People with strong hearts will not easily back down no matter what they do.
In their life creed, there will be no halfway, negative emotions piled up of these things, they advocate positive optimism, good at wasting time on themselves, wasted on meaningful things.
When our hearts are strong enough, the bumps in life are not enough to worry about, because we know that there is no obstacle in life that cannot be overcome, and if there is, it must be in people's hearts.
It is the obstacle in people's hearts that tripped their feet, causing them to give up many opportunities that should have been better and to be willing to be mediocre.
Strong inside is so good, we naturally hope that we can become strong people.
Because it means that we don't feel sorry for ourselves for a small unsatisfactory thing, we are miserable, and we lose hope in many things.
Psychological research has shown that only women with strong hearts are prone to see three scenes.
Effective socializing, based on equal exchange of values, rather than flattery and waste of time
People are always easy to confuse loneliness with solitude, thinking that being alone is lonely, and having no friends and not getting along is lonely.
Loneliness is the state embodied by a person, a person's loneliness, and a group of people are still lonely.
Being alone is the state of mind embodied by a person, even if they are not social, even if they are alone, their hearts are still rich and quiet.
In real life, many people establish so-called social relationships by pleasing others in order to avoid social mismatches.
In fact, this social approach doesn't make any sense, because it doesn't provide us with practical value, it's just a waste of time.
Effective socializing is based on equal exchange of values, not flattery and waste of time.
The philosopher Russell said: "Much of a happy life depends on tranquility, because only in the quiet air can true joy dwell." ”
If life is just to find the so-called hilarity in the community, then such a life becomes meaningless.
The most precious sound is not in harmony with the public, so the boya is out of string; the most precious treasure is not good to the crowd, so Bian and weeping jade.
Friends, it's about quality, not quantity.
If there are confidants, one or two are enough, and more will appear crowded;
If you don't know yourself and adjust your mentality, you can still become the confidant who knows you best.
Life is too full to appear crowded, and life needs to be cut off regularly
People with strong hearts must be full of all kinds of wisdom in their lives, and among these wisdoms, the most important point is to learn to break away and learn to subtract from their own lives.
In life, we have all encountered such a scene: a lot of things are obviously useless, but we are just reluctant to throw them, and finally the living space is occupied by these useless things;
A relationship has obviously become the past, but we still can't get out, every day is still a sad face, tea does not think about food;
We obviously can't complete one thing, and there is no point in trying our best, but we are still unwilling to give up, or continue to invest costs.
These scenes are undoubtedly making our lives crowded, so that our living space, emotions and hearts are filled with some unimportant things, so that we cannot experience a sense of refreshment, ease and pleasure.
If we want to be happy, we need to learn to give up.
The embodiment of the wisdom of life that is most wanted is to be able to distinguish what you can control and what you cannot control.
For those things that cannot be done, the best thing to do is to go with the flow;
For those things at our disposal, we must work hard, do not consider what the final result will be, that will affect our state of mind, but also go with the flow.
Being too kind is not a good thing, and being kind enough to grow teeth is the best way
Cai Minmin in the TV series "The Next Stop is Happiness" is a girl with a particularly soft personality, she has a good family and does not have that kind of squeamishness.
So, this makes her roommates crazy jealous of her, using her expensive skin care products, while at the same time slandering her and belittling her.
In the face of this situation, ordinary people have long been unable to bear it, but Cai Minmin thought that it was a blessing to suffer losses, and it was better to do more than less, and patience passed.
However, her tolerance, her tolerance, made those roommates more intense.
It can be seen that excessive kindness is not good for some people with suspicious intentions, but it will also become a weakness used by the other party to hurt themselves.
Kazuo Inamori once said: "When a person lives, he must be a good person with a sharp edge, strong when he is strong, weak when he is weak, good when he encounters good, and evil when he encounters evil." Turn your face when you should turn your face, so that people can see your bottom line. ”
Kindness is a good thing, but the premise must also be based on unharmed interests, rather than ignoring one's own feelings and just blindly tolerating others. Kindness can only grow teeth so that it will not become a weakness for others to hurt themselves.