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01. Preface
The road of life is like a long journey. During the journey, some people choose to travel together; some people choose to go alone.
In real life, the weak are like ants, like to hug the group for warmth, while the strong are like tigers, who naturally like to walk alone.
In fact, it is not social, but also an attitude to life.
People who are born lonely and choose to live in groups, as if "many people have great strength", seem to make their hearts feel safe, but in the complicated interpersonal relationships, they gradually lose their self-pursuit.
Zhou Guoping said: "Many people's so-called maturity is only worn away by customs and has become sophisticated and practical. It is not maturity, but the premature aging of the spirit and the demise of individuality. True maturity should be the formation of a unique personality, the discovery of the true self, the spiritual result and harvest. ”
People who always want to fit in, often anxious and miserable in order to fit into the circle that is not suitable for them. Not only did it take too much time and effort.
And people with strong hearts have long chosen to be out of place. They have clear goals, have their own independent thoughts, have more time and energy, work hard for their ideal life, and live more authentically.
02, people who do not fit in with each other often prefer to rely on themselves
People who do not fit in with each other live more independently. No matter how big things you encounter, you will not ask others for help at the first time, but will find ways to solve the problem on your own.
People who do not fit in have long learned to rely on themselves and learn to strengthen themselves.
In life, gregarious people are always attached to others, and over time they lose the motivation to be self-motivated, stay in their own comfort zone, and do not want to move forward alone.
Gregarious people are prone to being in other people's circles and changing their goals. Or, when encountering difficulties, they become dependent on the people around them, and their self-growth is very slow.
People who don't fit in often prefer to rely on themselves and get the life they want through their own efforts.
People who don't fit in, once they have a goal in mind, will go all out. Not only do you have the courage to fight, but also the endurance to accept failure, and you have the courage to get up from wherever you fall.
On the road of life, people who do not fit in have long relied on themselves, enjoyed different scenery in this world, and tasted more joy of success.
03, people who do not fit in, know what they want
People who don't fit in have long learned to reconcile with themselves and know what they want.
In Mr. Yang Chen's time, many people did not agree with the fact that women did academics, but she did not care about the views of the outside world.
Yang Daixian was admitted to Tsinghua University with his own efforts and created many excellent works.
Although she has experienced a lot of hardships in her life, she has not easily compromised with life, and has not chosen to be gregarious, but in the time of solitude, in the field she is best at.
In life, the voice of the outside world is just a reference, and if you don't want to listen to it, you don't need a reference.
People who are easy to fit in often do not know what they want, and always want to find a circle as a bridge to realize their dreams in life. However, gregarious, often loses the self.
The greatest value of living a lifetime is to live as you like. People who do not fit in with the community know the direction of their lives, and they will go through the storm and move forward with one heart.
In the world, being loyal to oneself and living like oneself is a kind of success.
04, people who do not fit in, have a strong heart
People who don't fit in, have a strong heart. No matter how much wind and rain there is in this world, he is not afraid.
People who are alone, tough and strong at heart, dare to deal with the trivialities and endless tests of life. People who easily fit in often prefer to "use" the power of others to solve their own problems.
Yu Xiuhua said: "I resent the injustice of living life, but fortunately, the real joy comes from the depths of the soul, not from the outside. ”
People who do not fit in have a strong heart, carry everything on their own, and live more tenaciously than ordinary people.
A person's blessing is hidden in "unsociable".
In life, those who do not fit in, a person is a team, in the ups and downs of the experience of constantly hone their will, become a better self.
People with strong hearts can live easier and happier lives without pandering to others and slowly pursuing the life they want.
05. Summary
People who are middle-aged, unsociable, are more blessed.
In life, not being social is the norm. It is more blessed to be middle-aged, stay away from the circle that consumes you, and be an unsociable person.
The so-called three views are different and do not need to be integrated.
Have independent thinking, do not need the approval of others at all, do not need to doubt themselves because of other people's unfriendly remarks, go their own way, let others say go!
When people reach middle age, their lives are more than halfway through, and only by making their hearts stronger can they live happier in the second half of their lives.
People who don't fit in are often better able to achieve themselves, not to cater to anyone, but to do what they really want to do.
An unsociable person, not afraid of loneliness, spiritually independent, strong at heart.
Useless socializing is a waste of life, and in the second half of life, you should spend time and energy on people and things that are worthwhile, and be a blessed person on your own.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.