In our daily lives, we inevitably have to communicate with others. Chat is a great way to get to know each other and build relationships, but there are some topics that may not be suitable for frequent conversations. We always need to understand the 3 points that we should talk about as little as possible no matter who we talk to, and I hope it will help you communicate better.
1. Talk less about your secrets
In the psychologist's view, there is a specific need for privacy deep within each person.
When we excessively share our secrets unreservedly, it is likely to cause a certain level of stress on the other person.
After all, there is a limit to everyone's ability to bear secrets.
At the same time, if secrets are accidentally leaked, it may lead to a series of unnecessary troubles that we do not expect, which may disrupt our otherwise peaceful lives.
"There is no impermeable wall in the world" is a profound reminder that even if we firmly believe that the other person is trustworthy, there is still no absolute guarantee that the secret will not be spread.
On top of that, if we talk about our secrets too often in the chat, it can give them the impression that we are too dependent on them, which can easily lead to resentment in the long run.
So, whether from the perspective of protecting ourselves or taking care of the other person's feelings, we should strive to learn to keep secrets.
We need to understand that keeping some of our own space and privacy will not only not affect our relationships with others, but may make them stronger and healthier.
When communicating with others, we need to know how to be in a balanced way, neither overly closed ourselves nor overly revealing our secrets, and establish good interaction and communication with others in a balanced way.
2. Talk less about other people's gossip
In chats, talking about other people's gossip is often a controversial behavior. We can't be sure of the veracity of gossip, which can cause unnecessary harm to others.
Also, paying too much attention to other people's gossip can also make us appear less confident and insecure.
"No comment on the full picture of the unknown", we should not easily evaluate or speculate about others without hard evidence.
This not only hurts others, but also affects our own image. Instead, we can try to talk about something positive and meaningful, which will increase our understanding of each other and make the conversation more enjoyable.
In addition, talking excessively about other people's gossip may violate the privacy and dignity of others.
Everyone has their own life and privacy, and we should respect the choices and decisions of others and avoid interfering too much in the lives of others.
If we accidentally talk about other people's privacy, it can cause unnecessary trouble and distress to others, and even affect our relationships with others.
In conclusion, in chatting, we should respect the privacy and dignity of others and avoid talking excessively about other people's gossip.
We can try to talk about something positive and meaningful, which will not only improve our understanding of each other, but also make the conversation more enjoyable.
At the same time, we should also pay attention to our words and deeds, and do not cause unnecessary harm and distress to others.
Only in this way can we build good relationships and make our lives better.
3. Talk less about negative emotions
Everyone is a carrier of emotions, and they have their own emotions such as joys, sorrows, and sorrows.
However, over-expressing negative emotions can have a negative impact on the other person, causing them to feel tired and depressed.
When we are chatting with others, we should try to be as positive as possible and share things that are full of joy and meaning.
If we keep complaining and complaining, then the other person is likely to think that we are an extremely negative person, and in the long run, it will inevitably have a negative impact on the relationship between us.
"Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June", this sentence profoundly reminds us that we should learn to use positive language to express our inner feelings.
In this way, not only will the other person feel truly comfortable, but it will also make us happier.
Of course, in life, we will inevitably encounter real difficulties or setbacks, and at such times, we can appropriately confide in the other person to seek some understanding and support.
But we must not rely too much on each other, we must learn to adjust our mentality, face difficulties and setbacks positively, and live with a stronger and more optimistic attitude.
Only in this way can we create a more harmonious and positive atmosphere in our communication with others, and make our relationships stronger and better.
We need to understand that our emotional state is not only about our own well-being, but also has a significant impact on those around us, so try to keep our emotions at a healthy, positive level.
In conclusion, when chatting, we should respect the other person's feelings and avoid oversharing our own secrets, talking about other people's gossip, and expressing negative emotions.
This not only allows us to communicate better, but also builds healthier and more stable relationships. I hope everyone can have fun and grow in the chat.