No mother wants her children's lives to be unhappy, but sometimes a stupid mother can backfire and be self-defeating, thinking that she is doing her children well, but unconsciously forcing her children to a dead end.
Madame Wang in "Dream of the Red Chamber" is obviously such a woman. After the eldest son died and the eldest daughter was sent to the deep palace, Lady Wang was left with only her second son Jia Baoyu. No one wants Jia Baoyu to become a material more than Madame Wang, and no one relies on Jia Baoyu more than Madame Wang.
Jia Mu's love for Jia Baoyu is also very deep, but even if Jia Baoyu has something bad, Jia Bao yu can still rely on her two sons, and Jia Baoyu is just a "point" of her emotional catharsis towards her grandchildren. Lady Wang is different, Jia Baoyu is bound to become the entire reliance of her for the rest of her life, and the only support she will support in her later years. Therefore, how to go about Jia Baoyu's life path is the issue that Madame Wang should be most concerned about.
Because of the early death of her eldest son, Madame Wang began to take a semi-conversion to Buddhism, and she would eat and pray to the Buddha every specific day (80% of the first fifteenth day of each month). The reason why she did this was obviously to pray for the blessing of her only surviving son, Jia Baoyu, hoping to use her "piety" to pray for the Buddha's protection of her son. Therefore, in the eyes of many people, Madame Wang is a "Buddha".
However, superficial "compassion" cannot change the cruelty and viciousness in Madame Wang's bones. The Wang family in "Dream of the Red Chamber" seems to have a commonality - viciousness. Needless to say, Wang Xifeng had several lives in her hands; Wang Xifeng's brother Wang Ren, who did not show the mountains and water in the first eighty times, did not even officially appear, but he sold his only niece, Qiao Jie'er, after the decline of the four major families, and his viciousness was definitely not under his sister Wang Xifeng; the prince Tengping stepped into Qingyun and committed adultery with Jia Yucun, which also proved the viciousness in his bones. And Madame Wang, even if she often eats and prays to the Buddha, she still has not been able to change the cruel side buried in the genes of the Wang family.
Therefore, once Madame Wang thinks that a certain lady wants to "instigate" Jia Baoyu, she will immediately use her iron wrist and force her into a desperate situation. Jin Jun'er and Qingwen were all such fates; Fang Guan and Si'er were also thrown out. Even if Fang Guan wanted to become a nun, Madame Wang did not agree, "Nonsense, where do you want them to get up?" The Buddhist Gate is also easy for people to enter? Fight each one and see if they're still making a fuss! ”
This is Madame Wang who is "compassionate". Some readers use the term "Buddha's mouth snake heart" to describe Madame Wang, and indeed they have not wronged her at all.
In the name of compassion, to cover up their own viciousness, this trick is used on the servants, after all, in the context of the times at that time, the servants are not a "person", but only the existence of "cats and dogs" in the eyes of the master. However, when Madame Wang used this trick on her son Jia Baoyu, she was not only vicious, but also inevitably exposed her stupidity.
Jia Baoyu's feelings for Lin Daiyu are unknown to everyone in Jia Province. In particular, "Hui ZiJuan love words try to be busy with jade", but also let Bao Dai love, to the world. However, Lady Wang still could not agree to her son marrying Lin Daiyu. She hated this little sister-in-law's daughter too much--how could she bring help to her son because she was sick and pinched her son to death, and there was no one in her mother's family? On the contrary, her niece Xue Baochao, who is healthy and clear, has a delicate mind, and is in line with herself, which is her ideal daughter-in-law.
Therefore, Mrs. Wang supports the "golden jade good relationship", and she absolutely believes that this is for the good of her son. She would rather force Lin Daiyu to die than let her son marry her. In the end, Lady Wang got her wish and married Xue Baochao to Jia Baoyu. But she never expected that this self-defeating marriage would force away her son.
Love, in ancient times, was a very luxurious topic, and it was the scope that these rich ladies should not be involved in at all. However, Jia Baoyu was an exception, he had already said that without Sister Lin, he would rather become a monk. Madame Wang's self-defeating not only failed to allow herself to have a happy old age, but also made her only son disappear completely.
Covering up her viciousness with compassion, Madame Wang thought she was very clever, but she self-defeatedly forced her son away, and she was the most stupid mother in the history of literature.