There is such a sentence in "The Secret of the Little Window": Cardamom does not dispel hatred in the heart, and the lilac is empty and sad in the rain.
If there is really a girl with a lilac-like grievance, men are most likely irresistible, especially for young men in literature and art.
And Sheng Hong in "Knowing or Not" is such a powerful and very self-motivated literary and artistic young man, who likes both poetry and painting, and likes talented women, so the delicate and talented Aunt Lin has become the favorite in his heart.
However, while Aunt Lin is favored, it also means that the original lady Wang's suffering is cold, and the infinite scenery of one woman is always based on the desolation of another woman.
Sheng Hong did not like the original Wang family, it was already an open secret of the Sheng family, almost did not go to the Wang family's room, every day with Aunt Lin for staggering, red sleeves add incense.
It's just that occasionally Sheng Hong will also take the initiative to approach the Wang family, and even go to stir her up, and even take the initiative to sleep with his wife. However, the truth of the heart is that this is only Sheng Hong's cruelest calculation of the Wang clan, and the reason is only for the sake of the concubine's interests.
Men don't like women to still flirt, the most ruthless
Clear-eyed people can see that Sheng Hong has always looked down on the Wang family, a fear that "can't afford to hide", but fear returns to fear, which also makes Sheng Hong's heart farther and farther away from the Wang family.
To this end, the Wang family has no way at all. I think when she first married Sheng Hong, the power of the family was still very strong, and at that time, Sheng Hong was not as good as it is today, just a poor reader.
However, with the help of the Wang family's mother's family, coupled with the fact that he was also hard and contentious enough, sheng hong soon made a steady progress in the official arena, and at this time, Sheng Hong's career was smooth, but he was degraded by the Wang family to nothing.
The most common thing that the Wang family says is how our Wang family is, it is very unhappy to make Sheng Hong, you Wang clan married into the Sheng family is the daughter-in-law of the Sheng family, who has belittled her husband every day and praised her mother's family.
After a long time, Sheng Hong also slowly had a prejudice against the Wang family, and the feelings of the two people slowly became indifferent from the initial fierceness, but at this time, the Wang family was unaware, or called to drink from her husband, blindly belittling Sheng Hong.
Wang Shi did not know that Sheng Hong's heart had long been indifferent to her, and slowly transferred his feelings to the delicate and well-behaved Lin Yanshuang, and when Wang Shi knew, Aunt Lin's belly was big, and she could only watch her husband accept Lin Yanshuang.
Usually, Sheng Hong does not go to the Wang family's room, and only when he wants to balance the Wang family, he will take the initiative to touch her. Just like when Aunt Lin made a mistake and the Wang clan did not forgive, Sheng Hong stepped forward for Aunt Lin, and he whispered:
In the past few years, I have let my wife be wronged, my wife is assured, since the fight, I should no longer condone Aunt Lin, you are big, she is small, you are the wife of the main house that I am marrying, and the pillow person who will share the incense of the ancestral hall with me a hundred years later.
After saying that, Sheng Hong simply wrapped his arms around Wang's waist and gently stroked it. Bombarded by her husband's rare tenderness, Wang Shi still had a temper, and only his eyebrows were left to smile and say directly:
What the old man said, I listened to the old man.
Sadly, even if it is the powerful Wang clan, in the face of her husband's initiative to stir up, it will forget all the previous grievances.
This is Sheng Hong's routine, but also Sheng Hong's fierce heart, his initiative to please and infinite tenderness, but it is a routine preset to appease the Wang family.
Plucking does not mean deep love
For women, it is more emotional than rational, even if it is a little bit of dedication to the lover, they all regard it as a treasure, thinking that the present is the quiet of the years, that is, the deep affection.
As everyone knows, many times under the provocation, just to achieve a certain goal and have to do it, is not from the heart of sincerity and feelings.
Remembering that after Song Siming had a small third outside in "Snail Residence", in the face of Song Tai's crying, he also adopted a routine similar to Sheng Hong.
First show the determination, Mrs. Song is her wife, this point will never change, and then explain that the women outside are a scene, not taken seriously, and finally endure the discomfort, take the initiative to have sex with their wives, in order to prove that they still love their wives.
You see, in ancient and modern times, the way men come to routine women is surprisingly similar, but women are convinced when they face men's various assurances and sweet words.
This is the sensual side of women, but also the determination of women to maintain the family, for women, they have paid their youth in exchange for the years of quiet, the world is stable, is not willing to give up everything ready to other women.
So even if women don't fully trust the man's provocation, it is out of sincerity, but because of too many concerns, they have to pretend that the man has changed his mind.
However, this kind of self-deception can only deceive himself for a while, and after this warming, the man is back into the arms of other women.
In this way, it seems that there is no half connection between plucking and love, especially with a purpose in mind, but only means and acts that have to be active.
Louise Hay put forward the idea in the self-love section of The Reconstruction of Life: a woman can only get his love if she loves herself, and if a woman loses herself because of the evaluation of others, she will not get happiness.
In the face of provocation, women should love themselves
So what do women have to do to get true love?
The answer is: learn to love yourself.
Loving yourself means not living in the judgment of others. Just like Dr. Song Taiyi in "Snail Residence", knowing that her husband has other women outside, she chose silence in the face of her husband's explanation.
It's just that after her husband left home, her tears poured down like broken beads, and she complained about fate, lost her temper with her daughter, abused herself, but plunged herself into a more painful vicious circle.
Even when he knew that his husband was facing imprisonment, he sold the house to rescue his husband, but the life-saving money was taken by the husband to his lover.
In the end, Song Tai's behavior of disrespecting himself also made him pay the price of the second half of his life, and he tasted the heartache and despair of betrayal.
It is a virtue for a woman to love a man, but to love a scumbag unconditionally is to hurt herself.
Women should understand a truth: not as long as someone loves you, your life will be completely better, and you can live a happy life forever.
Psychology believes that the need for love is different from the lack of love. Lack of love means that you don't approve of yourself, lack the ability to love, and the need for love is just a need.
Once the inner lack is regarded as a need, then no matter how hard a woman tries, she cannot move others, and in the end, she is only touched by the extreme pain of herself.
What women need to understand is that a man who does not love you takes the initiative to stir up is nothing more than two motivations that come from soothing emotions and getting more benefits.
As long as women really know how to love themselves, no matter how many routines men have, women will not be lost in the trap of love.