From the stories of "Know It or Not", we can see how to face the problems of children's education and family development
In the original work of "Knowing or Not", we see several families such as the Sheng family, the Qi family, the Gu family, the Yuan family, the Liang family, etc. These families pay great attention to education, but the difference is that some families are gradually moving toward prosperity, such as the Sheng family, but some families are either falling down, or falling apart, and the children and grandchildren are separated from morality.
In "Dream of the Red Chamber", Tan Chun and Leng Zixing repeatedly emphasized that the worms with hundreds of feet are dead but not stiff, and the family clan is often killed from the inside, and in "Knowing or Not", there is also a story, Grandma Kong borrowed the quarrel between the three sisters of Mo Lan, Ru Lan and Ming Lan, and also beat the Sheng family, and Minglan has been remembered since then. It can be seen that this truth has long been rooted in the traditional ideas and concepts of Chinese.
Now some families, family members of each other early separation from each other, many people only care about themselves, will not take care of their families, and some people have no fear of the love of their elders, so it is not surprising that people are scattered.
It is said that friends can choose, but the family can not choose, blood and kinship determine that we must be relatives with this person instead of that person, this kind of thing can not be shaken off, then, when we meet some family members who are not very good to get along, how should we treat it?
The sheng family produced four daughters, Mo Lan, who was also considered to be ice and snow smart, but because she was raised by her mother Lin Xiaoniang since childhood, she learned some selfish and selfish intentions and the behavior of the concubines, and finally almost did some things to go home and exterminate the clan.
But at the end of the story, when Minglan rebuilt the ancestral hall in the Gu family, he not only invited his grandmother, father, brother-in-law, sister-in-law, sister-in-law, and brother-in-law, but also did not forget to invite Mo Lan.
Who is Merlin? Although she is Minglan's sister, she is also the daughter of Minglan's mother-killer. Mo Lan also tried to cut through Minglan's face and ruined her life, but in the end, Minglan did not know whether to choose to forgive or forget, in short, when rebuilding the ancestral hall, she also invited Mo Lan. Why?
It is undeniable that at that time, Minglan, Nirvana was reborn, and life was already very good. Generally speaking, people who live happily on their own are very easy and willing to help others and wish others to live the same happiness, and Minglan is no exception, not to mention that she is originally very kind.
She invited Mo Lan, and the old lady was also very enthusiastic about Mo Lan, not because of anything else, but because Mo Lan was still the Sheng family, Aunt Lin had long been unable to influence her, and she could still save her.
Because Mo Lan could still be saved, Old Lady Sheng and Minglan had no intention of abandoning her. Now that the Sheng family is in the sky, even if Mo Lan makes a black heart, he can no longer hurt the interests of the Sheng family as before. Therefore, in line with the original intention and good wish to make every member of the family better, Mrs. Sheng and Minglan still chose to accept Mo Lan, of course, the premise is that Mo Lan can no longer churn out other moths.
This is the manifestation of a long-term vision and a broad mind. It was really not easy to do, and the Sheng family at that time was already in the sky, able to tolerate a small Mo Lan. If the Sheng family is self-conscious, as tattered and crumbling as In "Dream of the Red Chamber" In the future, I am afraid that Mo Lan will be difficult to be accepted again.
Speaking of Mo Lan, I have to mention her self-made cleverness.
Mo Lan thought of Qi Heng in her heart, she didn't really like Qi Heng, just as Aunt Lin didn't like Sheng Heng so much at all, this woman married people, using men and husbands' families, using them as a ladder to achieve a good life for herself. Mo Lan aligned the balance, too, which was a naked exploitation
But in the original work of "Knowing or Not", Qi Heng not only recognized the true face of Mo Lan, but also did not expose her.
Because, as long as you are not blind, most people can see what kind of character Mo Lan is, even if they don't know, inquire that she was raised by the Sheng family's favored concubines, and they can figure out one, two or three. Just as the Count of Yongchang said to Lady Wang, "You and I know where she comes from", and by virtue of this alone, the women in the back house can see that they are slim.
In the original work, Qi Heng also knew what kind of girl Mo Lan was, but he never poked it, just waited and watched, and did not respond.
Qi Heng did this for the following reasons: one is that this is the cultivation of him by the Lord of Pingning County, puncturing the false tricks of others' self-righteousness, which is not good for the other party; the other is that Mo Lan likes to be smart and treats others as fools, qi Heng cooperates with her, and can also satisfy her pride.
Therefore, this is the Qi family's tutor, Qi Heng's cultivation, and his cleverness. This is to see through not to puncture, life like Mo Lan such as both arrogant and self-righteous people are very common, but most people just turn a blind eye, seek common ground while reserving differences, understand on the line, do not think too much.
Let's talk about Mo Lan's husband Liang Han. The Liang family developed in general, in the decline, the Liang family Wu Lady is a shrewd person, she looks at Minglan, wants to say to Liang Han, but Liang Han can only see Mo Lan.
Of course, Lady Wu didn't like Mo Lan, but she wouldn't be able to fight with her daughter-in-law, after all, a few concubines in Liang Han's house were enough for Mo Lan to deal with. Another crisis in the Liang family is that the eldest son of shu is more involved than the eldest son of the concubine and the rest of the concubines, so once the old uncle of the Liang family dies, the two husbands and wives of the eldest son of the Liang family plan to separate the family and compete for property and titles.
This shows a problem from the side, the Gu family's more vicious little Qin clan has long planned for his son to inherit the title. Her methods were of course dirty, at first she intended to raise Gu Tingye in a murderous way, and then she conspired with Gu's parents to drive him away, and everything she did was to pave the way for her son's future.
One of the reasons why the Qi family has gone downhill is that the heirs are thin, and even if the son Qi Heng has a chance, the help is limited. The disadvantage of the Gu family and the Liang family is that they are not good at management and education, and Gu Tingyu, the son of Gu's parents, is of course a powerful role. There are many sons of the Liang family, but they are not used, but they let the eldest son of Shu out steal the limelight. Hua Lan's husband's yuan family, the worst part is that Yuan Da Niang is confused and biased towards the eldest son and daughter-in-law, fortunately, Hua Lan's husband is angry, and the father-in-law and sister-in-law understand people, otherwise the Yuan family will not be able to escape the fate of decline.
In modern society, people care about the honor and disgrace of individuals and small families far more than the development of the entire big family, and few people have a sense of family, especially in inland areas, more people just sweep the snow in front of the door and take care of others.
References: "Do you know whether it should be green fat red thin", the author cares about chaos, China Overseas Chinese Publishing House.