Text: Jing Ma
The book "La Traviata" mentions: Money is a good servant and a bad master.
A wise person will harness money, become the master of money, let money be his servant, and serve him, while some low-level people are easy to become slaves of money, that is, money is his master, and everything looks to money......
Psychologists believe that everything in children is learned, that is, children's growth needs to be constantly learned, and how to use money to make money their own slaves also need to be learned, this kind of learning should be learned when children are young, do not wait for children to grow up, adults before children learn to use money, so it is easy to have problems. #头条创作挑战赛#
Jing's mother has a classmate who said that her daughter lives at home from elementary school to high school, because she is worried that her daughter will eat all kinds of messy things outside and worry that her daughter will play games, so she has never given her daughter pocket money, and always helps her buy whatever her daughter wants.
When her daughter went to college, she directly chose a university thousands of miles away from home, and when she went to college, she simply let herself go, she felt that her daughter had grown up, and she should be relaxed at this time, so she gave her daughter 10,000 yuan for a semester's food expenses.
Unexpectedly, my daughter called her just two months later and said: Mom, I have run out of money, I have been eating instant noodles for a week, and I really can't do it anymore, so you can send me some money.
The classmate was very surprised, she gave her daughter 10,000 yuan a month, even if it was at least 2,000 yuan a month, you must know that many college students only have 1,000 yuan a month for living expenses, and she gave 2,000 is already a lot, but she didn't expect her daughter to spend so much, so she asked her daughter what she bought? My daughter said I don't know, anyway, it's just gone......
When she complained to me, I asked her if she had never given her children pocket money when she was young, and she said yes. I said, "Your child has never learned how to use money, so how can you make her learn how to use money all at once?"
And after the child goes to primary school, he will pay more attention to his partnership, and will talk to his classmates very intimately about various problems and things, and when he finds out that his classmates have pocket money, but he does not, he will feel that he is different.
And if a classmate has pocket money, he may buy some snacks to share with other classmates, and he will be cheeky to rub a little snack with his classmates at first, and then he will feel embarrassed, or he will be said by his classmates that he is stingy, greedy, etc., which will also make him feel very embarrassed, so what should I do? It can only be said that reaching for your mother's purse is stealing money.
Therefore, as a parent, we must pay attention to the fact that giving children pocket money is the best way to cultivate children's view of money, and when the child goes to primary school, you must give your child pocket money, otherwise it is easy to cause children to steal money, if your child steals money, you should not blame the child, you should reflect on whether you have not helped your child establish a correct view of money, and have not trained your child how to use money.
It is recommended that children should cultivate a correct view of money when they are in primary school, and give the decision to spend money to the child, and when they first start to give their children pocket money, they can give it once a day, slowly once every three days, once a week, once a half month, or once a month, so that children can learn to plan the use of their own money, and gradually cultivate children's sense of ownership.
When giving children pocket money, keep in mind the "four ones" in order to make children the masters of money
First: a right
How to use pocket money is the child's freedom, do not interfere excessively, otherwise it will not serve the purpose of letting the child learn to use money.
Second: a responsibility
Let the child know that he has pocket money and have to bear all the consequences of money, for example, the child originally wanted to save money to buy a toy that he liked very much, but when he went out today, he couldn't help but eat a delicious ice cream, so he had to bear the responsibility of postponing the toy or not being able to buy it temporarily.
Third: a scope
It is necessary to tell the child in advance where it can be used, for example, you can't buy toxic and harmful things, you can't eat those spicy strips that are harmful to the body, and this agreement is to be agreed in advance, if there is no agreement, the child can't punish the child for buying these things, because there is no agreement and no punishment.
Fourth: a convention
The agreement is equivalent to a contract, which cannot be easily broken, for example, the child's recent test results are not very good, and it cannot be said that the pocket money is canceled, because the pocket money is the agreement between the child and the parents.
Children learn to use money when they are young, so that they will not be trapped by money when they grow up, and they can be happy.
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