Bao Yu has a dream of "both beauty", hoping that the beauty of Bao Chao's "bright and feminine" and the beauty of Dai Yu's "Charming Yuanna" will be in front of his eyes. Notice that it is a reflection of each other, not a competition in the eyes of the world.
This scene has appeared before.
Forty-second time, the members of the poetry club gathered together because Xi Chun received the task of painting the Grand View Garden, and Dai Yu behaved quite lively, with all kinds of gags and a bit of amplitude, so that the "two sideburns were slightly loosened". Baoyu made a look at her, and after she understood, she "sipped twice in the mirror."
The frolicking did not stop, and Daiyu's "two sips" did not solve the problem of loose hair, so it was soon loosened again. Bao Chao proposed, "I'll pull your hair together for you", and Dai Yu obediently "turned around", so Bao Yu saw the scene he wanted to see the most: "Bao Chao used his hands to tie her (Dai Yu's hair) up."
For this scene Baoyu's feelings, the book describes it like this:
Bao Yu watched from the side, only to feel better, not to regret, should not let her go to the sideburns, should also keep, at this time ask him to sip for her.
"I only feel better", not that Baochao and Daiyu are good-looking, but that the scene where Baochao and Daiyu shine together is good-looking. He regretted that he had just reminded Daiyu, and felt that he should stay until now and make this scene a little longer.
This is Baoyu's dream of "beauty and beauty", what he wants to do is never a flower picker, but a flower appreciator. He hoped that this scene would remain with him for the rest of his life.
Many people believe that this scene cannot appear in Baoyu's life for a long time. Because Bao Chao and Dai Yu are both going to get married, and their origins determine that they can only be wives and not concubines, so Bao Yu can only marry one of them at most.
In fact, Baoyu's dream can be completely realized, as long as Daiyu does not die so early, Baoyu's dream of "both beauty" will be realized.
For Bao Yu, marrying Bao Chao was an unexpected surprise and a great fortune in his misfortune.
There is a principle in reading the Red Chamber, that is, to have a concept of development. Although in the Eighty Texts, the age of Baoyu and the others is seriously blurred, as if they have not aged for several years. But, apart from age, the author describes too many developments and changes in the eighty times. And a lot of developments and changes are unexpected.
For example, Jia Min commented that Baoyu was "stubborn and abnormal, extremely disgusted with reading, and most liked to mess around in the inner world; her grandmother was extremely doting and no one dared to take care of it", which shows that she does not like Baoyu, and hopes that Daiyu will stay away from Baoyu as much as possible and not become the object of Baoyu's "mixing". However, the world is uncertain, Jia Min died, and Dai Yu was sent to Bao Yu by her father Lin Ruhai, and she has been "messing around" with Bao Yu all her life.
Yes, "impermanence" is a theme that the author is trying to express: the world is often unexpected and does not develop as we expect. What we think is within reach will eventually leave us, and what we think is unattainable is closely connected to our lives.
The same surprise is also reflected in Baoyu. In his heart, Baochao was unattainable, as tall as a goddess. As a result, because of the change in Jia Province, he married Baochao. For him, it was a real surprise. Therefore, he used "beauty" to describe his marriage with Baochao.
Of course, being able to marry Baochao is not only a beautiful thing, but also a great fortune in Baoyu's unfortunate life: the family road is in the middle, and he needs someone like Baochao who is "colder and greener" to be by his side. Baochao is not only capable, but also powerful. She will not complain about the hardships of life, but will continue to transmit her strength to the surroundings, making the poor life full of hope.
If Dai Yu did not die, Bao Dai Chao would live together in harmony and happiness.
Although we can't see the text after eighty times, it is not difficult to know through the author's "grass snake gray line" and the development of the plot, "after the three springs go to the end of the fangs", after tanchun gets married, there is not a single girl left in Jia Province: Yingchun Daiyu died, Xi Chun left home, Xiangyun, Baoqin, Xiuyan and other temporary hermits went to where they should go.
When Tanchun got married, the decline of Jia Fu was already fully revealed. Daiyu's prediction that "the back hand will not be picked up" has already happened at this time, and marrying Baochao into the door is also hoping that Baochao can make everyone's life in the decay period a little better.
If Dai Yu hadn't died, where would she have gone at this point? Logically speaking, Dai Yu had reached the age of talking about marriage and marriage, and she should get married before Tanchun. However, because of Daiyu's special situation, she could not marry out.
There are two reasons why this marriage cannot be done: first, her illness is too serious, and no family is willing to marry a daughter-in-law who "falls down as soon as the wind blows"; second, from the perspective of Jia Fu, they are not willing to send the sick Daiyu out to suffer.
Therefore, leaving Dai Yu in Jia Mansion is the best arrangement for Dai Yu, and the best person to take care of Dai Yu is none other than Bao Chao.
After experiencing the "Junlan Dialect Interpretation of Doubts" and "Jinlanqi Mutual Dissection of Jinlan Language", the relationship between Baochao and Daiyu is like "Meng Guang took over Liang Hong's case", extremely intimate, intimate enough to drink a cup of tea together. Dai Yu even took her attention away from Bao Yu and turned to Sister Bao. Here in Baochao, Dai Yu felt the warmth of home again, and also rejuvenated.
Therefore, the picture that Baoyu wants to see that "both beauty" is interesting will become a daily routine, and Baoyu is just an outsider to this picture, and he is also an appreciator.
What images will he enjoy? There are pictures of drinking a cup of tea together, there are pictures of each other combing each other's hair, there are pictures of chanting poems against each other, and there are pictures of discussing each other's butler learning. In short, no matter what kind of picture, it is difficult for Baoyu to integrate into it. In his eyes, Bao Chao and Dai Yu are more like a husband and wife living together, while he is a bystander and recorder.
This is also the real meaning that the author gives to BaoChao and Daiyu respectively: this Jun and Dai Yu are the most perfect combination in the world, they are all extremely intelligent people, they can collide with each other to spark, but also to stimulate each other's energy.
The author arranges this way, and there is another layer of deep meaning: "I have a big eyebrow, sincerely not as good as the skirt of the other", such an excellent girl as Bao Chao Daiyu, no man in the world can be worthy, so they feel sorry for each other and know each other. It can be said that if Dai Yu first met not Bao Yu, but Bao Chao, her fate would be completely changed.
At this time, Baoyu will no longer lament the "lack of beauty", nor will he be "difficult to reconcile", the dream can be realized, and he has no regrets.
Of course, all of the above is hypothetical, and the premise of the assumption is that Dai Yu did not die so early.
Therefore, Baoyu can only "be difficult to calm down", it is he who consumes Daiyu's energy, drags down Daiyu's body, and makes Daiyu die in tears for him. It was he who destroyed his dreams with his own hands, how could he not be "embarrassed"?