Su Shi once sighed:
"Life is like a journey against the grain, and I am also a pedestrian."
Indeed, in this materialistic world, it is really hard enough to be human.
A sudden rain in life always catches you off guard;
There is always someone in life who will make you scratch your body;
All kinds of suffering suddenly began before the rehearsal...
In this long and bumpy life journey, it is not easy for us to live this life well.
Not only do you need to keep trying hard, but you also need to have a strong heart.
So how can we know if a person is strong inside? In fact, people with strong hearts often have these three qualities.
Can carry things
Writer John Owen said:
"To be brave is to accept what has happened to you and do it as best you can."
In this world, there will always be too much suffering that comes suddenly, whether you are ready or not, whether you can bear it or not.
If you don't have a strong heart, then in the face of difficulties, you will often mess up your position first, and even be completely defeated.
Only if the heart is strong enough, can it not escape, not shrink back, and have the courage to take on everything.
In the TV series "Know It or Not", there is such a plot.
Sheng Xuan, the lord of the Sheng family, was left in the palace by the official family.
Seeing that Sheng Hong had not returned for a long time, the whole Sheng family was panicked, and the grand lady Wang Ruofu was even more anxious to run to the old lady Sheng and shout that the sky had collapsed.
In the face of this situation, Mrs. Sheng was surprisingly calm, and then calmly analyzed the situation to stabilize people's hearts, and instructed Wang Ruofu to take care of the inner house, not to have nothing outside, and the family was in chaos.
In fact, this is the difference between being strong inside and not being strong.
The grand lady Wang Ruofu has had a smooth life from childhood to adulthood, has not encountered anything, and has not experienced any major disasters, and her heart will naturally be very fragile.
And Mrs. Sheng has experienced great winds and waves, and her inner strength is very accessible to people.
Everyone's life will not be smooth.
When the critical blows of life strike again and again, the kind of people who can carry things and withstand the pressure of life are too often not because of their ability, but because they have a strong heart.
It is precisely because they are strong in their hearts that they can cut through the thorns and thorns in the disasters of life and move forward.
No complaints
There is a saying:
"The weak will only look for external problems when they encounter things, and the strong will attribute inwards and find reasons from themselves."
Indeed, this is what people are.
The more fragile people are, the more they can't bear their own failures, so when they face failures, they will always find a reasonable excuse for their failures by complaining about others and complaining about the environment.
I have seen such a story on the Internet:
After graduating from college, a young man went to work in a big city with his girlfriend.
Men who were originally full of confidence and self-reliance, when they entered the big city, they ran into walls everywhere, and even their proud skills were reduced to nothing.
In the face of life's unhappiness, men not only do not reflect on themselves, but just blindly complain.
Either complaining about the social reality, or complaining that he did not meet Bole, or even just because others said two words that he did not like to hear, he beat up and finally lived a mess.
So is it really a man who complains like that, life is just too unfair to him, just that he has a hard time?
In fact, this is not the case, no one living in this world is easy, and no one is not hard.
The reason why he is the only one complaining is because of his fragile heart.
Bai Yansong said:
"The youth of no generation is easy. Each generation has the fate of each generation, the grievances and struggles, and there is nothing to complain about. ”
People with strong hearts, they can withstand all adversity, everything is not easy, even if it is bitter, they will not complain.
Because they understand that there is no point in complaining, and only by trying to change can we solve the problem and get out of the predicament.
Denial of fate
Wilde said:
"We're all in the gutter, but there are still people looking up at the stars. Those who look up at the starry sky must have endless dreams and hopes in their hearts. ”
In this world, perhaps confessing one's fate is the easiest thing to do.
If a thing is too difficult, it will admit it, lie flat, and eventually let it go. Just doing nothing is really too simple.
But what about after confessing your fate? After confessing one's fate, the problem will not only not be solved, but will become more and more serious, and the final destruction will be a person's entire life.
People with strong hearts do not bow to suffering, but are able to face difficulties head-on and then bravely pursue light and happiness.
In the TV series "Special Combat Glory", it is actually about a group of predatory soldiers who are not afraid of difficulties for their dreams, and even bravely turn the impossible into possible.
In the play, not only the male protagonist Yan Baoyue, in fact, everyone is fighting for the soldiers who enter the cheetah commando team, and they are fighting with suffering.
Face physical exhaustion, face the difficulties of the future.
They can finally hold on, not only by relying on excellent military skills, but also by the belief that they will never give up.
After all, in such a bitter environment, even the best technology can not avoid suffering, and it is the pain of breaking through the physiological limit.
We often say one thing:
"Suffering is a coward, and when you really pull out your sword and give up your life to fight, he will run away long ago."
People who are truly strong inside, they are not intimidated by pain, by adversity.
In the face of difficulties, they will adjust their mentality and adapt.
When there is no timidity in the heart, then no matter how big the problem, there is always a way to solve it, so as to eventually usher in the willow dark flowers.
The old saying has clouds:
"Destiny is made by oneself, and blessings are sought by oneself."
No matter what the environment, it is possible to turn the situation around.
A person's fate is hidden in his mentality in the face of problems.
When your heart is strong, then you can live openly, sincerely love, work tirelessly, and finally meet a better tomorrow.
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