People who have watched "Knowing or Not" know that Sheng Rulan is the concubine of Sheng Shao and Wang Ruofu, and her status is much higher than that of Sheng Molan and Sheng Minglan. However, Sheng Rulan was the lowest of the four sisters to marry.
Originally, Wen Yanjing was the son-in-law that Sheng Xuan picked for Sheng Molan, you know, when Sheng Xuan looked at Wen Yanjing, Sheng Molan was still his favorite daughter, and he naturally could not pick a bad husband for his daughter.
Wen Yanjing was born poor, was a cold door to raise a son, his father died early, the widowed mother raised two sons alone to grow up, eccentric little son, the conditions are not good. However, young people like this, who have the ability themselves, and then get the support of their wives' mother's family, have a future, and will often be very good to their wives and will also help their wives and mothers.
If Sheng Molan married Wen Yanjing and was wronged, the Sheng family could support her, and marry into the high gate, the Sheng family wanted to help her, and there was not so much face, but unfortunately, Sheng Molan did not understand his father's painstaking heart, only saw the immediate interests, and did something insulting to the door.
When reading the original book of "Knowing or Not", I saw that Sheng Rulan was angry with her mother-in-law after marrying Wen Yanjing, and I didn't like Wen Yanjing very much. In my opinion, Wen Yanjing is not so bad, nor is it so good.
First, as a husband, he is indeed not too bad;
In the original work, Wen Yanjing did a few things, making people think that he was okay with Sheng Rulan.
First of all, he knew that Sheng Rulan was a low-married woman, and in order to save face for Sheng Rulan in front of other sisters, he would personally go to the Sheng family to pick up Sheng Rulan and take her home, which made Sheng Rulan feel very satisfied.
Secondly, when the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law occurred, he also knew to protect his wife, which was much stronger than Yuan Wenshao.
"As soon as the old woman and I got into trouble, Xianggong hid in the Hanlin Courtyard, and if he said something bad, he said, 'Since you don't look up to other people's girlfriends, how do you mean to live in someone's house and move out quickly,' and the mother-in-law didn't say much."
When Wen Yanjing was released, Mrs. Wen wanted to detain Sheng Rulan down to make rules, Wen Yanjing was very clever, ran to find her mother-in-law Wang Da Niang li ying and outside, made a scene, and successfully let Sheng Rulan follow him to go to the foreign post, getting rid of the bad mother-in-law.
Moreover, he still remembered Sheng Rulan's deep affection for him and refused his mother's arrangement for concubines.
Crying in the rain, she is just a jealous and dazed little girl, deeply in love with her husband can not extricate herself, because of the fear of her husband to change his heart, and do not know how to be good, what rules and etiquette, have forgotten the back of their minds, can only be like a child, hiding in the rain and crying.
Wen Yanjing was really touched, and he deeply felt that he had the privilege of three lives, how could he not live up to such deep affection, the next day he personally married the maid, and then even Rulan picked someone out from his dowry maid to make a room, and he did not touch it.
In the end, he is very motivated, although the Sheng family has helped him a lot, but if he is not motivated, he will not have a good future.
Married to Wen Yanjing, Sheng Rulan's life after marriage seems to be much more comfortable than that of Sheng Hualan, who is highly married. However, Sheng Rulan was still wronged after marriage.
Second, he is not so good, the reason why Sheng Rulan is happy is because of himself and his mother's family.
After getting married, Sheng Rulan also suffered a lot of grievances, and was bullied by her mother-in-law. Although Wen Yanjing protected her, in that environment, he could not disobey his mother.
In the matter of taking concubines, his approach was not as good as Gu Tingye's, and he accepted the concubines sent by his superiors, so that Sheng Rulan ate vinegar for a long time.
The second grandmother whispered: "The sixth brother-in-law treats the sixth sister as an eyeball, holding it in his mouth for fear of melting, holding it in his hand for fear of falling, refusing to separate for a moment, but the fifth brother-in-law has to knock from time to time." A while ago, the fifth brother-in-law's Shangfeng gave a concubine, and the fifth sister made a lot of noise, and now I don't know what to do. ”
The reason why Sheng Rulan lived happily was because of herself and her mother's family. The Sheng family is becoming more and more prosperous and developed, making Sheng Rulan more and more comfortable in the in-laws' family, and the in-laws do not dare to underestimate and despise her.
Sheng Rulan was wronged, and Wang Ruofu could run to the Wen family to make trouble and accuse Old Lady Wen, but Sheng Hualan, who was highly married, was bullied, and No matter how distressed Wang Ruofu was, he could not go to Sheng Hualan's mother-in-law to settle the account like he did with Old Lady Wen.
Speaking of Sheng Rulan himself, Sheng Rulan, who just appeared, is actually not pleasing. At that time, she was self-assured that she was a concubine, spoiled and willful, had no one in sight, liked to make a big miss temper, and when she saw that the sisters who were out of the house got good things, she was angry, and she hung up on the difference between the concubines at every turn, so she became Sheng Shao's least favorite daughter.
After getting married, Sheng Rulan changed a lot, she learned to sum up lessons learned, from her mother, Lady Wang, she understood that the power of her mother's family can deter anyone, even the mother-in-law, but it can never be used to force her husband, she understands that as a wife, she cannot always interfere in her husband's career, from Lin Jiaoshuang, she learned to show weakness, learned to talk about feelings, learned to retreat as a advance, and knew how to grasp a man's heart.
With a strong mother's family as a backing, having the ability to learn to manage marriage, and marrying a man who is not too good or too bad, it is not difficult for Sheng Rulan to live happily.
In the book "Why Home Hurts", it is written that when getting married, the criterion for making choices is not passion, let alone love and love, but often a sense of security, not only when elders make choices for their children, but also when young people make their own choices.
Whether it is high marriage or low marriage, you need to be clear about your own strength, be cautious when choosing a mate, do not be fascinated by the immediate interests, and only want to live a prosperous and rich life, but ignore your own ability and the plight of the high gate, and pit your life.
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