"Uncle and uncle, uncle's daughter-in-law", this is the traditional sense of "three no relatives". From this point of view, As an aunt, Lady Wang does not like her husband's niece Lin Daiyu, which seems to be understandable. After all, blood relations are very important, and it is difficult for two people who are not related by blood to establish a real family relationship.
However, Madame Wang's treatment of Lin Daiyu does not seem to stay in the stage of dislike, but also gradually develops into hate, and even hatred to the bone. That "eyebrow is a bit like your Lin sister" of the handmaiden Qingwen, let Madame Wang grit her teeth in hatred, and after death, she will also raise her bones to ashes, in fact, the author is hinting at us, Madame Wang's hatred for Lin Daiyu.
Lin Daiyu is a very sensible girl, from the beginning of entering Jia Province, she has "always cared, step by step carefully", afraid that there is something wrong with it, which makes the host family dissatisfied. Her performance in front of Madame Wang has always been perfect, and her answers to questions are not humble and generous. Why can't Madame Wang tolerate such an innocent and delicate girl?
In fact, as long as we look at how Tanchun treats Wang Xifeng, it is easy to understand Madame Wang's dislike and hatred for Lin Daiyu.
Obviously, "Dream of the Red Chamber" follows some customs of the Manchu Qing, one of which is that the girls in the family are very noble, and the status is much higher than that of the daughters-in-law. Therefore, when Lin Daiyu first entered Jia Province, she could accompany Jia Mu to dinner with Jia Fu Sanchun, but Wang Xifeng and Li Feng, as granddaughters-in-law, needed to serve soup with vegetables next to them and serve carefully. Therefore, in Jia Mu's room, there will always be seats for several girls in Jia Province, but Li Feng and Wang Xifeng can only stand on the ground, and even Madame Wang must wait for Jia Mu's permission before they can sit down.
If this was the customary rule of the aristocratic family at that time, Wang Xifeng and Li Yi had nothing to complain about. When they were in their mother's house, their sister-in-law must have served them in this way. However, Tanchun's attitude towards his sister-in-law Wang Xifeng is quite intriguing.
Ping'er once said that among Wang Xifeng's eldest sisters-in-law and sister-in-law, what she was most afraid of was Tanchun. Why? This is not only because Tanchun is the most shrewd one, but also because Tanchun has never been willing to save half a face for Wang Xifeng.
Aunt Zhao's maternal brother died, wang Xifeng just sent Ping'er to say, "I'm afraid that Grandma and the girl don't know that there is an old rule, if as usual, they will only have twenty-two", when visiting Chundeng, he was annoyed, took Ping'er and sprinkled a meal, saying, "Your master is really a coincidence, let me open the case, she is a good person, take the silver that the wife is distressed, and she is happy to be humane."
In fact, Wang Xifeng sent Ping'er to talk about this matter, but she was only afraid that Tanchun would make a mistake and provoke people to talk about it behind her back. However, Tanchun showed no mercy, in front of so many people, did not give Wang Xifeng any face and peace, and finally believed that he was harassed by the slaves because Wang Xifeng was "a good person who was in charge of the family in the day" and made it a good person."
The slaves of Jia Fu were brutal for extremely complicated reasons, and even Wang Xifeng almost "dropped their mouths" several times. Their brutality, in fact, really can't complain about Wang Xifeng. Tanchun is so sexy, but it is only because she is a girl in Jia Province, which is more honorable than Wang Xifeng, the daughter-in-law.
Later, Yingchun's wet nurse stole Yingchun's tired golden phoenix, Yingchun could not control it, and Tanchun also calculated this account to Wang Xifeng's head. She ordered someone to call Ping'er, and she counted down, "Your grandmother is better?" It was really sick and confused, and everything was not in our hearts, so that we were wronged like this" ..."Who made her subdue the second sister first, and then she was going to cure me and the fourth girl?"
To tell the truth, Tanchun had trouble finding Wang Xifeng several times, and Wang Xifeng was really more wronged than Dou E. However, the sister-in-law in Jia Fu is so righteous and strong that she does not need to be polite to her sisters-in-law at all.
It is conceivable that Jia Min at that time should have treated his sister-in-law Madame Wang in the same way. Tan Chun and Jia Min have a relationship of mutual mapping to a certain extent. Because the author gave Tanchun a "Min" character, it is clear that she, like her own aunt, is shrewd and capable, but she also has to be unforgiving.
Moreover, Jia Min's delicacy in Jia Province far exceeds that of Tanchun. It can be imagined that Lady Wang's caution in front of Jia Min at that time was even stronger than Wang Xifeng's three points in front of Tanchun. In the long run, Madame Wang had no opinion on Jia Min!
At that time, Madame Wang was suspected of snubbing Jia Min, so Jia Mu once complained in front of people that several of her daughters-in-law were far inferior to Wang Xifeng in the treatment of her sister-in-law. From Jia Mu's words, we can also faintly see That Madame Wang's dissatisfaction with Jia Min.
After many years, Madame Wang's dissatisfaction with Jia Min has not been eliminated, but has lasted for a long time, and she even transferred this resentment to the innocent Lin Daiyu.
Therefore, Lady Wang's dislike of Lin Daiyu is, to a large extent, actually closely related to the over-honored sister-in-law in the Jia Mansion and the resentment of the sister-in-law.