Wanfu, the woman who can make her husband better and better.
For men, the luckiest thing in this life is to marry a good wife.
A woman connects her child and her husband, and she will subtly influence the child's three views and cultivation, and then when the child grows up, she will pass on this warmth in a new way.
It can be said that a good woman determines the feng shui of a family.
But what kind of woman can be called a woman who can be a husband?
Psychological research has shown that the women of Wanfu have 4 traits, do you have?
Be reasonable and take the overall situation into account
TV series "Know it or not. Sheng Minglan and Sheng Molan in "Know It or Not" are also children of the Sheng family, and even as a daughter, Sheng Molan has the love of her father and mother, and her decency is far better than That of Sheng Minglan.
However, the direction of two people in marriage is completely different.
Sheng Minglan was like a fish in the Gu family, she was loved by Gu Tingye in the palm of her hand, and Gu Tingye did not take a concubine in her life;
On the other hand, Sheng Molan could not be the heart of her husband, and her husband had taken several concubines in a row, almost unlike Mo Lan's house, she was equivalent to a big lady who was hollowed out.
The reason why such a situation occurs is that Sheng Minglan understands that husband and wife are one and the same, and two people need to live a good life to be able to run this marriage well.
Sheng Molan only knew about house fighting, only thinking about how to calculate, never thinking about helping her husband, and the two of them worked together to live a good life.
Thus, one Wanfu, one not Wangfu; one is much loved, and one is unloved.
There will be a systematic and rational planning of money
The sister-in-law Zhuang in the TV series "Golden Marriage" is a big grinning person, a real person, no bad eyes, and a good woman who lives a good life.
She knows that it is not easy to live a life with a large family, and she also knows that chai rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea are everywhere where money needs to be spent, but her husband earns so much money.
Therefore, in order to ensure the basic quality of life and food and clothing, then you need to break a penny into two halves and live a life of careful calculation.
Therefore, in the era when everyone needed to tighten their pants and belts to live a life, Zhuang Sister-in-law relied on her own careful calculations to let the family have meat to eat.
Du Yuesheng said: "How much money you have in your hand, don't count if you have money, you will spend money, only then can you count as having money." ”
Some people only pay attention to eating, dressing, and some people have surplus to store or do other things in meeting basic material needs.
Money is a thing, open source and throttling is equally important, only when the material foundation is consolidated, the days can be better and better.
Have empathy and know how to empathize with others
Murong Xi said: "Marriage is not only two people facing each other from now on, marriage should be two people holding hands and facing the world together." ”
That is to say, marriage is never a matter of one person, it requires two people to work together, so that each other can increase their determination to continue in a comfortable atmosphere.
You know, there is no word "easy" in the adult world, everyone is busy and running for life, and those who cheat have already exhausted their bodies and minds.
At this time, what we need most is to have someone who can see through our disguised strength and see the vulnerability behind our strength.
Then tell us not to be so strong, when no one is there, we can cry out loud, we can find our own dependence.
For men, they are often lonely, because when they open their eyes, they find that they are surrounded by people who need themselves, but they find someone who can rely on themselves.
At this time, we can play this role.
Give him hope and light, give him the strength of warmth and love, tell him that he is not alone in the battle, we will always stand behind him, accompanied by him.
Will not stagnate, always grow on their own
I remember when I was in college, there was a roommate who worked hard, never arrived late and left early, and the homework assigned by the teacher would be completed carefully.
At that time, we just wanted to eat and wait for death, just get a diploma, and her appearance was like throwing bricks into our life like a pool of stagnant water.
Her self-discipline makes us ashamed and embarrassed, and also makes us feel that she has been studying hard for more than ten years in the cold window, just for four years of comfort?
So, under her influence, we also began to study seriously, picked up the homework that we had left behind, and slowly, we also became self-disciplined, and the four-year university life became very fulfilling.
Excellence will be affected, and with excellent people, subtly, we will also become excellent, because we involuntarily move closer to each other.
Of course, the same is true of marriage.
The famous host Yang Lan said: "The best marriage is the joint efforts of two people, continuous progress, continuous improvement of themselves, and once again attract each other." ”
And when we continue to achieve self-growth, husband and wife will also achieve the greatest meaning of bonding, and will also grow and achieve each other.