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Tang Ruoxin learns original works, and those who violate them will be investigated
In life, we need to understand that the highest state of inner strength is compassion. Compassion is a perspective of understanding others, but also the perspective of understanding all things, and when you can connect with all things, your inner compassion will emerge and natural life will be stronger.
When you understand that the state of mind cultivation is compassion, you may understand that a good life is to cultivate our own understanding of others, but also to cultivate our own inner tolerance, as well as our ability to choose, if we want to become compassionate, please work hard from several aspects.
First, the ability to be compatible, to learn to understand everything
Man is known as a higher animal because he can think and understand, and the ability to be compatible is the basis of compassion.
Wang Yangming's psychology tells that there is nothing outside the mind, and in essence, the world we see is a self-reflecting world. So there is no absolute right or wrong.
Compassion is essentially about letting go of judgment and seeing the world he sees through the other person's perspective. The reason why everyone is suffering is also because they live in their own world and cling to their own suffering.
If we know how to see the world from someone else's point of view, when your perspective and vision are getting wider and wider, we can get away from suffering.
The essence of compassion is to see the points that the other person is clinging to, and when you know how to improve yourself from the overall perspective, your life channel will open, and naturally your future will become more and more extensive.
The ability to understand others is the basis of compassion, and in fact, a person with a strong heart must have a strong compassion, they are not indifferent, but they become more and more compassionate because they see everything in the world with a pair of deep eyes.
If we want to be compassionate, we must let go of our own criticism and judgment, but really feel the other person's world, the more you can feel the other person's world, the more you can establish the most accurate connection with the other person.
Second, do something and don't do something
A truly compassionate person often knows how to do something and not to do something. When we have compassion within us, we will deeply understand that in this world, the most important thing is to learn to love others and not to say hurtful words.
Doing something and not doing something is essentially understanding that people and people influence each other. In essence, what we do has a profound impact on others.
People who are truly compassionate rarely say hurtful things, because they know that if they hurt people, they will continue to hurt others like daggers.
If we want to truly improve ourselves, the most important thing for us is to learn to improve our ability to love, not to say abusive words, not to say hurtful words.
When you want to insult others, the most important thing for you is to change your state of mind and learn to say words that bless others. When you know how to bless others, you will also receive blessings from others.
I once met a mentor who said that no matter what others say to you, you bless the other person, and you will find that the other person will not continue to scold, but will stop.
So compassion is the most powerful person in the heart, when you use your love to love each other, you will touch the other party, but also make yourself better.
Only a person with compassion can truly transcend himself and others. If you know how to continue to cross yourself, you can continue to cross others.
If we want to make ourselves strong in our hearts, we must choose to say words of blessing, which is the foundation of our strong life.
Third, you don't need to prove yourself, but do the right thing
If we want to make our hearts stronger, the most important thing is that we don't need to prove ourselves. Many students have reported to me that when he needs to prove himself, you will find that his heart is extremely lacking.
When you let go of the need to prove your mind and instead focus on doing the right thing, your energy will rise rapidly.
When a person continues to prove herself, she does all kinds of things to consider other people's ideas, other people's approval is crucial for them, and once others do not recognize themselves, they will feel very discouraged.
And the real growth is to return to their original intentions, to continue to do the right things, is to do altruistic and self-interested things. When you grow no longer to prove yourself, but only to accept your own life, your growth path will be opened infinitely.
On the Internet, it was told that a student told me that he was living in pain every day, this pain is living in comparison every day, unable to be happy, unable to grow, every day when he sees what others are doing, he will feel as if he is going to slow down.
When she and I established a long-term counseling channel, I told each other that you don't need to prove yourself, when you go back to the origin of things, think about what you need to do most, when you have been doing the right thing, you don't need to think about whether you are slower than others.
The best growth is to find their own rhythm, both to appreciate themselves and others, not to treat everyone as competitors, in fact, the best growth is a win-win situation, each other is a symbiotic system, this is our best attitude to this system.
When you know how to symbiosis instead of competing with each other, you will find that your continuous growth and optimization will lead more people to become better and better.
The essence of compassion is not to prove that they are very powerful, in fact, everyone is more powerful than imagined, compassion is to expand their own life, to expand their understanding of life, is to learn to build a common and inclusive life process.
When you grasp the three essential connotations of compassion, your inner passage will open, and naturally your inner life will become better with the opening of life.
Today's topic: Do you think compassion is the highest state of inner strength, welcome to discuss and communicate.