In the original work of "Knowing or Not", when Wang Ruofu learned that Sheng Shao wanted his son Sheng Changbai to marry Haishi, he felt very unhappy and dissatisfied with this family affair.
The reason why Wang Ruofu was not satisfied with this family affair was mainly because of two points.
First, the hai family's origin is too high, she is the concubine of the Jiangning Hai family, and her family also has a special family style, that is, the children and grandchildren are forty childless to take concubines, and the girls of the Hai family do not allow their husbands to take concubines. The daughter-in-law was born too high, and Wang Ruofu felt that he was not easy to discipline.
"I heard that after Miss Haijia went out of the door, she rebelled against her mother-in-law for three days, did not allow her husband to take concubines, and the door of the Sea family was high, so a living bodhisattva please come in the door, and the old man asked me how to be a mother-in-law!"
Second, she already had a daughter-in-law, that is, kang Yun'er, the eldest daughter of her sister's aunt Kang.
Wang Shi was broken by a word, and simply dropped the veil on the kang, and his eyes stood: "What's so bad about Yun'er?" Zhishu Dali, Xiu WaiHuizhong, and The cousin of Bo Ge'er, who knows each other's roots, I see that there is no better! ”
Indeed, Kang Yun'er is a good girl, knowledgeable, intelligent and sensible, respectful, kind and kind, and has a good character, but the fatal thing is that Kang Yun'er is very good, but her original family is very bad.
Kang Yun'er's father, Aunt Kang, was lustful and unscrupulous, took a room full of concubines, gave birth to many sons and daughters, but did not raise them themselves, so that his wife, Aunt Kang, constantly used her dowry to raise for her to squander.
Aunt Kang's marriage was unhappy, and people became more and more vicious, doing a lot of bad things with the doting of their mother, Mrs. Wang, and her hands were stained with the blood of innocent people.
Whether it is marrying someone or marrying a wife, you have to look at each other's original family, you have to look at each other's parents, otherwise, no matter how good your spouse is, you will have countless troubles after marriage.
From the perspective of Sheng Changbai's future, Mrs. Sheng persuaded Wang Ruofu, and in order to give Wang Ruofu face and give Aunt Kang a face, she personally made a matchmaker for Kang Yun'er and gave her to Sheng Changwu, the second son of Yu Yangsheng's parents, as his wife.
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Kang Yun'er's parents are all from the family, and the Yuyang Sheng family is a shangjia family, and its status is not as good as the Kang family, so Kang Yun'er is considered to be a low marriage.
However, Saion's loss of horse is not a blessing, and the conditions of Sheng Changwu are really not bad.
"Although the Kang family is said to be a family, but now the official is only one of your nephews, when it comes to the thickness of the family property, the wife knows better than me; your Uncle Wei family does not dare to say that the family is rich, but it is also solid and rich, his family only has two brothers, in the future, Wu Ge'er will be separated from the family and rich and rich, how the character of Wu Ge'er is the most clear how you are a concubine, these years alone in the capital, straight and honest, never a little flower intestines, it is also a good thing to say that it is also a good thing to be close to the family."
Sheng Changwu wants the family property to have family property, to have character, to have a future, and to have a future, moreover, sheng wei Li clan will not be unreasonable in-laws, plus the Sheng family has been persecuted by spoiled concubines and wives, and is quite disgusted with the concubine room, and will not casually give his son a concubine room.
After Kang Yun'er married in the past, she was quite liked by her in-laws, and with her in-laws' permission, she followed her husband to the capital, and she could raise her children personally, she didn't have to serve her in-laws, she didn't have to fight with her concubines, and her life was so comfortable.
Sheng Changwu has always treated Kang Yun'er very well, never touched the flowers and grass, and she has always been a daughter-in-law who satisfies her in-laws, but unfortunately, she has an extremely bad original family, especially a mother who will drag down her children.
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Sheng Minglan originally had no vendetta against Aunt Kang, and the well water did not violate the river water, but Aunt Kang was a person who could not see that anyone was better off than her, and she saw that she was not happy with her, so she colluded with Xiao Qin and tried her best to add to Sheng Minglan's blockage. Therefore, with the support of Xiao Qin's clan, she went to the door and asked the concubine Kang Zhao'er to make a concubine for Gu Tingye, disgusting Sheng Minglan, and at the same time gaining benefits.
Since Sheng Minglan would not let the Concubine of the Kang family make a concubine for Gu Tingye, plus Kang Zhao'er was a girl with a backbone, Sheng Minglan did not want to despise her, so he sent her to Yuyang's hometown and entrusted Sheng Wei Li to deal with this matter. Old Lady Sheng was even more angry, and not only punished Wang Ruofu, who did not distinguish between right and wrong, but also wrote a letter to the Sheng family of Yuyang.
Old Lady Sheng has great kindness to the Sheng family of Youyang, if it were not for her help, she was afraid that Sheng Wei's mother would find it difficult to revive the family business and redeem the ancestral house, so the Sheng family of Yuyang sheng could not allow anyone to bully Old Lady Sheng and Sheng Minglan.
Therefore, Sheng Wei and Li Shi called Kang Yun'er back to her hometown and asked her to go back with her husband Sheng Changwu, which was a warning to Aunt Kang and let her know that the Sheng family was not good at bullying.
Kang Yun'er did not dare to disobey her in-laws, so she had to be separated from her husband for a period of time, and Sheng Changwu had feelings and righteousness, persuaded her parents, and it did not take long to get Kang Yun'er back.
When Yun Er heard this, she suddenly screamed, "Mother! Don't be confused anymore! Although the in-laws and mother-in-law are angry at this moment, as long as I serve well and be diligent, your son-in-law will plead again, and I think there will always be a past day. If you have anything more... Act, the daughter is afraid that she will not be allowed to be with her husband in this life! ”
However, Aunt Kang would not listen to her daughter's advice at all, nor would she consider her daughter, and it did not take long for her to commit the crime of murdering Mrs. Sheng, which completely angered Sheng Minglan. Under the joint efforts of Sheng Minglan and Sheng Changbai, Aunt Kang's greatest reliance on Old Lady Wang can no longer shelter her daughter, and can only agree to send Aunt Kang to the Prudential Division, so that she can serve a lifetime of hard labor and never see the day (Xiao Qiqi feels that compared to the drama version, it is still the ending of Aunt Kang in the original book to be relieved).
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Knowing that her mother was going to lose her freedom for life, Kang Yun'er panicked, she did not know right from wrong, nor did she remember the kindness of Mrs. Sheng to find a good relationship for her, only remembered that it was her mother, and tried her best to rescue Aunt Kang.
She wanted to intercede with Sheng Changbai and Sheng Minglan, and Sheng Changbai also reminded her that if she didn't want to offend her in-laws, she had to clear it.
Dear cousin Kangshi, do you want to be hughed? Do you want to be separated from your children? Then please make the right choice. Is your mother, who is full of evil and can no longer be saved, or is it your own happy little family?
She knelt at the door of Shou'an Hall and cried and begged for old lady Sheng to forgive Aunt Kang, who almost killed her, and angered the Yuyang Sheng family.
She repeatedly took her children to visit Aunt Kang at the Prudential Division, and Aunt Kang's thief did not change her heart, and actually instilled in her grandson and granddaughter the idea of hatred for the Sheng family.
She actually pierced her finger and wrote a blood letter to send to Shudi, hoping that Gu Tingye would let Aunt Kang go.
In order to honor her mother, she disregarded the opinions of her in-laws, affected the relationship between the Sheng family and Sheng Shao, and hindered the future of her husband and children.
Sheng Wei and Li Shi eventually hated Kang Yun'er, and did not advocate giving their sons concubines, depriving Kang Yun'er of the right to raise children, and even Sheng Changwu, who had always liked his wife, did not want to see his wife.
As a child, filial piety to parents is the right thing to do, but you can't be without a degree. Honoring your parents is your obligation, not someone else's, and you are not qualified to honor your parents with the benefits of others, nor are you qualified to ask others to forgive your parents who have made mistakes.
If a woman destroys her future and has no degree of filial piety, it is difficult for the in-laws to accept, after all, whether it is a man or an in-laws, they do not want a daughter-in-law who harms the interests of the in-laws for the sake of the mother-in-law.
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