lives, they can all use their best efforts to break their hearts, and even be willing to use their own one to switch the peace and happiness of their children.

I hope that there are not only parents who are obsessed with asking for returns for their children, but also children who are obsessed with filial piety to their parents and let them enjoy their old age in peace.

Author: Xi Si Shao, this article is to read less of the original works of the Red Chamber.