Text/Good Pregnant Sister
Yesterday, a friend suddenly issued such an exclamation: "Seven or eight years have passed, and the gap between a few people in our university and dormitory is really getting bigger and bigger." The girl who was admitted to graduate school after graduating from her senior year is still very good.
I heard that I later read a doctorate from the Chinese Academy of Sciences and am now teaching at a university in Beijing; although I am admitted to the civil service, although I am tired of shouting all day, it is better than someone like me who is about to face a mid-life crisis, is dominated by performance all day, and will be eliminated from the workplace at any time.
I wasn't afraid of your jokes, I used to think I was no different from the girl who stayed in Beijing. Even consoled herself that she was just trying harder than I was.
But now people have decent jobs, and I stay in a small 18-tier city, and my job is precarious. There are often people chatting in the group of classmates, and I rarely bubble up in it. Too much cooking, strange embarrassment. “
Alas, I was overwhelmed by this remark.
Indeed, why do people who obviously start from the same point slowly open up such a big gap? Where are those who are getting stronger and stronger?
In the eyes of many people, a person's ability determines whether he has the ability and whether he can become a strong person. But more important than ability, it is actually the human heart.
This is because a person's inner activities not only determine his way of thinking, but also affect a person's behavior and behavior.
It is no exaggeration to say that those who are tough in heart and strong in heart can go further.
I thought about the people I had met. Suddenly, I found that people who are really strong in their hearts actually have something in common.
If you find that your child has these qualities, don't underestimate them. Such children are often particularly strong in their hearts, which is not simple.
Mature and calm, with strong toughness
As the saying goes, "Nine times out of ten things are not satisfactory in life." In life, no one lives easily, and everyone is carrying the weight forward. But in the face of suffering, people's attitudes are very different.
Most people who are psychologically fragile write pain on their faces, eager to tell the world how miserable they are. Children who are truly strong inside often have maturity and calmness beyond their age.
No matter what kind of grievances and setbacks they suffer, they never complain about others and give up on themselves. Instead, they stomp their suffering under their feet, swallow complaints, and desperately try to improve their abilities.
Such a child, no matter what he does, is particularly energetic. There is a stubbornness not to give up until the goal is reached.
The reason why they are so awake in the world is because they understand that if they often cry, they cannot see the stars. Instead of bursting with negative energy all day, it is better to face it calmly. Precipitating in silence, metamorphosing in silence, and becoming stronger in silence.
Keep a low profile and don't show off
Usually, we often meet some people, with a little money in their pockets or a little achievement, and they show their sense of superiority everywhere.
As everyone knows, the self-defense mechanism of "the more you lack something, the more you like to show off something", can temporarily eliminate their uneasiness and pain, and satisfy a certain lack of heart. But others will not look up to this, but will disgustedly think that such a person is shallow and inferior.
And a child who is truly strong in heart does not have a false vanity. Their hearts are full of security and self-confidence, which makes them not humble at any time.
They are down-to-earth, low-key, humble and peaceful, always hiding and converging on the edge. Even if you are very good, you never show off. This is because they understand that true strength does not need to be spoken.
Finally, Master Hongyi once said, "Those who can work tirelessly in a hopeless situation will eventually achieve something." "It is a great wisdom to be able to withstand in the face of adversity and let go when it is successful. But if a child occupies one of them, then he is not simple, but don't underestimate his future achievements.