There is a very classic sentence in "Knowing or Not" that is repeatedly reflected: Parents love their children, and they must plan far-reaching.
As Sheng Hong's concubine, Lin Xiaoniang was deeply loved by Sheng Hong. As a concubine, Sheng Hong not only gave her a decent face, but also gave her a Zhuangzi shop, and even gave her the right to be a housekeeper. Except for a name, she is better than Sheng Hong's serious wife.
So Aunt Lin felt that if a woman wants to have a good belonging, she must find the favor of a man with a good family.
Therefore, Lin Xiaoniang worked hard for her daughter Mo Lan. Finally plotted a good high-gate marriage for Mo Lan, for which she did not hesitate to sacrifice the reputation of the Sheng family, and even lost her own life, but Lin Xiaoniang did not know until her death that she had bothered to plan the marriage for her daughter, in fact, her daughter was not happy.
While teaching her daughter etiquette and filial piety, Lin Xiaoniang was also disrespectful to her elders
"The love of a parent's son will be far-reaching." I believe that any parent is willing to plan for the happiness of their children.
Originally, Lin Xiaoniang and Sheng Hong calculated to send Mo Lan to the old lady's name to raise, which could not only please the old lady, but also stain the old lady's reputation. In addition to finding a better in-laws in the future, you may also be able to get the old lady's huge dowry.
Therefore, Lin Xiaoshuang tried every means to promote this matter, in order to keep Mo Lan by mrs. Sheng's side, Lin Xiaoniang taught Mo Lan etiquette and filial piety.
However, Mo Lan has been raised by Lin Xiaoniang's side since he was a child, and he is arrogant and willful in learning, and he will stop at nothing for the purpose, Mo Lan seems to be weak on the outside, but in fact, he is fierce on the inside. Like her mother, Lin Xiaoniang, she is obviously a common woman, but she is competitive in everything and always wants to suppress others.
Lin Xiaoniang did all superficial kung fu to the old lady, without half a touch of closeness, let alone half respect. And Lin Xiaoniang always takes her own successful cases and believes that she does not need to pay sincerity to others.
Therefore, Mo Lan has a kind of learning for the old lady, which is also a set of superficial and behind-the-scenes, but Lin Xiaoniang is very appreciative of Mo Lan's behavior. Eventually, the opportunity to be raised in the name of the old lady was lost.
As a concubine of the Sheng family, lin Xiaoniang was deeply loved by Sheng Hong, and she also knew that as long as Sheng Hong was happy with her children in the Sheng family, she would not suffer losses.
Therefore, she taught her children etiquette and filial piety not to better achieve the child's own success, but to please Sheng Hong. Mo Lan is clever and clever, and his appearance and literary style are outstanding at a young age, but Mo Lan learns these things not to apply what he has learned, but to please Sheng Hong, so that he can get more favors.
Therefore, when facing the old lady, she asked Mo Lan to use the same method to treat the old lady, but the old lady was not Sheng Hong after all, and Lin Xiaoniang's little calculation, how could the old lady not understand it.
What Lin Xiaoniang didn't know was that Mo Lan lost the opportunity to be raised by Mrs. Sheng's side, and it was the opportunity for Mo Lan to change his fate.
Lin Xiaoniang taught Mo Lan to advance, and at the same time taught her to take shortcuts
From a young age, Mo Lan knew how to make his father Sheng Hong happy. Therefore, in the Sheng family, Mo Lan, as the daughter of Shu Chu, received more love than the daughter of Ru Lan. But Mo Lan followed Lin Xiaoniang and doomed her to study badly in character.
The Sheng family invited the knowledgeable Zhuang Xue to teach the Sheng family's sons, and Lin Xiaoniang knew that Qi Heng, the prince of the Duke of Qi, would also come to listen to the lectures, so she pestered Sheng Hong to let Mo Lan study.
It was definitely good for Sheng Hong to have a self-motivated daughter, but in that era, men and women were defensive, and women who were not out of the cabinet could not meet with men. Therefore, It made Sheng Hong very embarrassed.
Fortunately, Mrs. Sheng was wise and persuaded Sheng Hong to let her three granddaughters learn from her brother.
Originally, Mo Lan's opportunity to enter the academy as a daughter of Shu was a good learning opportunity. Not only could she get the advice of her brother and Qi Heng in her knowledge. I can also hear the teachings of Confucianism, and these insights are good talking points for her to attend the banquets of those high-ranking households in the future.
But Mo Lan entered the school under the guidance of her mother, and she only focused on two points, one was to suppress her two younger sisters, and the other was to find an opportunity to get close to Qi Heng and prepare for her marriage. Therefore, Mo Lan did not learn anything in the academy, but instead fought with his sisters.
Just like when Mrs. Sheng asked Grandma Kong to teach them etiquette, Mo Lan did not study seriously, but to compete and show herself.
Old Lady Sheng borrowed Grandma Kong's mouth to teach them what is sisterly affection, what is easy to prosper and what is to lose.
It is also a direct teaching for Lin Xiaoniang to learn to recognize her identity and position. Unfortunately, Lin Xiaoniang was preoccupied with how to get rid of the crime, and did not listen to it at all. Maybe she simply thought That Grandma Kong was eventful.
Isn't Moran smart? She was smart, and seeing that she could make Rulan eat every time she knew that Mo Lan was very smart. It's just a pity that her cleverness is not used on the right path, but on competing with her sisters. And her pattern was influenced by Lin Xiaoniang and was destined to focus only on her own acre and three points of land.
This is Lin Xiaoniang's short-sightedness, and it is also the original sin of Mo Lan's original family.
Lin Xiaoniang taught Mo Lan to marry high, and at the same time taught her to self-destruct her reputation
In Lin Xiaoniang's view, as long as a woman can hold the hearts of men and women, she will be happy, just like she successfully seduced Sheng Hong. At the beginning, the combination of Sheng Hong and Lin Xiaoniang was actually not glorious, and everyone knew that Lin Xiaoniang was pregnant and entered the door to force the eldest lady to drink the concubine's tea.
But Lin Xiaoniang did not feel that there was anything wrong with it, but was complacent about her successful design of Sheng Hong. Therefore, Lin Xiaoniang taught Mo Lan that he must marry a high-ranking family.
Lin Xiaoniang first looked at Qi Heng, but the door of the Qi Principality was too high, plus Qi Heng did not like Mo Lan, and Qi Heng's mother's strength also made Lin Xiaoniang and Mo Lan have to give up.
Then Lin Xiaoniang took a fancy to the Liang family, which was also one of the highest-gate households in the capital, the Earl's Palace, but the Liang family was much deeper than the Sheng family. Originally, the Liang family's Wu Grand Lady was interested in Minglan, and she also asked to marry despite the fact that Minglan was a concubine.
In fact, it is not how much Lady Wu likes Minglan, but the internal struggle of the Liang family requires her to find a daughter-in-law candidate as soon as possible. In a hurry, Lady Wu had a good impression of Minglan, and naturally hoped to marry a daughter-in-law who was in line with her own wishes.
According to the consistent style of Lin Xiaoniang and Mo Lan, as long as it belongs to the sister, it can be grabbed. So in Mo Lan's deliberate design, Liang Han walked into the trap of Lin Xiaoniang and Mo Lan.
Lin Xiaoniang didn't care about her reputation, she thought she was smart, she had pinched Sheng Hong for more than twenty years, thinking that Mo Lan could also pinch Liang Han for decades. But what she didn't know was that Liang Han was not Sheng Hong, he was originally a playboy, and it was also because he had enlarged the belly of the girl, and Lady Wu rushed to find a wife candidate for him. Such a person is destined not to be devoted.
Therefore, when Mo Lan ruined his reputation, he also broke the father-daughter relationship with Sheng Hong, and even married into the Liang family at the cost of Lin Xiaoniang's life. Finally, as her mother expected, she became the grand lady of the Earl's Court.
However, Aunt Lin only taught Mo Lan how to compete for favors, but did not teach her the ability to manage and manage people. Without Lin Xiaoniang's teaching, Mo Lan went farther and farther on the road to death, Mo Lan married and did not live his own life well, and also wrestled Liang Han and Minglan every day, and had to prove that he was better married than Minglan before stopping.
In the end, she rebelled and left, her mother's family did not want to see her, and her in-laws had no place to stand. Even The squirrel chose to betray her. In this marriage, she lost completely. In the end, he turned his life as a tragedy.
As a mother, Lin Xiaoniang is beyond reproach for seeking happiness for Mo Lan, but her only knowledge has pushed Mo Lan into the abyss of misfortune.
The writer Uncle Liang said: "Cognitive ability determines what is the right thing, which is 100 times more important than doing things correctly." ”
Therefore, a person's cognitive ability determines how far she can go.
In addition to his mother's cognitive ability, Mo Lan's tragedy also has a lot to do with Mo Lan's own cognitive ability and spiritual inability to be independent.
In fact, if Mo Lan changes her thinking and maintains her marriage from the pattern of being the head of the family, her life may have a turnaround, but she chose to fight for the wind and jealousy to the end.
In the tragic world there is such a saying: "Where the feet cannot reach, the eyes can reach, and where the eyes cannot reach, the spirit can fly." ”